Forming Good Habits

“Who is strong? He that can conquer his bad habits. Each year one vicious habit rooted out, in time might make the worst man good throughout” (Benjamin Franklin). It’s not likely long-term, or healthy, to keep personal and professional lives separate. Eventually, the inconsistency will show up, resulting in ill health or failed compromise. People can turn from crime, becoming productive law-abiding citizens. Every moment of each new day, we all have the power, opportunity, and privilege to choose good over evil. Use the law of replacing bad habits with good habits. Self-restraint only takes one so far, therefore make and place healthy habits on autopilot. Triumphant victory belongs to you and me!

Plan, Share, Create, Grow

“Everyone has a plan until they get punched in the face” (Mike Tyson). Troubles and set-backs can and do happen, but without a plan in place, failing is the plan. Knowing God’s plan trumps mine grants me peace to keep on keeping on.

“It’s better to have a bruised ego, than a lifetime of regret” (Author unknown). Going against the grain, breaking the mold, creating a path when none exists, offering possible life-giving services, is courage at its best. Go for it—help others. Live out your dreams!

Sharing messages of hope only takes willingness. Being bold and brave entails showing up and doing something to help others, despite possible criticism or embarrassment. Why not share a story of direct or indirect triumph to encourage and inspire others through challenging times? Lighten the burden of others via your personal story of victory. Transformation occurs from the inside out, which can be activated by an inspiring true experience and a spark of encouragement. Stay humble, letting go of an over-sized ego. Don’t waste hurt, trials, and burdens overcome. Share them with the world so others can benefit, knowing they are not alone in their pain and heartache. Strive to be a better person.

Defeating Anxiety

Any anticipatory anxiety or fear of future events can be mitigated and abated by facing them bravely, head on. For example, rather than trying to avoid making a specific mistake during a speech, go out and try to create this blunder and it probably won’t happen. At least instead of worrying about a future slip up, which likely will not occur, you can now rest peacefully, living fully, today. Practicing this strategy for most worries may just lead to no more foreboding. Additionally, stop looking at storms of yesterdays in the rear view mirror, lest depression set in, stealing moments, hours, days, months and possibly years, which otherwise could be abundant joy and laughter. The past is gone—it will never return, the future is full of glorious wonders, and the moment is tranquility, love, and peace because you choose it so.  


Major neurotransmitters and hormones that create positive or negative effects on us include dopamine, serotonin, endorphins, oxytocin, cortisol, and epinephrine. Dopamine aids in concentration, motivation, and is responsible for our reward feedback loop. Dopamine is released in response to eating, consuming caffeine and sugar, gambling, pornography, sex, alcohol, shopping, smoking cigarettes and consuming other nicotine releasing substances, illicit stimulants, and various things that feel good to us. Dopamine releasing behaviors done carelessly or irresponsibly can give us a temporary state of feeling good, thus the rewarding response facilitates cyclical repetitive behavioral patterns. In the long run, poor behaviors have the potential to wreak havoc on ourselves and everyone around us. Alternatively, healthy ways to elevate the neurotransmitter dopamine include physical activity, meditation, sunlight, hobbies, music, love-making, massage, and other enjoyable and beneficial activities. What beneficial modalities are you incorporating each day to increase dopamine in your life? What nonproductive activities and habits can be eradicated and replaced with productive responsible routines?

You Are Not Your Mistakes

“It’s good to learn from your mistakes. It’s better to learn from other people’s mistakes” (Warren Buffet). We will not live long enough to make every mishap available, while experiencing myriads of negative consequences is unnecessary. We tend to create needless personal problems by telling ourselves it is necessary to mess up in order to learn. Wisdom gained through personal experience can be beneficial with the right truths, lenses, and positive mental attitudes (PMAs) on board now or in time, although real blunders are not mandatory precursors to greatness.

Succumbing to the allure of sinful pleasures in any realm of life may not only manifest gradual physical, spiritual, and mental torment, but instant death. Enticing societal pressures can be resisted by creating personal awareness leading to radical reformation metamorphosis. Knowing what to do is extremely important, as is understanding what not to do in life.


“A people that values its privileges above its principles soon loses both” (Dwight D. Eisenhower). We must learn to stand alone, while relying on our developed and ingrained principles to maintain our integrity. Principles are rudimentary personal truths that help guide our beliefs, behaviors, and choices, in turn, breaking, hindering or strengthening our self-esteem and self-reliance. Success comes from within, not from without. Let’s develop and maintain an upright character now and always, therefore generating electrically charged cyclical reverberating vibrant energy baked into our core.


Dreams can be achieved once definitive crystal clear decisions are made, combined with self-belief and massive immediate action. Be a dream catcher with a backbone, not a dreamer with a wishbone. Act without excuses, complaining, procrastinating, or blaming. Nothing great can be achieved without doing, coupled with unstoppable perseverance.

“We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark. The real tragedy is when men are afraid of the light” (Plato). One decision can change the entire trajectory of a person’s life. We have a choice to live with or without God. Open the floodgates of your heart, allowing relational intimacy with thy soul. Embracing the divine beats spiritual lack, abandonment, or refusal hands down.

             Spirituality can enhance the depth of internal courage and gratitude. Remember that it’s difficult to be fearful and grateful or brave, simultaneously. Deity-based religions about spirituality focus on decreasing pain and suffering, while increasing love, peace, and compassionate joy. We don’t have to make excuses or let complaining, blaming, and rationalizing why certain people within religions exemplify poor examples to follow. We can do our part by living and directing our lives toward goodness, greatness, grace, love, peace, blessings, hope, appreciation, and an abundant fruit-filled presence and future within each facet of our lives.

             Diamonds’ intrinsic value and extrinsic beauty are based upon cut, clarity, color, and carat. Cut describes symmetry and arrangement of facets, which allows refraction to produce exquisite dazzling colors and sparkle. Clarity refers to the amount, size, and location of inner inclusions and outer imperfections. Color increases value when there is none. Carat depicts how much a stone weighs. When the four C’s are each optimally sculpted together, internal worth and external attractiveness increase substantially.

Which facades of ostensibly brilliant color need to be removed or changed for developing radically transparent honesty, in turn, growing greatness from within, not from without? Do you need more or less temperance, self-discipline, negative mental attitudes, positive mental attitudes, poor behaviors, healthy routines, unhealthy environments, encouraging friends, corruptible influences, impactful mentors, fatal resentment, forgiving freedom, among myriads more good or bad outcomes because of personal choices, impregnating your character composition and life? Allow negativity to transmute into positivity by acting, doing, executing, and repeating superb conduct, upright principles, noble moral codes, and life-giving philosophies. Self-reflection and embracing honorable verities are musts. Moreover, practicing seemingly ceaseless repetitions of good, while thinking less, creates onward, upward, and heavenward trajectories toward actualizing dreams come true.

We are the craftsmen and craftswomen of our lives possessing great abilities to shape our passions, purpose, talents, and life, which, in turn, creates invaluable intangibles in us and working for us, despite mistakes and flaws. What may be perceived as mishaps and defects make us original and beautiful. Everything that has happened in your life molded you into the beautiful person you are. Recognizing that life happens for us and not to us has transformational powers.

Each of us has significant power and immeasurable treasures waiting to be unearthed into existence. How much more passion, beauty, and vivacious scintillating vibrancy exudes from being you? Create each facet of your life to be harmoniously balanced and beautiful, starting from the inside out. Carve, sculpt, and design your individual cut, clarity, color, and carat intentionally, with meaning, precision, and purpose. You owe it to yourself and the world to be the best version of yourself. Do your part, starting now.

The starter pistol has been fired. Why are you still reading this? Seriously, get busy doing, being, and giving more. Think less, so you can do, be, and give more, beginning now. Ten seconds ago was the best time to launch toward your dreams, right now is the second best time.


Let’s be allegiant to our celestial lands of radical unity and harmonious love, serving essential ideals wholeheartedly in all thinking, speaking, and doing. May our attitudes, behaviors and principles of thought correlate with our deep-seated values, leading to divine peace and greatness. Compassionate loving kindness is pragmatically useful being we can help mitigate pain and suffering through generous gifts of thought, word, and deed. Allow permeated truths to dwell in the center of your soul, embracing virtues of excellence as foundational standards for guidance, direction, meaning, and purpose.

Build Self-Confidence

“Be like a promontory against which the waves continually break, but it stands firm and tames the fury of the water around it” (Marcus Aurelius). You are stronger and braver than you think. Create an intangible moat built of self-confidence, mental toughness, and fortitude, which surrounds your castle that is impenetrable to enemy forces. Focus on small daily rituals that prime self-confidence and positive lingering moods through small incremental wins leading to colossal victory.