“In reading the lives of great men, I found that the first victory they won over themselves…, self-discipline with all of them came first” (Harry S. Truman). We all have a cognitive dissonance, whereas we want to change, know what we are doing is bad for us, yet we do it anyway. Temptation and instant gratification are powerful distractions getting in the way of achieving our aims. Why waste precious life unfulfilled, distant, and numb, when abundant joy is to be found and lived?
Try being credible to one’s self through positive consistency in thoughts, behaviors, words, and environmental standards. Be purposeful about who to associate with, guarding this area of life dearly. Trusting yourself is imperative toward forming and maintaining good habits. We reap and sow accordingly. Don’t focus on the price of something, but the value instead. This entails keeping high standards toward fruitful relationships, priorities, values, and investments, much more so than stuff. Keep in mind there is almost always a sacrificial tradeoff regarding what we spend our finite time doing. Please choose wisely.
Individuals may develop and succumb to myriads of bad habits to futilely, problematically, and temporarily escape or numb pain, resentment, and guilt from the past, present, or future. Harmful substances or poor rituals may mask regret, self-pity, and sorrow. People may just not understand the problematic effects caused by their actions until worry, distress, and suffering consumes them. The good news is that we have ultimate unlimited power to choose differently. Governing that responsibility toward generating massive sustainable energy and self-discipline to architect our lives takes guts, life-long daily endurance, determination, and unstoppable focus. Work on strengthening both self-awareness and other awareness or perceptions, regardless of your own beliefs. Be one hundred percent accountable for you. Control the controllable and forget about the rest.
As a kid did you ever play 3-2-1 blastoff or observe another child doing it? My son frequently played 3-2-1 blastoff, which I have adopted in the morning when the alarm goes off. I count 3-2-1 and make my feet hit the ground. Once I am up I have the energy to take on the day. Motion is a precursor to eliciting powerful emotions, which drive much of our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and actions. Similar to norepinephrine being the precursor to epinephrine (adrenaline) for the fight-or-flight response, putting ourselves in motion starts the day by moving us closer toward achieving what we desire.
Prove others and your past self, wrong, by proving your new self, right. Antagonistically, do what you think you cannot do, despite fear, uncertainty, and doubt. Do what motivates, inspires, ignites, and drives you toward achieving your goals. Ask yourself, “Is what I am doing each day the best way I can live my life? Am I truly giving my best efforts to live fully and on purpose right now? How can I use and develop my gifts, talents, skills, and abilities to further serve and help others eradicate bad habits, live abundantly, choose wisely, and accomplish dreams?” Completely accept yourself right where you are, while progressing toward further lifelong growth and development.
Furthermore, self-discipline is key toward achieving dreams come true. Self-discipline is saying yes when you want to say no, and saying no when you want to say yes. Pay now or pay later. Don’t forget this—paying the price of self-discipline now leads to an easy life later. Health, relationships, and money all compound graciously when we live accordingly, doing the right thing, day by day, habitually self-disciplined in our principles, values, and priorities. Know them well.
We can control our conscious mind, therefore reprogramming our subconscious mind. The conditioning we received into our subconscious mind from our parents, relatives, teachers and other environmental factors while growing up can be altered and improved upon. Our breathing is automatic, yet we can consciously control breathing, thus change our mood and how we feel. The same holds true to our automatic subconscious mind in relation to our conscious mind. Don’t allow circumstances to control you—rather, make opportunities out of discomfort through self-control, hard work, and constant and never ending improvement, thus leading to self-mastery.
Think of learning a new skill or observing a child acquire one. It took deliberate conscious effort. Riding a bicycle or learning to swim may have been scary at first, although once learned became automatic. Patience, courage, and deliberate intention produces results we desire when our want exceeds our fear. Tell yourself, “I am sick and tired of not achieving my aim. Do you mean it or not?” Write the goal down and get busy working on it day and night. Muster up the courage and just do it, leaving no excuses not to finish. Respect yourself enough to honor and complete your adamantly honorable desires. Persisting at anything long enough with sustained self-control will elicit all the blessings this world offers in direct relation to your endeavor and personal effort. Always do your best. What do you enjoy doing when time seemingly disappears? Why not do this more frequently and study the flow of your passions and desires more in depth?
“In the province of the mind, what one believes to be true either is true or becomes true” (John Lilly). Think about your thinking because thoughts become reality. Additionally, strong feelings make for strong action. While motion or behaviors can be the precursor to emotions, feelings can generate long-term behavior and perceptual change. Allowing the mind and body to be in harmony with both thinking and acting creates potential ripples of greatness. Thoughts have power to morph into moods and automatic reactions, which when lingering long enough, becomes part of who we are. Continual hard work, determination, willingness, self-reflection, personal awareness, and persistence are crucial keys toward sustaining transformative lives. Be passionate about what you’re doing and give it all you’ve got. Decide to be someone great because everyone else is taken.
“Teach your children right from wrong, and when they are grown they will still do right” (Proverbs 22:6 CEV). Compassionate parents discipline their children out of love, lest corruption manifest within. Let’s train our kids to learn self-discipline, perseverance, patience, organization, priorities, work ethic, honest communication, loving kindness, forgiveness, and other useful character traits and skills by allowing them to catch them from our daily consistent examples. Free choice is a great privilege that includes noble responsibility and unadulterated accountability. We can choose our actions, but not the consequences. Repercussions are opportunities for learning to grow smarter, wiser, and more resilient than before. Wise people learn that true freedom increases through routines, self-restraint, ethical behaviors, and delaying gratification. We can all harness considerable understanding with the right lenses and open-minded cooperative mental attitudes of thought, linking perception to transcendent brilliance.
Ideally, remain sexually moral and wed while both remain virgins. The monogamous, self-disciplined, and delayed gratifying practice can create long satisfying marriages. Don’t sell yourself short by living a passive and lenient custom by giving your beautiful and invaluable self away freely or hastily without divine mutual harmonious commitment. Don’t risk acquiring gonorrhea, chlamydia, syphilis, HIV or an unwanted pregnancy just for fleeting moments of pleasure.
“It is easier for a father to have children than for children to have a father” (Pope John XXIII). Will a child have true security, unconditional love and acceptance, excellent role models to emulate, and both parents’ physical and positive emotional presence that can provide for his or her maturing needs? The surest way to prevent an undesirable outcome is to avoid sex before marriage. Thoughts are precursors to continual action. Growing temptation resistance muscles starts in private through our daily life-giving rituals.
“It’s good to learn from your mistakes. It’s better to learn from other people’s mistakes” (Warren Buffet). We will not live long enough to make every mishap available, while experiencing myriads of negative consequences is unnecessary. We tend to create needless personal problems by telling ourselves it is necessary to mess up in order to learn. Wisdom gained through personal experience can be beneficial with the right truths, lenses, and positive mental attitudes (PMAs) on board now or in time, although real blunders are not mandatory precursors to greatness.
Succumbing to the allure of sinful pleasures in any realm of life may not only manifest gradual physical, spiritual, and mental torment, but instant death. Enticing societal pressures can be resisted by creating personal awareness leading to radical reformation metamorphosis. Knowing what to do is extremely important, as is understanding what not to do in life.