Easing Another’s Burden

“If I can stop one heart from breaking, if I can ease one pain, then my life will not have been in vain” (Emily Elizabeth Dickinson). Remember that motive matters greatly. Relationships of great value are truly invaluable. Focus your time and resources upon adding value to the human condition by generously helping others with your time, talents, skills, gifts, and abilities.

Helping Others by Helping Ourselves

Witnessing firsthand and personally experiencing too many of those aforementioned harmful effects in my life manifests deep pain and empathy for people, which is a pivotal reason for choosing to help others. A dominant universal goal regarding all spiritual realms is to mitigate pain and suffering. Caring for individuals working as an intensive care unit (ICU) nurse constantly makes me question, “Is there something we as a community, society, nation, and global enterprise can do to help prevent these tragic fatalities?” Tears of compassion and frustration well up and trickle down an anguished face, while contemplating the horrors that families of these loved ones face and endure.

“I always wondered why somebody doesn’t do something about that. Then I realized that I was somebody” (Lily Tomlin). Can such tragedies be averted? Young teenagers and adults are too often admitted for heroin overdoses with irreversible anoxic brain injuries, while ventilators keep their bodies alive as the brain swells, crushing parts of the cerebrum or spinal cord ending in brain death. All four extremities spastically and uncontrollably jerk up and down with both eyes transiently shooting open seemingly bulging from their skulls as their necrotic viscera pour out. Paralytics are administered because families do not need to witness such horror. Others drink themselves silly, which leads to irreversible pancreatitis or hepatic destruction, culminating in multisystem organ failure and subsequent death.

Even today, visualizing and feeling the glowing warmth, energy, kindness, and friendly smile radiating from a fellow high school classmate’s face 20 years later is poignantly palpable. His abundant energy, radiant countenance, joy, and ability to make others laugh was contagious. He made the tragic decision to try heroin one time, which ended his short life. Let’s decide to help others make better choices by making them for ourselves first.

Growing Pains

As kids, many of us probably experienced extremely painful growth spurts in our extremities. Similarly, growth pains through discomfort on the road to greatness makes us bigger, better, and stronger individuals. Be a creative problem solver by focusing on solutions. How about doing what’s uncomfortable today, thus leading to an extremely comfortable tomorrow? The temporary discomfort will dissipate into something that is a natural comfortable part of who we are. This encompasses skill, relationship, and growth building. Give that speech, ask him or her out, do the seemingly impossible. A good time to do something was yesterday, while the best time is today.

Plan, Share, Create, Grow

“Everyone has a plan until they get punched in the face” (Mike Tyson). Troubles and set-backs can and do happen, but without a plan in place, failing is the plan. Knowing God’s plan trumps mine grants me peace to keep on keeping on.

“It’s better to have a bruised ego, than a lifetime of regret” (Author unknown). Going against the grain, breaking the mold, creating a path when none exists, offering possible life-giving services, is courage at its best. Go for it—help others. Live out your dreams!

Sharing messages of hope only takes willingness. Being bold and brave entails showing up and doing something to help others, despite possible criticism or embarrassment. Why not share a story of direct or indirect triumph to encourage and inspire others through challenging times? Lighten the burden of others via your personal story of victory. Transformation occurs from the inside out, which can be activated by an inspiring true experience and a spark of encouragement. Stay humble, letting go of an over-sized ego. Don’t waste hurt, trials, and burdens overcome. Share them with the world so others can benefit, knowing they are not alone in their pain and heartache. Strive to be a better person.

Empathy

Look at people, places, and things through other individual’s filters with empathy. See another person’s view and think for yourself why that person perceives something that way. Is it positive, rational, logical, true, moral, principled, and right? If so, maybe it’s something worth considering adopting for yourself. Keep an open mind and think for yourself with prudent discernment. People that don’t decide for themselves what to do allow others to dictate their lives for them. For everything we say yes to, we are saying no to the rest. Take control of your choices, beliefs, time, and perceptions while living fully, today. Create your dream life full of positive meaning and purpose, starting right now. Meaning depicts the uniquely intrinsic and extrinsic individual connotations given to it.