One decision can change the entire trajectory and destiny of our lives. Hanging out with a gang or the wrong crowd can lead to mischief, pain, suffering, and even death. If you associate with pigs you will get dirty, and the pigs will like it. Eradicate toxic people like a bad habit. While being truly serious about change, similar to stopping smoking, cold turkey typically works best.
In the book, Good to Great, Jim Collins writes about findings from many years of research which vitally conclude that what matters most in great companies are having the right people on the bus. The bus can go anywhere and the people will succeed because they have unified goals and beliefs toward a specific mission.⁹ Our personal lives are not much different. By surrounding ourselves with morally superb, intelligent, and creative people enthusiastically sharing our visions, we, in turn, have wonderful potential and probability to become great too. Let’s choose only quality individuals to associate with most of the time.
“You can make many plans, but the Lord’s purpose will prevail” (Proverbs 19:21 NLT). Don’t steal from your future just to make today easier. Discipline yourself to invest in health, wealth, and relationships, while choosing to love, learn, grow, and live your purpose. Focus on living out your principles. Bumps in the road will come, although principles remain unchanging, thus impenetrable to enemy forces. Keep on doing the right thing, despite others’ opinions and small judgmental minds. This way of living leads to personal significance and fulfillment. Raise your standards. Be you, not someone else. Don’t chase after someone else’s worldly dreams, fixated on fame, power, or excessive possessions. What gives you peace and makes you happy? You owe yourself the best of you—all of you. Be unapologetically you.
Once a definitive decision full of clarity has been made, combined with a resilient, determined, and persistent positive mental attitude, the sail is set in the direction you wish to travel. You are at the helm of the ship guiding it where to go. You’re in control of your destination and destiny. Along the journey you may see droves of people being tossed aimlessly around by the wind because they did not set their sail correctly or at all. Have a single-minded focus upon the path you wish to travel. Change course when necessary. Going in too many different trajectories creates busy stagnation leading nowhere. If we do not decide what we want for our lives someone else will. Without maps showing specific routes that direct us where to go we either end up where we are, someplace dreadful, or misguided by people that do not have our best interests in mind. Let transparent meaning and purpose light your heart’s way into the tranquil unknown.