If feeling you must complain about something, talk with the person who can do something about it. Ideally, have or seek a practical solution prior to speaking. People or innocent bystanders are not garbage dispensers for your trash and verbal flatus. Being brave and wise enough to seek your manager, spouse, human resource department, coach, counselor or professional whom can most aptly help resolve your complaints is essential to success. We are each responsible and accountable for our own success and places in life; nobody else is to blame. Consistently live with a mental picture at the forefront of your mind about how you desire to live your life.
“If you plan on being anything less than you are capable of being, you will probably be unhappy all the days of your life” (Abraham Maslow). Live large with rich habits by replacing old negative routines with positive forward moving goal-oriented rituals. Let persistent progressive momentum build unstoppable speed and power, breaking through barriers into greatness. Take control of your life and don’t allow negative internal or external factors dictate what you think, do, say, or who you are. Just be authentically you in each present moment.
“If you have only one smile in you, give it to the people you love” (Maya Angelou). Additionally, truly and sincerely complement others frequently. Tell folks when you like their hairstyle, article of clothing, or smile. Encourage people with kind words. Say, “You will do great at anything you choose,” only if it is genuine and you actually mean it. See in others what they may not see in themselves. People can easily discern flattery from a genuine complement or remark of heartfelt appreciation. Give honest praise to people in public and private often. Sweet talk can cause more harm than good. Let’s remain blatantly honest, while thoughtfully considering another’s view and desires ahead of our own. Those are wonderful gifts we can give daily, which return additional rewards handsomely.
Furthermore, the best way to care for others is by taking care of ourselves first. No, this is not selfish. In contrast, taking care of ourselves first can be the most unselfish and beneficial thing we can do for others. If oxygen masks come down in an airplane and a man places oxygen on his helpless infant son before himself, subsequently passing out, he would be of no further service to anyone. The same is true regarding living healthy lives with appropriate nutrient and caloric intake, exercise, sleep, and total self-care so we can function optimally in order to give, do, and be our best.
“A lie gets halfway around the world before the truth has a chance to get its pants on” (Sir Winston Churchill). Lies, misery, gossip, and negativity hazardously attract themselves, thus avoid them like the plague. Live with radically transparent honesty and truth, which will produce wonderful blessings of tranquility, self-confidence, and trust throughout your life journey.
“Self-evaluation is helpful, but evaluation from someone else is essential” (Andy Stanley). Be brutally honest while self-reflecting on right and wrong. Your answers are perceptions related to personal principles, beliefs, and experiences. Make sure your ideal self and real self are congruent, therefore creating peace and abundant fulfillment within. What do you stand for and why?
“Sometimes what counts can’t be counted, and what can be counted doesn’t count” (Albert Einstein). Do not compare yourself with anyone, except who you were yesterday. Your very own intangible character traits based upon what you stand for helps preserve visions, dreams, and goals while persevering toward greatness, despite adversity. Know both what to do and what not to do in varying situations, thus expediting your journey toward becoming the best version of yourself. Furthermore, another person’s perspective, especially from a leader, mentor, counselor or coach can guide, teach, inspire and direct our steps, additionally, helping to hold us accountable. Strive toward becoming the person you truly desire and are fully capable of being. Be you!—everyone else is taken.
Remember to feel and express joy, while paving roads toward actualizing dreams come true. It is while we are making plans for our future that life happens. Each adventurous exploration from who and where we are to who and where we want to be is life itself. Being, is life, which becomes magnificently fulfilling when accompanied with a warm smile, heart-felt perpetual peaceful solace, and the magical omnipotence of lavishly graceful love embodied for oneself and others. Embracing internal truths and radical honesty have supremely healing upward cyclical powers when harnessed and practiced repeatedly. What makes you genuinely happy? Why not do more of that? Bring on the joy, today.
“So I say, let the Holy Spirit guide your lives. Then you won’t be doing what your sinful nature craves” (Galatians 5:16 NLV). Now, you can live a righteous, self-disciplined, and powerful purpose-driven life with new insights, behaviors, and being hindsight is 20/20. Respect yourself totally, which encompasses mind, spirit, soul, and the beautiful one and only custom made body that is yours. Do not feel misled, guilty or judged due to slip-ups and wrong decision-making. Accepting divine grace and forgiveness covers the mistakes of being human.
Additionally, do not succumb to retail therapy as a futile coping mechanism for temporary fleeting relief because of problems, which only multiplies troubles creating additional feelings of numbness and void. The value of something is relative, although may be directly and individually linked to efficient and effective time given up acquiring it. Each moment before deciding to spend more money than you currently have, think of invaluable time that could be spent with family or working toward goals possessing expansive meaning and purpose, having potential to literally save or positively influence enhancing change in an individual’s priceless, beautiful life.
“Integrity without knowledge is weak and useless, and knowledge without integrity is dangerous and dreadful” (Samuel Johnson). We become dependable, respectful, and trusting to ourselves and toward others by upholding our integrity. Personal growth not only develops and enhances ourselves, nevertheless can benefit everyone around us as well. The most powerful method toward changing others manifests by changing ourselves first. People around us will indirectly or directly be changed through our new bolstered positive and inspiring attitudes, words, behaviors, and lifestyle.