“Things don’t change, but by and by our wishes change” (Marcel Proust). Opportunities to grow and accomplish more manifest as our desires change. You can achieve whatever goals you truly and adamantly yearn for. Challenge yourself more in order to overcome average, because you are extraordinary.
“For myself I am an optimist—it does not seem to be much use being anything else” (Sir Winston Churchill). Remain optimistic and of good cheer about yourself and others. Be tactful and thoughtful with requests. Diplomatically ask, teach, and suggest to people what they may want, and request permission for things you desire without being demanding.
After diligently working the same job for over two years a deserved vacation was assumed. At 21 years of age I told my boss about going on a planned trip to Spain for approximately one month, which necessitated that time off. The response to this unsolicited demand was an adamant denial. With further exploration and insight, asking to vacation in China for roughly the same duration was wise. The request was gladly granted by simply asking and not demanding. People will likely give us our desires through genuinely being thoughtful, polite, helpful, and considerate toward their views and desires.
“Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering” (Yoda). Be appreciative for all parts of your journey. Both the challenging and difficult times in life make us who we are. Live intentionally with a passionate purpose. In every situation, ask yourself, “What opportunity awaits me here?” Be a good-finder by seeking and expecting good, and you will find and have it.
If feeling you must complain about something, talk with the person who can do something about it. Ideally, have or seek a practical solution prior to speaking. People or innocent bystanders are not garbage dispensers for your trash and verbal flatus. Being brave and wise enough to seek your manager, spouse, human resource department, coach, counselor or professional whom can most aptly help resolve your complaints is essential to success. We are each responsible and accountable for our own success and places in life; nobody else is to blame. Consistently live with a mental picture at the forefront of your mind about how you desire to live your life.
“Happy is the man ‘or woman’ who has broken the chains which hurt the mind, and has given up worrying, once and for all” (Ovid). Women’s testosterone levels typically range 10-50 ng/dL, while men’s blood serum norms are between 300-1000 ng/dL, hence becoming bulky is extremely rare and difficult to achieve for the female population. People that body build typically force feed themselves high caloric foods to become and remain muscle-bound. The point is that if you are a woman, don’t concern yourself with becoming bulky. It’s not going to happen unless you intentionally lift weights strategically for hypertrophy each day, while consuming massive amounts of calories. Additionally, a woman with high testosterone levels is extremely rare. Don’t worry, be happy by working out, today.
“The difference between life and the movies is that a script has to make sense, and life doesn’t” (Joseph L. Mankiewicz). Don’t follow or succumb to characters in fictitious movies, which are not true representations of actual joy-filled lives. Life is real and takes hard work all around that is not depicted in most movies and novels. The excessively bolstered esteem characters portray might very well be animated fabricated facades and illusions, not to be trusted. Don’t be misled by mirages not based in reality. Learn from inspirational and wholesome movies. Stop allowing vices toward violence, disrespect, anger, profanity, and lax standards sway the goodness that truthfully resonates in the core of your soul.
Exercise can release endogenous endorphins, dopamine, and serotonin, thus producing natural peak mental states of feeling phenomenal. Illicit drugs and deadly foods containing cosmic amounts of salt, sugar, and saturated fats are not necessary to get an unsustainable fleeting high, which may lead toward requiring more of an unhealthy stimulus to obtain similar effects. The problem with poor habits, such as eating excessively, gambling, smoking, extreme shopping beyond one’s means, or illicit drug use is that they all release dopamine that binds to dopanergic receptors, thus giving a temporary state of feeling good. That brief state leads to more consumption or possibly looking for other harmful and unhealthy ways to achieve those short-lived feelings.
“We are here to laugh at the odds and live our lives so well that death will tremble to take us” (Charles Bukowski). Continual growth and progress are pivotal keys toward living fully, therefore dying full, yet spent. You can’t spend your way to monetary wealth, only long-term joy fulfilling wealth. Remember to start where you are with what you have. No excuses, blaming, complaining, self-pity, regret, shame, or procrastination allowed. Get intentionally busy filling yourself up with greatness so you can spend yourself in an extravagant, yet selfless manner.
“I speak truth, not so much as I would, but as much as I dare; and I dare a little more, as I grow older” (Catherine Drinker Bowen). Truths shared can brighten the loneliest and darkest holes of downward cyclical utter despair. Relentlessly seek and share personal truths and be exonerated from any black frightful abyss, which may be consuming your heavenly soul. No profit or earthly treasure is worth exchanging your own soul to acquire. Now is the time to get up out of that dastardly hole of despair and courageously crush through walls of darkness so you, too, can live in light of newly found truths!
“A lie gets halfway around the world before the truth has a chance to get its pants on” (Sir Winston Churchill). Lies, misery, gossip, and negativity hazardously attract themselves, thus avoid them like the plague. Live with radically transparent honesty and truth, which will produce wonderful blessings of tranquility, self-confidence, and trust throughout your life journey.