“Procrastination is the thief of time” (General proverb). Plan out the things that are most important to you each day so they will get done. Chunk time in 10-30 minute intervals for small daily activities, 30-90 minutes for medium-sized tasks, and 90-180 minutes for larger more creative undertakings. Remember to stop and reenergize every 30-60 minutes by taking a brisk walk, practicing gratitude, reflecting on good memories, or performing positive self-talk.
Harness more feelings of love and gratitude to drown out negative mental states incorporating fear and doubt. Don’t be too safe because of what you’ve experienced, or what someone may have said or done to you. Be recklessly courageous and responsible, constantly moving forward. Build your character as a solid foundation toward the path to greatness. Peak elite performers in life achieve greatness through choices upheld by personal convictions, self-discipline, relentless pursuits for profit, desiring to leave future generations better off financially, being humble enough to give others credit, among other intrinsic motivators. Don’t make it too complicated.
Prioritize what you want in major categories of your life. This includes relationships, parenting, education, spirituality, mindset, personal-growth, health, work, finances, and giving back to society and the world. List a minimum of five things you desire to achieve in each category during the upcoming one to five years. Following is an example of my desires. Make your goals relative to meeting your unique desires, needs, expectations, and standards set for yourself. Remember, this is about what you can do, not someone else, and not trying to change anyone, except you. Relationships can be many….
|Spouse||Say I love you upon awakening and departure, or more.||Perpetually date her as though we are first meeting.||Hug her daily and kiss her each night before bed, or more often.||Be fully present and engaged while listening.||Authentically care about and encourage her dreams.|
|Child||Say I love you and hug him two times daily, or more.||Read to him for 20 minutes daily, or more.||Together, play a game he enjoys twice weekly, or more.||Go someplace new once monthly, or more.||Ask and support what he is passionate about consistently.|
|Friend||Genuinely listen, love, and laugh.||Ask if he is upholding his moral codes?||Tell him I appreciate him.||Go on an adventure together.||Ask, “How can I help?”|
|Parenting||Teach the difference between right and wrong.||Show consistent unconditional love and acceptance.||Maintain boundaries backed with high standards or expectations, values, and principles.||Know his friends.||Tell him that he can come to me about anything at any time. Maintain trust and open communication.|
|Education||Write and publish a book to help people make positive life-producing choices.||Learn two new words, daily.||Step outside my comfort zone daily.||Read daily for at least 30 minutes.||Teach others what you learn through writing, speaking, and blogging.|
|Spiritual||Pray with a thankful heart throughout the day.||Live joyfully by being peaceful and grateful.||Engage with like-minded people offering hope and encouragement.||Read the Bible, devotionals or inspirational books daily.||Go off in nature for 20 plus minutes while meditating on its’ beauty at least twice weekly.|
|Mindset||Write for at least 10 minutes each day in a gratitude journal.||Self-reflect upon what is learned and done daily.||Listen to positive and inspiring podcasts, books or videos daily.||Read about uplifting stories of triumph daily.||Desire an abundance of health, wealth, love, and joy in the lives of everyone that comes my way.|
|Personal-growth||Be vulnerable by sharing life victories to help others.||Do what makes you uncomfortable, daily.||Read and write for 20 minutes or more, daily.||Read your goals and look at your vision boards three times daily.||Persevere by never, never, never, never, giving in or giving up on your passionate dreams.|
|Health||Exercise five times weekly, or more.||Eat mostly foods that are natural without synthetic fillers.||Be mindful of your thoughts, attitudes, beliefs, and principles.||Ceaselessly, love and totally accept yourself, daily.||Know your triggers and maintain the rituals that minimize stressors and tempters, while maximizing the best version of yourself.|
|Work||Show empathy.||Help frequently.||Enhance my current skill-sets and knowledge.||Add more value by learning new skills.||Mentor and role model for others.|
|Finances||Pay yourself at least 10% first, no matter what.||Do not borrow money, except for your mortgage and education.||Focus on income as being the outcome.||Patiently be in it for the long term, while building assets and minimizing liabilities.||Think of ways to add more value to many.|
|Giving||Give free seminars and speaking events about enhancing quality of life.||Share my time generously with my family and friends.||Share monetary resources with causes I believe in.||Teach about health techniques to prevent pain and suffering, while maximizing energy and joy.||Give or create in yourself the tools necessary to offer more to your family and the world.|
“Strong reasons make strong actions” (William Shakespeare). Next, make a list of as many reasons why you want to accomplish those aims. The more whys in each category can make something on your list that was once number one priority, change to number three or four, while number two or five moves into the first place slot. Whichever target in each category has the most reasons why it is important and purpose-driven for you to achieve that objective, make it your number one priority and develop a single-minded focus on accomplishing those specific goals first. You can still do the others, just put more conscious effort into your primary focus.
“If we work upon marble, it will perish; if we work upon brass, time will efface it; if we rear temples, they will crumble into dust; but if we work upon immortal minds and instill into them just principles we are then engraving that upon tablets which no time will efface, but will brighten and brighten to all eternity” (Daniel Webster). Look at Benjamin Franklin’s 13 virtues and various biblical principles that can be acquired and practically applied. Write down your own virtues, principles, and life philosophies. Examine your lists and decide which maps and strategies should be kept or thrown out. Seek additional beliefs that will profoundly add extraordinary value to your life, hence others as well.
Forget about justice, instead, focusing on grace and forgiveness. Nothing in life is more important than people. Allow mercy to be your policy for the fallibility of human beings. Be a person of value, subsequently adding value to others. Serve others, offering a helping hand, by caring first and foremost. Let helping people meet their wants and needs be a top priority in your life. Increasing energy and happiness will certainly ensue. Give others kind, affirming, and encouraging words, attention, praise, and listening ears. See each person as important and valuable, possessing multitudes of potential. Visualize, respect, and treat everyone as self-actualized, rather than how they see themselves currently. People have good intentions. Embracing positive mental attitudes is a lifestyle. Share with others, giving and doing all things in excellence, above and beyond their expectations.
“If you really want to do something, you’ll find a way. If you don’t, you’ll find an excuse” (Jim Rohn). Put away excuses and get busy making goals and dreams reality. Remove can’t from your vocabulary and mind. Time is always set aside for priorities or things we value most, as evidenced by what we spend our time on. Let’s raise our standards by turning shoulds into musts. Obtain a CPT and just start. Make today matter through beginning life-transformational decisions and activities. Press on continuously, earning the prize of feeling incredible and growing life-giving habits for eternal heavenly rewards.
“Don’t be surly at home, then go out in the street and start grinning “Good morning” at total strangers” (Maya Angelou). If you have children and a family, consider starting to become better there first. Family must be the primary initial and lasting focus in order to be genuinely peaceful and successful. Remain fully engaged, attentive, loving, caring, and giving toward your loved ones first and foremost. Paradoxically, improving and loving yourself first allows the best of you to rub off on those you love most.
The art of managing focuses on time, money and quality, while one typically takes precedence, others are neglected. The right people must operate in the correct positions to optimize a team or business. Do not try to manage people because people are not meant to be managed, only lead. Optimally, skillful individuals independently think for themselves, efficiently getting important tasks or projects done first prior to moving on to smaller objectives, are prepared for emergencies, and have relentless work ethic infused with loyalty toward unified goals, missions, visions, and causes. They don’t let inflated egos hinder humility to obtain objective inputs from others about what may be unknown to them, hence hindering growth, progress, and fruitful success. Being humble enough to acknowledge our blind spots from objective feedback allows deep reflection to personally change or find individuals to complement places where we may be weak. We can all be leaders by influencing and inspiring people around us by our radically honest and genuinely upright principled example. Make sure you give yourself strong reasons for passing through this life without living in fear or regret. How are you doing with managing and leading yourself?
Prove others and your past self, wrong, by proving your new self, right. Antagonistically, do what you think you cannot do, despite fear, uncertainty, and doubt. Do what motivates, inspires, ignites, and drives you toward achieving your goals. Ask yourself, “Is what I am doing each day the best way I can live my life? Am I truly giving my best efforts to live fully and on purpose right now? How can I use and develop my gifts, talents, skills, and abilities to further serve and help others eradicate bad habits, live abundantly, choose wisely, and accomplish dreams?” Completely accept yourself right where you are, while progressing toward further lifelong growth and development.
Furthermore, self-discipline is key toward achieving dreams come true. Self-discipline is saying yes when you want to say no, and saying no when you want to say yes. Pay now or pay later. Don’t forget this—paying the price of self-discipline now leads to an easy life later. Health, relationships, and money all compound graciously when we live accordingly, doing the right thing, day by day, habitually self-disciplined in our principles, values, and priorities. Know them well.
Dare to be different and swim against the tide of societal norms. Passivity causes beautiful people to get tossed, turned, and plummeted into boulders, thrown from cliffs, and aimlessly submerged into oblivion. It takes diligent consistent effort and fully conscious decisions to abstain torrent currents, while climbing up dicey hammering waterfalls and freakishly antagonizing rip-roaring undercurrents by abstaining from the lure of trying to please everyone, while forgetting about what’s best for us. Attempting to appease all is futile because only some individuals can be satisfied, merely some of the time. Normal by society’s permissive, negligent or lax standards can lead to pain, poverty, struggle, and double trouble. Create and abide by your own disciplined moral codes, principles, priorities, and life philosophies, today.
In the Autobiography of Benjamin Franklin, he writes, “Look round the habitable world, how few know their own good, or, knowing it, pursue!”¹ Don’t be slave to your phone, email, television, or social media by allowing any of it to control your invaluable time, in turn, stealing dreams. Both success and failure creep up insidiously when we are not looking based upon how we live our daily lives, in other words, because of our perpetual habits.