Why do some people succeed, while others do not? It’s easy to, and it’s easy not to. Once we get momentum by pushing that snowball up the hill and then letting it coast down the mountain while growing in size and speed with ease, our lives become much more fruitful.
“Anything in life worth having is worth working for” (Andrew Carnegie). The instant we decide to do something and act upon that choice we begin to grow. Life is about progress, growth, purpose, and giving. We can do what’s easy today and live a difficult life, or we can do what’s hard now and live an easy life. I choose the latter and hope you do the same.
Harness more feelings of love and gratitude to drown out negative mental states incorporating fear and doubt. Don’t be too safe because of what you’ve experienced, or what someone may have said or done to you. Be recklessly courageous and responsible, constantly moving forward. Build your character as a solid foundation toward the path to greatness. Peak elite performers in life achieve greatness through choices upheld by personal convictions, self-discipline, relentless pursuits for profit, desiring to leave future generations better off financially, being humble enough to give others credit, among other intrinsic motivators. Don’t make it too complicated.
“I have always thought the actions of men the best interpreters of their thoughts” (John Locke). Sometimes we need to get out of our own way, while striving for greatness. Do more and think less to avoid paralysis by analysis. Emotions are fleeting, while enduring habits are byproducts of the stuff we think and do every day that leads to success.
Furthermore, avoid making life-altering or rash decisions while physically ill, tired, stressed, or in emotional turmoil. Don’t become your worst enemy. Circumstances will likely be misrepresented and choices poorly managed. Wait until you are back in a peak mental state before critically deciding. This is especially true about becoming married and continuing or dissolving relationships, among myriads of other critical choices.
“Success is dependent on effort” (Sophocles). Put forth the effort and work like your life depended on it, because it just might. Let your diligent habitual work ethic empower and motivate you to succeed, like oxygen keeping every cell in your body alive. Do not lower your standards, lest neglect, procrastination, and compromise devour dreams like a thief seeking to kill and destroy. Remember, we get what we tolerate, therefore settle for nothing less than your absolute best. Go to bed each night knowing you spent your passionate self completely, hence sleep like a baby without worry or concerns of any kind.
“The most pathetic person in the world is someone who has sight, but has no vision” (Helen Keller). Look for the good in people and ourselves, while desiring more abundance of health, wealth, love, and joy upon others. As an American author and speaker, Helen Keller became deaf and blind by 19 months of age and mute shortly thereafter because of a debilitating fever, yet she did not let that stop her from maintaining her vision and regaining her voice.¹¹ She was the first deaf and blind person to earn her Bachelor’s degree, in addition earning cum laude.¹² Helen Keller is a true inspiration to the world and a wonderful example for people with similar ailments. Now, people that are deaf and blind have infinitely more hope, knowing that success and true quality of living are possible through pure determination and unwavering faith. Many people acquiring various ailments and problems will not be the first nor the last, yet triumph through with resilience, courage, and a positive mental attitude. Don’t let negativity or seemingly unjust circumstances rob hope, joy, and love from your precious life.
“Success in life comes not from holding a good hand, but in playing a poor hand well” (Dennis Waitley). We can become, do, and accomplish anything desired once a radically transparent decision is made, backed with focused action and belief in ourselves. Work on you so you can live the extraordinary life you’re fully, utterly, and completely capable of living.
Disciplining our children is what we do for them through love, not to them as punishment. Children may fuss and complain now about not being able to stay out late, while other kids are doing it. American author and motivational speaker, Zig Ziglar, and other successful parents advocate to be enthusiastic and have an exciting home so other children desire to play there. Zig did this so he could see who his children were hanging out with and know what they were up to. Zig’s positive role modeling toward authentically being morally upright and doing good deeds, more so than just talking, allowed others to imitate that goodness observed.⁷ Walking the walk is much more influential and inspiring than only talking the talk. When our children become older, while not acquiring poor habits or succumbing to bad influences or harmful temptations, they will be grateful indeed. Don’t act or talk like someone you admire—be that person.
Moreover, teach kids they can accomplish incredible feats by removing the ‘t’ in can’t. Show them how to live by living and being the example. Teaching good money, moral, spiritual, relational, principal, health, and character habits will vastly improve long-term quality of life. No better instruction exists than children observing your consistent healthy, positive habits and lifestyle. Your kids will thank you for it, even if they don’t appreciate or know it yet.
“Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid” (John 14:27 NIV). Embrace the tranquility of divine grace and forgiveness, sprinkled with relentless faith and self-belief. Persistently working hard, coupled with self-efficacy and gratitude manifest wondrous achievements. Be grateful often and in much to counter fear and anger, which can bolster optimism, peace, and positive mental attitudes (PMAs).
“The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams” (Eleanor Roosevelt). Maintaining a PMA and proper perspective toward our targets makes achieving dreams fully attainable. Decide what you want to do, why, and do it. No excuses, blaming, criticizing, regret, self-pity, gossiping, or procrastination allowed. Excuses only hinder, null and void the pursuit of goals and dreams, therefore stop making them. If something doesn’t serve you and others, don’t do it. Stop digging and start building.
Major neurotransmitters and hormones that create positive or negative effects on us include dopamine, serotonin, endorphins, oxytocin, cortisol, and epinephrine. Dopamine aids in concentration, motivation, and is responsible for our reward feedback loop. Dopamine is released in response to eating, consuming caffeine and sugar, gambling, pornography, sex, alcohol, shopping, smoking cigarettes and consuming other nicotine releasing substances, illicit stimulants, and various things that feel good to us. Dopamine releasing behaviors done carelessly or irresponsibly can give us a temporary state of feeling good, thus the rewarding response facilitates cyclical repetitive behavioral patterns. In the long run, poor behaviors have the potential to wreak havoc on ourselves and everyone around us. Alternatively, healthy ways to elevate the neurotransmitter dopamine include physical activity, meditation, sunlight, hobbies, music, love-making, massage, and other enjoyable and beneficial activities. What beneficial modalities are you incorporating each day to increase dopamine in your life? What nonproductive activities and habits can be eradicated and replaced with productive responsible routines?