Autonomy, Self-Control, Competence, Happiness

“You cannot always control what goes on outside. But you can always control what goes on inside” (Wayne Dyer). Have you ever used excuses to justify not doing something? How about criticizing, arguing, blaming, or complaining to rationalize behavior? Do you procrastinate, knowing that tasks need to be completed or a homework assignment or work project is imminently due, which should take priority? Were excuses, arguing, criticism, blaming, or complaining useful? Excuses, procrastination, arguing, criticizing, blaming, and complaining drain our energy and hinder us from starting or finishing our goals. Plan, learn, and move on. Criticizing and complaining about things makes them more prominent and elusive in our own lives. By saying, “I can’t afford it,” we subconsciously program our minds away from money and deeper into debt, poverty, and lack. Instead ask yourself, “How can I afford it?” Get busy so you can afford whatever you desire without thinking negatively. The law of attraction produces and gives back what we frequently think about, do, and give.

Food and Thinking for Healthy Living

If there are some poor food choices that you only want to eat once weekly in moderation, place them in the back of your cupboards up high. Out of sight out of mind. Thinking right or wrong brings about health or illness. Wellness or disease does not bring about positive or negative mental attitudes. Thinking right must come first and remain through daily practice. Maintenance via books, podcasts, prayer, meditation, blogs, among other modalities, facilitates right thinking. Moreover, unless you eat the right food, or implement certain truths, no nutritional acumen from any great athlete or guru will help in achieving your athletic or health-based goals. Following truths leads to fewer errors. Yes, mistakes and troubles help create outstanding education, yet don’t jeopardize your health trying to figure how to bring out the best you. Forget about masks and labels regarding how others and even yourself thinks you should act, look, and be. Delve deep inside to the howling abyss of your soul, asking difficult questions, deciding who you want to be and why. Do not be scared for fear trembles and abates when you faithfully believe in yourself. Denying yourself for future gain is rational human nature. Forgiving and forgetting is the only way to get ahead toward genuinely joyful success, furthermore, creating authentic peace, leading to love and altruism toward all.

Additionally, focus on drinking 8 eight-ounce glasses of water daily and eliminating or decreasing juice and pop consumption. Down a cup of water right when awakening. Dehydration increases blood viscosity, enhancing platelet concentration, promoting the risk for sudden cardiac death and stroke. People drinking diet soda tend to consume more food, thus an increased amount of caloric intake leads to weight gain. Eat more fruits and vegetables. Juices create glucose surges and insulin release, unlike consuming whole fruits and vegetables themselves, which encompass fiber, negating the sugar spiking effect. Grocery shop with a detailed list, and on a full stomach to increase glycogen, hence strengthening willpower to purchase only specific foods that help lead toward achieving your goals and maintaining your healthy lifestyle.

Healthy Eating

Eating healthy entails not storing high-calorie low-nutrient foods in the house. The types of food calories consumed are more important regarding our well-being than the quantity because of synthetic chemicals and certain ingredients. Look at food labels to minimize or eliminate ones having sugar as the first ingredient, while abstaining from trans fats, such as partially or fully hydrogenated oils found in many cakes, pastries, margarine, donuts, crackers, frosting, cream-filled candy, frozen pizza, biscuits, and fried food, among others. Trans-fatty acids can elevate low density lipoprotein (LDL-bad cholesterol), decrease high density lipoprotein (HDL-good cholesterol), and increase triglycerides, promoting the risk for coronary artery disease, stoke, systemic inflammation, obesity, and type II diabetes. Parts of New York City limited or banned trans fats in 2007 with a tentative U.S. nationwide mitigation and eradication plan set for the middle of 2018, which continues to be worked towards. Various countries either prohibit trans fat or mandate restrictions upon the amounts allowed in food.

Cognitive Dissonance

“It is human nature to think wisely and act foolishly” (Antatole France). How are your actions representing your thoughts? Would you be proud to share all sound and video footage of thoughts and acts taking place behind closed doors? All of us have shortcomings we are not proud of. Let’s re-examine our life principles, moral codes, philosophies, and standards. Prioritize values and virtues that hold the most conviction and noble clout, while persistently putting them into practice each day. Actions truly do speak resoundingly louder than words, although describe our thoughts more. Be emotionally skillful and mature, behaving in a controlled manner, taking responsibility for all actions and subsequent good and bad consequences, while patiently walking or running through this joyous life.

Health 90/10

People don’t become unhealthy because of 10% of what they eat, but 90% of consumption. We manifest fruits of love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control from 90% of what we think, do, believe, give, and whom we associate with; not the typical 10%. Do not be misguided by the 10%, lest 10% be transformed into a greater unwarranted amount. Choose the best for your life and the lives of others.

Avoiding Temptation

“May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit” (Romans 15:13 NIV). For change to occur a person with a shopping problem should stay out of the mall. A drinker should stay out of the bar. A gambler should stay out of the casino. A person trying to lose weight should stay away from a buffet. It is easier to avoid temptation than it is trying to beat temptation. Acknowledging that we possess a self-created problem within ourselves allows the ability to let solutions work through and for us. That permits us to change our ways by living in a positive, progressive, forward moving, massively growing manner. As Tony Robbins advocates, “Raise your standards. Change your shoulds into musts. Stop shoulding all over yourself.”

Mindset

We create our own mindsets and reactions to people, circumstances, problems, and events. The harnessing power of rejecting or accepting into our minds what we choose, allows us to craft how we think, feel, and behave. Others’ opinions of us are not our business, thus do not concern yourself with them. Do you. They are not you. Furthermore, just because we are cut off in traffic does not mean we should become upset, think what a jerk, retaliate, or perform any inexcusable contemptuous gesture. It may have been an honest mistake. Regardless, let’s give others the benefit of the doubt and choose to love them anyway. Why should we let an external stimuli rob us of our joy, peace of mind, or self-control in any given moment?

Listen, Respect, Love

“Don’t talk unless you can improve the silence” (Jorge Luis Borges). Daily, practice listening to people and talk only when asked a question. Give a succinct answer that does not provoke further queries. It has been said that God gave us two ears and one mouth, therefore let’s listen twice as much as we talk. We might learn a thing or two by having the mindset of being an eternal student of life, learning, progressing, and constantly growing through observation and listening.

Train yourself not to agree or disagree by shaking your head or making any verbal remarks during conversations, seminars, meetings, or sermons. This is more challenging than it sounds. Keep ethically upright personal opinions strong by not allowing others to influence or control your moral decision-making skills and abilities. Do not concern yourself with other peoples’ opinions (OPOs). Our own intrinsic opinions, beliefs, and convictions about ourselves, the universe, and all matter therein, matters most. Respecting and loving others begins by respecting and loving yourself.

Responsibility

“How can you think of saying, ‘Friend, let me help you get rid of that speck in your eye,’ when you can’t see past the log in your own eye? Hypocrite! First get rid of the log in your own eye; then you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’s eye” (Luke 6: 42). Before change occurs in someone else, lead the way by changing yourself first. Change takes self-control, time, effort, and patience. Be cognizant upon how long it takes or has taken you to change. Empathize with relative change and struggles in others’ desirable, passionate, willing, respectful, and honorable aspirations toward becoming better in all they do.