How likely or unlikely are you to you swap a bad habit for a good habit in the next month? Stop saying “I can’t… (fill in the blank), stop smoking” because that is linking your identity with that deadly ritual and preventing victory over the long term. Giving something bad or of lesser value for something good, great, exceptional, lifesaving and invaluable is a deal worth creating and doing. Best of all, there is enormous upside with minimal if any downside, while becoming a winner. Never short change yourself by sacrificing a thing now, for a much worthier and greater purpose that reaps impressive returns and results later.
“If we work upon marble, it will perish; if we work upon brass, time will efface it; if we rear temples, they will crumble into dust; but if we work upon immortal minds and instill into them just principles we are then engraving that upon tablets which no time will efface, but will brighten and brighten to all eternity” (Daniel Webster). Look at Benjamin Franklin’s 13 virtues and various biblical principles that can be acquired and practically applied. Write down your own virtues, principles, and life philosophies. Examine your lists and decide which maps and strategies should be kept or thrown out. Seek additional beliefs that will profoundly add extraordinary value to your life, hence others as well.
Forget about justice, instead, focusing on grace and forgiveness. Nothing in life is more important than people. Allow mercy to be your policy for the fallibility of human beings. Be a person of value, subsequently adding value to others. Serve others, offering a helping hand, by caring first and foremost. Let helping people meet their wants and needs be a top priority in your life. Increasing energy and happiness will certainly ensue. Give others kind, affirming, and encouraging words, attention, praise, and listening ears. See each person as important and valuable, possessing multitudes of potential. Visualize, respect, and treat everyone as self-actualized, rather than how they see themselves currently. People have good intentions. Embracing positive mental attitudes is a lifestyle. Share with others, giving and doing all things in excellence, above and beyond their expectations.
If there are some poor food choices that you only want to eat once weekly in moderation, place them in the back of your cupboards up high. Out of sight out of mind. Thinking right or wrong brings about health or illness. Wellness or disease does not bring about positive or negative mental attitudes. Thinking right must come first and remain through daily practice. Maintenance via books, podcasts, prayer, meditation, blogs, among other modalities, facilitates right thinking. Moreover, unless you eat the right food, or implement certain truths, no nutritional acumen from any great athlete or guru will help in achieving your athletic or health-based goals. Following truths leads to fewer errors. Yes, mistakes and troubles help create outstanding education, yet don’t jeopardize your health trying to figure how to bring out the best you. Forget about masks and labels regarding how others and even yourself thinks you should act, look, and be. Delve deep inside to the howling abyss of your soul, asking difficult questions, deciding who you want to be and why. Do not be scared for fear trembles and abates when you faithfully believe in yourself. Denying yourself for future gain is rational human nature. Forgiving and forgetting is the only way to get ahead toward genuinely joyful success, furthermore, creating authentic peace, leading to love and altruism toward all.
Additionally, focus on drinking 8 eight-ounce glasses of water daily and eliminating or decreasing juice and pop consumption. Down a cup of water right when awakening. Dehydration increases blood viscosity, enhancing platelet concentration, promoting the risk for sudden cardiac death and stroke. People drinking diet soda tend to consume more food, thus an increased amount of caloric intake leads to weight gain. Eat more fruits and vegetables. Juices create glucose surges and insulin release, unlike consuming whole fruits and vegetables themselves, which encompass fiber, negating the sugar spiking effect. Grocery shop with a detailed list, and on a full stomach to increase glycogen, hence strengthening willpower to purchase only specific foods that help lead toward achieving your goals and maintaining your healthy lifestyle.
Nonjudgmentally taking care of perpetrators in the hospital is possible attributed to God’s grace bestowed. I thank God for not critically harming anyone because of my teenage folly and lack of direction, purpose, principles, moral code and positive life philosophy at the time. Numerous heart-breaking stories of lives cut way too short makes me ineffably sad, while motivating me to help solve the global poor decision-making pandemic.
People smoke cigarettes leading to fatal maladies, while many tragically gasp their last breaths and die from cancer, emphysema, stroke, heart attack or infection, wasting their last days stuck, fully dependent on life support. Heart disease, stroke, and peripheral vascular disease, among other ailments, due to diabetes, high blood pressure, sedentary lifestyles, neglect, noncompliance, and other preventable conditions are motivating factors toward helping stop the unnecessary early demise and poor quality of living that so many people may or may not consciously be aware they are choosing and creating for themselves. Becoming lucidly alert, vividly aware, and keenly knowledgeable about how precious and fragile life truly is before it’s too late is possible by spreading messages of hope, inspiration, and practical ways to live bountiful joy-filled lives.
“A single death is a tragedy; a million deaths is a statistic” (Joseph Stalin). Grace and forgiveness are like oxygen to the mind, body, spirit, and soul. We cannot live fully without harmonious synergy between each realm of our being, while damage ensues when any of them are neglected. Oxygen is life. Remember that our hemoglobin molecule on the red blood cell carries oxygen to every cell in our body. Nicotine has an affinity for hemoglobin, which takes approximately 50% of the oxygen away from our cells when consuming nicotine. Results of any disease-killing process is the cessation of oxygen in the end. Pollutants from smoke cause hepatic injury, leading to elevated low density lipoprotein (LDL aka bad cholesterol), thus creating plaque and narrowing of arteries. Averting heart attacks, stroke, peripheral vascular and arterial disease, among myriads of other unwanted ailments is within our control. Nicotine weakens the esophageal sphincter, causing gastroesophageal reflux. Please stop smoking or using any nicotine-releasing substance if you do not want suffering and misery in later years, as well as becoming a statistic.
According to the Centers for Disease Control (CDC),
“Tobacco use is the leading cause of preventable disease, disability, and death in the United States. Nearly 40 million US adults still smoke cigarettes, and about 4.7 million middle and high school students use at least one tobacco product, including e-cigarettes. Every day, more than 3,800 youth younger than 18 years smoke their first cigarette. Each year, nearly half a million Americans die prematurely from smoking or exposure to secondhand smoke. Another 16 million live with a serious illness caused by smoking. Each year, the United States spends nearly $170 billion on medical care to treat smoking-related disease in adults.”³
Don’t leave your one and only beautiful unique life to chance or try fatally reasoning with fate. Create your own present and future well-being by choosing to live a healthy lifestyle. Struggling for each single breath of air that we may currently take for granted, or dying precipitously from cancer or another awful avoidable disease is within our control. Govern the controllable factors and forget about the rest. Remove I can’t from your vocabulary. Saying or believing, “I can’t,” only associates stronger connections uniting undesirable behaviors and self-limiting beliefs linked to your identity. Saying, “I can’t,” may be a character flaw, when indeed you can. Stop lying to your beautiful self, creating a deleterious mental movie. If someone threatened to harm your loved ones if you did not terminate smoking permanently, you could stop. Muster up enough faith, courage, and powerful reasons to end smoking forever and you will. You can do it!
Most of us want to be around to see our sons and daughters get married, spend time enjoying grandchildren, or relish in the splendors of true living. Living and aliveness have their own relative connotations. Each of us has to decide how we want to live, therefore let’s help each other, while casting no judgement upon anyone.
We each possess approximately one hundred billion neurons in our brain. New neuronal connections and pathways make learning and growing possible. Each rudimentary structure of a neuron has a cell body, axon, and dendrites. Chemical messages called neurotransmitters act as keys, traveling in unidirectional routes from presynaptic axonal terminals across the synapse to dendritic doorways, which unlock vastly powerful biological reactions that help or hinder our physiological processes within out body and mind. We can control various chemicals produced in our soma and brains by creating many of our feelings and emotions through our thoughts, attitudes, behaviors, actions, and reactions toward ourselves, others, situations, and circumstances. Forming new habits can, in turn, produce more dendritic receptors and rearrange synaptic links through what is known as neuroplasticity.
“This is the day that the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it” (Psalm 118:24 ESV). Live fully today—our most valuable commodity, hour-by-hour, forgetting about yesterdays, not pondering tomorrows, being the future is now. We have the power to change our patterns by choosing constructive life responses, attitudes, behaviors, and decisions in new deliberately productive, positive, grateful, meaningful, and forward thinking manners throughout each gifted and blessed day laboriously birthed to us. Regardless of parenting presence or lack thereof, we are made with sweet divinity in our core as a gift from our affectionate heavenly Father and friend.
“Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life” (Proverbs 4:23 KJB). Recognize that what we complain about in others may very well be how we act or the way we think about and view ourselves. Acknowledging our faults, while being brutally truthful takes guts and an open mind. Instead of continually saying, “I am an alcoholic” or “I’m an addict,” just recognize the problem and work at fixing it. Don’t perpetually ponder, meditate, and affiliate your beautiful identity and self-image with something unwanted. Say, “I am a miraculously blessed child forged by our omnipotent, omniscient, and omnipresent God, sculpted and crafted majestically with His meticulously flawless one-of-a-kind mold. My redeeming God shows me unconditional love, acceptance, and forgiveness that forgets, bestows grace, and abundantly supplies me with all my noble desires and needs.” Just tell yourself something juicy, with absolute faith and conviction, which bolsters your truly wonderful identity.
Why claim a disease by name, bringing it to fruition, or establish a deadly condition in the concrete of your subconscious mind? It’s an idea worth considering. No doubt, Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) and Narcotics Anonymous (NA), amongst other support groups can profoundly help maintain higher standards of living and freedom from alcohol, drugs, and other malproductive customs and lifestyles entailing continued deliberate harmful choices. Create good habits by raising your standards, therefore abstaining from poor conducts of living because of newly adopted and acquired productive growth-filled daily life-long rituals. Seriously, form and perpetually perform habits that work best for your triumphant freedom. Always being aware of how important positively baked-in rituals are toward maintaining growth mindsets will lead to wonderful success by staying dignified, honest, loyal, and true to your forever actions.
Find a coach, teacher, mentor, or individual that believes in you. In sports, business, or learning a new skill, how can you believe in yourself if your “trainer” does not believe in you? Genuinely supportive people are tremendous assets toward helping achieve any endeavor, coupled with facilitating long-term progress and massively efficient and effective growth. These leaders will typically see extraordinary greatness, talent, and ability in you that you may not even know exists. You have limitless potential. Develop the skills to be your best. You can and will do it, just believe you can. Success is about desire, clarity, time-driven goals, relentless effort or hard work, determination, and perseverance; much more than IQ or formal schooling.
In time we develop grit and fortitude to believe in ourselves, regardless of naysayers. Self-belief and self-confidence are skills we develop, emerging stronger through proper training and repetitive consistent doing. Life journeys are much more fruitful with positive cheerleaders encouraging our expedition. Let’s surround ourselves with people that are wiser and smarter than we are. Only then can we begin exponentially growing at rapid velocities. Live a legacy and lifestyle exemplifying constant and never ending improvement, embodying moral excellence with each minor and major move.
Consider making your bed as a starting point toward creating or fortifying self-control. Practice the daily routine of being grateful for the multitudes of blessings in your life. Each day above ground is a wonderful day to be alive. Taking consistent action when we do not feel like it promotes self-restraint, reinforcing thoughts, words, and behaviors that will thrust us forward by leaps and bounds into living abundantly and full. Grow more influential and magnanimous by the thoughts you think, words you speak, and behaviors you act upon. Attitudes of self-discipline, reception, willingness, cooperation, and genuine self-expression toward god-like noble ideals creates monumentally mighty deft hope, which annihilates the most viciously inhumane seemingly unbearable despair known to mankind. The attitude of hope patiently endures all hardship, while thinking optimistically, believing ceaselessly, seeing realized dreams through darkness, and anticipating and appreciating triumphant victory around the corner. Hope perseveres on this side of ABLE.
“Though a mighty army surrounds me, my heart will not be afraid. Even if I am attacked, I will remain confident” (Psalm 27:3 NLT). “Put on salvation as your helmet, and take the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God” (Ephesians 6:17 NLT). Remember to be brave, act brave. Control your thoughts through positive mental attitudes (PMAs) and positive self-talk. Replace bad with an overwhelming amount of consistent and persistent good.
Furthermore, daily, hug your kids, kiss your spouse, and tell your family how much you love them, give genuine and sincere complements, show up, and be fully engaged. The returns are undeniably rewarding. Go forth with courage and zeal upon your exploration into uncharted terrains and discover the truly brave, adventurous, and beautiful life that awaits.
Let’s be allegiant to our celestial lands of radical unity and harmonious love, serving essential ideals wholeheartedly in all thinking, speaking, and doing. May our attitudes, behaviors and principles of thought correlate with our deep-seated values, leading to divine peace and greatness. Compassionate loving kindness is pragmatically useful being we can help mitigate pain and suffering through generous gifts of thought, word, and deed. Allow permeated truths to dwell in the center of your soul, embracing virtues of excellence as foundational standards for guidance, direction, meaning, and purpose.