“Doing the best at this moment puts you in the best place for the next moment” (Oprah Winfrey). Each day for the next 30 days read that list of character traits and continue adding to it. Be truthful to yourself, while diligently striving to develop the best of you. You deserve the best and your family deserves your best, therefore you owe it to yourself to become the best version of yourself, starting right now.
“The indispensable first step to getting the things you want out of life is this: Decide what you want” (Ben Stein). Whether you want to have a better attitude, more money, extraordinary relationships, reignite and spark your marriage to new boundless levels, lose 10, 20, 50 or 100 plus pounds, eat healthy, exercise routinely, create an abundance of energy, develop a character transformation, become a remarkable parent, change careers, create a business, generate hope in people or do anything in life desired, it is within reach. Change happens naturally, although growth and progress are intentional.
Look for good or bad in yourself and others and you will find it. Moreover, while considering to purchase a new automobile or driving one, we begin to see it everywhere because we are looking for it. Bundles of nerve pathways located in our brainstem collectively called the reticular activating system (RAS), filter and eliminate wasteful stimuli, while allowing essential data in. Thanks to our RAS, we can hear our names being called in a crowded noisy room and immediately become aware. Eventually, what we consciously seek, such as goals, becomes an unconscious automatic finding in our subconscious minds. Practice being a good-finder in all people, places, things, and events. In impossible we find possible, in can’t can, in hopeless hope, in faithless faith, in unbelief belief, and on and on. Again, look for good and you will find it. Delve deep within yourself to unleash those seeds of greatness our almighty God planted in you before you were even born.
“I wasted time, and doth time wasted me” (William Shakespeare). If you wasted precious time or are in a hole, stop digging and begin building. Do not be a fault-finder, an excuse maker, blamer or gossiper. They are all like poop, stinky. Instead, why not be a good-finder, responsible, accountable, giving, and extraordinarily optimistic about life?
“A good example is the best sermon. None preaches better than the ant, and she says nothing” (Benjamin Franklin). Transforming our own attitudes, beliefs, values, principles, behaviors, responses, perceptions, life philosophies, and total intrinsic and extrinsic environments is the surest way to help others reform themselves in a positive and forward growing manner. Ants work hard and never stop looking for ways to flourish, seeking food to harvest, building, and preparing for their future accordingly, during each season. We can even learn from ants.
Don’t be confined to living within the boundaries of a box by allowing a title or diploma dictate who you are or what you’re capable of becoming. You are a wonderful and miraculous child of God with untapped, yet infinite potential. Ask, seek, and find your calling so the universe can become infinitely better because you traveled through. Don’t ever give up seeking, asking or trying. Your time is now, therefore live deliberately, while valuing the moments. Remember that our moments create our lives and it only takes a moment to eternally change darkness into light. Constantly and persistently do more good, receive an abundance of blessings, and pay it forward in order to sow fertile seeds of love, peace, hope, joy, and goodness overflowing. Make your life matter as time evaporates into eternity.
“The most pathetic person in the world is someone who has sight, but has no vision” (Helen Keller). Look for the good in people and ourselves, while desiring more abundance of health, wealth, love, and joy upon others. As an American author and speaker, Helen Keller became deaf and blind by 19 months of age and mute shortly thereafter because of a debilitating fever, yet she did not let that stop her from maintaining her vision and regaining her voice.¹¹ She was the first deaf and blind person to earn her Bachelor’s degree, in addition earning cum laude.¹² Helen Keller is a true inspiration to the world and a wonderful example for people with similar ailments. Now, people that are deaf and blind have infinitely more hope, knowing that success and true quality of living are possible through pure determination and unwavering faith. Many people acquiring various ailments and problems will not be the first nor the last, yet triumph through with resilience, courage, and a positive mental attitude. Don’t let negativity or seemingly unjust circumstances rob hope, joy, and love from your precious life.
“May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit” (Romans 15:13 NIV). For change to occur a person with a shopping problem should stay out of the mall. A drinker should stay out of the bar. A gambler should stay out of the casino. A person trying to lose weight should stay away from a buffet. It is easier to avoid temptation than it is trying to beat temptation. Acknowledging that we possess a self-created problem within ourselves allows the ability to let solutions work through and for us. That permits us to change our ways by living in a positive, progressive, forward moving, massively growing manner. As Tony Robbins advocates, “Raise your standards. Change your shoulds into musts. Stop shoulding all over yourself.”
Witnessing firsthand and personally experiencing too many of those aforementioned harmful effects in my life manifests deep pain and empathy for people, which is a pivotal reason for choosing to help others. A dominant universal goal regarding all spiritual realms is to mitigate pain and suffering. Caring for individuals working as an intensive care unit (ICU) nurse constantly makes me question, “Is there something we as a community, society, nation, and global enterprise can do to help prevent these tragic fatalities?” Tears of compassion and frustration well up and trickle down an anguished face, while contemplating the horrors that families of these loved ones face and endure.
“I always wondered why somebody doesn’t do something about that. Then I realized that I was somebody” (Lily Tomlin). Can such tragedies be averted? Young teenagers and adults are too often admitted for heroin overdoses with irreversible anoxic brain injuries, while ventilators keep their bodies alive as the brain swells, crushing parts of the cerebrum or spinal cord ending in brain death. All four extremities spastically and uncontrollably jerk up and down with both eyes transiently shooting open seemingly bulging from their skulls as their necrotic viscera pour out. Paralytics are administered because families do not need to witness such horror. Others drink themselves silly, which leads to irreversible pancreatitis or hepatic destruction, culminating in multisystem organ failure and subsequent death.
Even today, visualizing and feeling the glowing warmth, energy, kindness, and friendly smile radiating from a fellow high school classmate’s face 20 years later is poignantly palpable. His abundant energy, radiant countenance, joy, and ability to make others laugh was contagious. He made the tragic decision to try heroin one time, which ended his short life. Let’s decide to help others make better choices by making them for ourselves first.
“And what do you benefit if you gain the whole world but lose your own soul?” (Mark 8: 36 NLT). Moreover, harmful effects can ensue due to excessive gambling, extreme shopping, gluttonous eating, pornography, smoking, mind-numbing alcohol intoxication, and illicit drug use. Several poor behaviors mentioned above have ruined countless marriages, relationships, and even ended in fatality. Do you frivolously love and yield to bad habits more than you enjoy living in victorious freedom by loving and caring for your own mind, body, spirit, and soul? Let’s not stoop down to a level below our absolute best.