“If I can stop one heart from breaking, if I can ease one pain, then my life will not have been in vain” (Emily Elizabeth Dickinson). Remember that motive matters greatly. Relationships of great value are truly invaluable. Focus your time and resources upon adding value to the human condition by generously helping others with your time, talents, skills, gifts, and abilities.
“Old age ain’t no place for sissies” (Bette Davis). Old or young is not the issue as much as the decisions we make along the way. What matters most is that dash on a tombstone between the year a person is born and dies. Be mindful enough to take care of your mind, body, spirit, and soul being they must help guide and produce priceless intangibles, while lasting your entire life. How would you describe quality of life for you? Eating, drinking, tasting, conversing, walking, praying, hiking, biking, traveling, debating, listening, thinking, writing, reading, among myriads more? Live this way now, cherishing moments, for the roadmap is set in motion. Preparing one’s self, today, for what lies ahead is living on purpose. Heeding our clear visions, we can be proud of who we are, while gratefully living with wondrous quality of life throughout. Many times, we only think about such things after they are gone. How about being grateful for our blessings every day?
“You only live once, but if you work it right, once is enough” (Mary Jane West). Let’s not take our gifts, talents, skills, abilities, or money with us to our grave. Don’t wander through life without meaning and purpose. Don’t measure success with society’s yardstick of success, power, status, money, and fame. Instead, focus on making a difference by impacting and influencing positive change in yourself, others, your community and country, as well as the world. People are influenced not by your social status, nearly as much as by how much you care about them. Show your family, friends and those around you how much you care by telling them, writing letters, and doing spontaneous acts of kindness for them. Show love in daily practices toward all humankind. Lead rather than manage people.
Additionally, happiness ensues through making one’s own decisions, not someone choosing for you. A young dog once thought happiness lived in his tail, thus choosing to chase his tail perpetually. He talked to an older dog about happiness being in his tail. This older dog said, “Everybody knows happiness is in the tail, but I don’t chase after mine. Wherever I go and whatever I do, my tail always follows.”
Be brave enough to try new things, go new places, form new relationships, and forgive—letting go completely, while loving more deeply. We can learn much by doing, instead of passively sitting on the side lines of life, becoming more futilely dependent upon others for our happiness and everyday personal responsibilities. Passive dependent personality disorder is not uncommon. The character flaws can be remedied through acknowledging they exist.
Awareness is the first step in all healing. Let’s take responsibility for our own lives, not enabling others’ dependence, only encouraging autonomous greatness from within—by doing and believing our part. Acts of service for others are wonderful modalities toward remedying fretful maladies, in turn, becoming more grateful through the process. Live free from anxiety and worry—enjoying who you are and what you have. Think not of lack or deleterious envy, only abundance of blessings in your life.
Strong feelings and beliefs have the power to transform our identities, as long as they facilitate positive actions. Motion is the precursor to emotion, while emotion generates action too. Make self-discipline or self-restraint priority in life, coupled with utter responsibility for who you are and who you desire to be. Self-control and being personally accountable is proof that we possess self-worth and care about ourselves as valuable individuals, worthy of loving and being loved. We are lovable because we are demonstrating love to ourselves first. Give away gifts of love in order to grow more loving. Don’t conform to others’ opinions or societal standards; be and nourish your beautiful self.
“For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he…” (Proverbs 23:7 KJB). Elevate your standards of thought, speech, behavior, habit, lifestyle, and destiny. Remember Emerson’s insight that, “We become what we think about all day long.” We are all children of God, an infinite intelligence aiding us along our voyage, therefore let’s raise our thoughts heavenward, lest our own self-identity be perverted.
“So I say, let the Holy Spirit guide your lives. Then you won’t be doing what your sinful nature craves” (Galatians 5:16 NLV). Now, you can live a righteous, self-disciplined, and powerful purpose-driven life with new insights, behaviors, and being hindsight is 20/20. Respect yourself totally, which encompasses mind, spirit, soul, and the beautiful one and only custom made body that is yours. Do not feel misled, guilty or judged due to slip-ups and wrong decision-making. Accepting divine grace and forgiveness covers the mistakes of being human.
Additionally, do not succumb to retail therapy as a futile coping mechanism for temporary fleeting relief because of problems, which only multiplies troubles creating additional feelings of numbness and void. The value of something is relative, although may be directly and individually linked to efficient and effective time given up acquiring it. Each moment before deciding to spend more money than you currently have, think of invaluable time that could be spent with family or working toward goals possessing expansive meaning and purpose, having potential to literally save or positively influence enhancing change in an individual’s priceless, beautiful life.
“A dead thing can go with the stream, but only a living thing can go against it” (G. K. Chesterton). Stop concerning yourself with other people’s opinions (OPOs). Nothing great is possible without approaching life by pacifistically and relentlessly fighting back, hence forward for visionary ideals. Build your inner fight so strong that corruptible vulgar noise becomes silent impenetrable deafness averting lingering contact with your mind, body, spirit, and soul. Going against the tide, in time, flows naturally with ease. Do not sacrifice or succumb to fleeting short-term gains, forfeiting long-term mastery and perpetual profit. Begin joyfully living your passionate dreams, outside the box of conformity and comfort, today.