Optimism

“For myself I am an optimist—it does not seem to be much use being anything else” (Sir Winston Churchill). Remain optimistic and of good cheer about yourself and others. Be tactful and thoughtful with requests. Diplomatically ask, teach, and suggest to people what they may want, and request permission for things you desire without being demanding.

After diligently working the same job for over two years a deserved vacation was assumed. At 21 years of age I told my boss about going on a planned trip to Spain for approximately one month, which necessitated that time off. The response to this unsolicited demand was an adamant denial. With further exploration and insight, asking to vacation in China for roughly the same duration was wise. The request was gladly granted by simply asking and not demanding. People will likely give us our desires through genuinely being thoughtful, polite, helpful, and considerate toward their views and desires.

Do Unto Others

Being polite while asking thoughtfully can facilitate a request being granted. Jettison the notion that it is easier to do something, subsequently asking for forgiveness, than requesting permission in the first place. Consideration by using please and thank you shows appreciation, in turn, increasing the likelihood that further desirable gifts and harmonious cooperation will continue. Simple manners of respect, kindness, reciprocation and hard work pay massive dividends over the long-term.