“Things don’t change, but by and by our wishes change” (Marcel Proust). Opportunities to grow and accomplish more manifest as our desires change. You can achieve whatever goals you truly and adamantly yearn for. Challenge yourself more in order to overcome average, because you are extraordinary.
“I am always doing that which I cannot do, in order to learn how to do it” (Pablo Picasso). Stay thirsty and hungry for continual improvement. Each day be vulnerable and grow by doing something that scares you outside your comfort or security zone. Additionally, writing goals and tasks on paper invigorates a person with purpose and fresh energy to take on the day. Life is about progress, loving, growth, and giving.
“For myself I am an optimist—it does not seem to be much use being anything else” (Sir Winston Churchill). Remain optimistic and of good cheer about yourself and others. Be tactful and thoughtful with requests. Diplomatically ask, teach, and suggest to people what they may want, and request permission for things you desire without being demanding.
After diligently working the same job for over two years a deserved vacation was assumed. At 21 years of age I told my boss about going on a planned trip to Spain for approximately one month, which necessitated that time off. The response to this unsolicited demand was an adamant denial. With further exploration and insight, asking to vacation in China for roughly the same duration was wise. The request was gladly granted by simply asking and not demanding. People will likely give us our desires through genuinely being thoughtful, polite, helpful, and considerate toward their views and desires.
“Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering” (Yoda). Be appreciative for all parts of your journey. Both the challenging and difficult times in life make us who we are. Live intentionally with a passionate purpose. In every situation, ask yourself, “What opportunity awaits me here?” Be a good-finder by seeking and expecting good, and you will find and have it.
“You cannot always control what goes on outside. But you can always control what goes on inside” (Wayne Dyer). Have you ever used excuses to justify not doing something? How about criticizing, arguing, blaming, or complaining to rationalize behavior? Do you procrastinate, knowing that tasks need to be completed or a homework assignment or work project is imminently due, which should take priority? Were excuses, arguing, criticism, blaming, or complaining useful? Excuses, procrastination, arguing, criticizing, blaming, and complaining drain our energy and hinder us from starting or finishing our goals. Plan, learn, and move on. Criticizing and complaining about things makes them more prominent and elusive in our own lives. By saying, “I can’t afford it,” we subconsciously program our minds away from money and deeper into debt, poverty, and lack. Instead ask yourself, “How can I afford it?” Get busy so you can afford whatever you desire without thinking negatively. The law of attraction produces and gives back what we frequently think about, do, and give.
Get out of Loserville by running in the opposite direction away from bad influences. For heaven’s sake, stop making excuses and blaming others, which only hinders potential progress. Reasoning with logical rationale will not help us acquire our dreams and unleash greatness within. Real problems, such as the price of gas, cost of food, taxes, not being lent money, etcetera, are still excuses. Ask yourself, “Why am I not where I desire to be in life?” To remain blunt, the only accurate answer is, you. Remember, when we point a finger at someone else, three fingers are pointing back at us. Don’t fall victim to foolish mentality by being average or mediocre when you can become great.
“A professional is a man who can do his best at a time when he doesn’t particularly feel like it” (Alistair Cooke). Practice embracing the feeling of fear and acting anyway. Fear is more scared of you, than you are of fear, especially when you stand up and fight. Action produces results. Stop sitting on your couch, contemplating or pondering in self-pity or regret. You can do it, you can win, and yes you can, so get busy doing it! Focus on doing your best in all situations, including at home, in marriage, parenting, and during work or play. Each moment belongs to you. Live them well.
“A good listener is not only popular everywhere, but after a while he gets to know something” (Wilson Mizner). We can learn much by observing people, including watching our kids play or through hearing and heeding their wisdom. Old can learn from young, and young from older. Yes, edification occurs through teaching others, yet even more understanding, applicable knowledge, insight, awareness, and life-changing advice or suggestions comes through the art of listening.
Constant and never-ending improvement is an eternal endeavor. Winners commit to a plan, persevering no matter what. This means never, never, never giving up. Additionally, forgiveness breaks chains, thus granting freedom for progressive growth. Simple pragmatic ideas for a better life occur just from listening. Remember, purpose-driven action is imperative for continual progression.
“Don’t talk unless you can improve the silence” (Jorge Luis Borges). Daily, practice listening to people and talk only when asked a question. Give a succinct answer that does not provoke further queries. It has been said that God gave us two ears and one mouth, therefore let’s listen twice as much as we talk. We might learn a thing or two by having the mindset of being an eternal student of life, learning, progressing, and constantly growing through observation and listening.
Train yourself not to agree or disagree by shaking your head or making any verbal remarks during conversations, seminars, meetings, or sermons. This is more challenging than it sounds. Keep ethically upright personal opinions strong by not allowing others to influence or control your moral decision-making skills and abilities. Do not concern yourself with other peoples’ opinions (OPOs). Our own intrinsic opinions, beliefs, and convictions about ourselves, the universe, and all matter therein, matters most. Respecting and loving others begins by respecting and loving yourself.
Remember, a small acorn morphs into a sapling, which grows into a mighty oak tree. Plant fruitful seeds in fertile soil, nourishing and caring for them wholeheartedly, as they begin producing massive power, ascending heavenward. Major goals are to intentionally become better, do more on purpose, and give more of ourselves selflessly to causes we believe in. There is no arrival to a destination with a constant and never-ending goal-striving conscious and subconscious mindset. New feats to be won, done, and learned are in constant manifestation. Ardent desire combined with the execution of goal-setting and planning, while persevering, grinding, and hustling toward achieving new specific endeavors with precise set dates in time leads to exponential personal growth, meaning, explosive amounts of energy, aliveness, and vigor for life.