“A mature person is one who does not only think in absolutes, who is able to be objective even when deeply stirred emotionally, who has learned that there is both good and bad in all people and all things, and who walks humbly and deals charitably with the circumstances of life” (Eleanor Roosevelt). View life in triads of opinions, advice, expertise, and suggestions. Professionals and skilled individuals may believe they ultimately have your best interests or solutions at hand, while reality and reason points out three drastically opposing views. Seeking out multiple physicians within different specialties regarding treatment modalities can reveal optimal strategies producing superior outcomes. Similar philosophies hold true regarding seeking out great advice from people that have 10 to 20 years further experience beyond ourselves about the dealings in life we desire to victoriously overcome or goals we ardently want to achieve. Be humble, patient, merciful, and grateful, while crossing every person’s path, as these are signs of real maturity.
Stop succumbing to the demands of others, only to live in resentment. Don’t live to strictly please anybody, including your spouse, parents, or society. Do what makes you truly happy. Be your own grown up individual, not dependent upon anyone for self-reliance, peace or joyfulness. Harmony will come to your relationships by being authentically you. Working hard to achieve another’s vision or goals, only to find they are not your own path to happiness is unnecessary. Let your yes be yes and no be no. Give no excuses for responses, staying true to you, always doing your best. Speak, write, and do only what you believe to be true so your conscience remains clear. Being brutally truthful, sell or influence yourself prior to actively listening, understanding, and persuading another. Practice this gracefully until your dying day. Take 100% responsibility for your life in order to obtain real freedom and personal joy.
“You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make him drink it” (English proverb). Awareness, desire, and focused persistent effort must occur for an individual’s transformation, change, or goal achievement to occur. Delegating this hard work is not possible. Personal development and seeking help when necessary is for the courageous at heart. People can live freely by harnessing willing and cooperative attitudes, therefore unearthing enlightening treasures that sow fruitful seeds into their lives. It is up to each of us to heed the knowledge, be prepared, and harvest relative successes in due season. The voyage to confidently and effectively govern and master ourselves is an invaluably worthy endeavor.
“Not only so, but we also glory in our suffering, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope (Romans 5: 3-4 NIV). Denial is the enemy of light and truths, antagonizing greatness. Take complete ownership, accountability, and responsibility for your life and begin reaping the positive rewards, instead of the negative consequences because of irresponsibility, neglect, and blame. Radiate your newly found and fueled beautiful permeating penetrating life-giving beams of greatness into the world.