Be You

“Self-evaluation is helpful, but evaluation from someone else is essential” (Andy Stanley). Be brutally honest while self-reflecting on right and wrong. Your answers are perceptions related to personal principles, beliefs, and experiences. Make sure your ideal self and real self are congruent, therefore creating peace and abundant fulfillment within. What do you stand for and why?

“Sometimes what counts can’t be counted, and what can be counted doesn’t count” (Albert Einstein). Do not compare yourself with anyone, except who you were yesterday. Your very own intangible character traits based upon what you stand for helps preserve visions, dreams, and goals while persevering toward greatness, despite adversity. Know both what to do and what not to do in varying situations, thus expediting your journey toward becoming the best version of yourself. Furthermore, another person’s perspective, especially from a leader, mentor, counselor or coach can guide, teach, inspire and direct our steps, additionally, helping to hold us accountable. Strive toward becoming the person you truly desire and are fully capable of being. Be you!—everyone else is taken.

Gifts are a Choice

“Always be a little kinder than necessary” (Sir James Matthew Barrie). Be considerate too. What kind and helpful things can you do for someone today? If we are not focusing on sharing and offering positive thoughts, deeds, peace, and kindness to the world than we can decide to change our thoughts, attitudes, vocabulary, words, actions, and behaviors before it’s too late, thus helping others and ourselves.

We harvest seedlings planted in either fertile or desolate rock and weed infested soil. Start plucking unwanted thorns and weeds from your mind, in turn, producing health, wealth, love, and joyfulness. Choose to gift yourself the blessings of eliminating devastating anger and resentment from your life, today. Unnecessary pain and suffering gradually subsides into oblivion. Call, write, or just choose to forgive.

Sprinkles of Love and Understanding

Endorphins fight pain and can create a sense of euphoria, which increase with illicit and prescribed opioid use, laughter, coitus, and aerobic more so than anaerobic exercise. Oxytocin creates a bond between people that is released with physical touch. Cortisol is a stress hormone that facilitates the fight-or-flight response by fueling the release of sugar reserves when in danger, which is good, although a constant surge may create harmful blood glucose elevations and can suppress the immune system. Epinephrine or adrenaline release through fight-or-flight, negative thoughts, stress, pain, powerful emotions, such as anger, and stimulants can cause vasoconstriction, hypertension, and increased glucose levels.

Moreover, a continually elevated blood pressure can lead to coronary artery disease, stroke, peripheral vascular disease, and heart attack, among other undesirable ailments. Chronically increased blood sugar levels may cause diabetes, which has the potential to create each of the aforementioned disease processes and a myriad more. We are able to prevent, stop, or decrease the likeliness toward acquiring those ailments by controlling and mastering ourselves. Decide to eat less salt, sugar, and saturated fats, therefore mitigating the possibility of succumbing to unwarranted effects we do not desire in our lives.

Salt, saturated fats, and especially sugar can create instant gratification by dissolving rapidly on our tongue, creating a positive stimuli-habit-reward feedback loop. Like a dog being conditioned to salivate upon hearing a bell, immediately anticipating food, we too can be programmed in a similar manner. Fortunately, we can change our behavior, input, and responses to stimuli through intentional conscious control, therefore leading to subconscious automatic actions. This is why it is crucial not to eat candy, drink pop or chew gum full of sugar while trying to quit smoking or give up any bad habit.

No matter what, love and accept yourself where you are. Don’t procrastinate becoming the best you possible. Help yourself and others compassionately, not hoping for healing or success by passively standing by without action. Forget the plan, lest paralysis by analysis sets in. Just decide and get busy doing it. Begin living your dream life today.

You’re Not Alone

You are not alone in your suffering. No matter what you are going through or have gone through there is someone both better and worse off. People have overcome exactly whatever difficulties, tragedies, terrors, and challenges you’ve experienced or are experiencing. Always try doing your best, while letting go of the past. Live in the present, hoping for and cultivating your future. Plans backed by action pave uncharted roads toward discovering newfound joy and peace, hence success.   

Speak in Love

“Whoever destroys a single life is as guilty as though he had destroyed the entire world; and whoever rescues a single life earns as much merit as though he had rescued the entire world” (The Talmud). Be vigilant about who you are and what you say and do because others are watching and listening, therefore being impacted whether you know it or not. Words have the power to kill or give new life. Words are like the ripples in a placid pond after a rock is thrown, sending vibrations of love or hate into our world. Be aware about how you speak—in verbiage, day-to-day conversation, silence, tone, enthusiasm, influence, and writing. Is love emanating from you?

Brave Independence

Be brave enough to try new things, go new places, form new relationships, and forgive—letting go completely, while loving more deeply. We can learn much by doing, instead of passively sitting on the side lines of life, becoming more futilely dependent upon others for our happiness and everyday personal responsibilities. Passive dependent personality disorder is not uncommon. The character flaws can be remedied through acknowledging they exist.

Awareness is the first step in all healing. Let’s take responsibility for our own lives, not enabling others’ dependence, only encouraging autonomous greatness from within—by doing and believing our part. Acts of service for others are wonderful modalities toward remedying fretful maladies, in turn, becoming more grateful through the process. Live free from anxiety and worry—enjoying who you are and what you have. Think not of lack or deleterious envy, only abundance of blessings in your life.

Mentorship

“Ask the experienced rather than the learned” (Arabic proverb). Doing and experiencing something is much more effective than theory alone. Both successes and failures allow authentic compassion and understanding to stem from knowing pain and pleasure first hand. We can seek out mentors that have five to ten or more years’ experience than ourselves to facilitate beneficial guidance, advice, suggestions, and help toward acquiring our aims and overcoming life’s obstacles. Keep in mind that while seeking mentors, by rushing too quickly to the top, our questions might have been answered by people with less experience and wisdom.

Nevertheless, follow class acts and quality people only. Rid prejudices, looking for the good in others. Remember that we can learn from everyone, even if it’s what not to do. Books, podcasts, mastermind groups, and individual one-on-one in-person, telephone, e-mail, or internet platform mentorships can be very effective toward helping reach personal, emotional, health, fitness, social, relational, professional, financial, and spiritual goals. We can all teach each other valuable insights, promoting useful attitudes, behaviors, and leveraged environments (ABLE), in turn, furthering humanity for the better—one person at a time. Don’t worry about who gets credit, just give generously with heartfelt intentions.

Positive Mental Attitudes

Following is a story I once heard about embracing positive mental attitudes (PMAs) through divine transcendent lenses. A woman awoke one day and had only three hairs left on her head. She said, “Amazing, I can braid my hair today.” The next day she arose with two hairs and said, “Wonderful, I will part my hair down the middle.”  The subsequent morning one hair remained. The lady said, “Outstanding, now I can wear my hair in a ponytail.” The following day the woman had no hair on her head. She said, “Thank God, I don’t have to style my hair today!” Our PMAs and perceptions impact our lives and circumstances profoundly. Positive attitudes truly can change everything.

Revelation: Self-restraint Sprinkled with Action

“So I say, let the Holy Spirit guide your lives. Then you won’t be doing what your sinful nature craves” (Galatians 5:16 NLV). Now, you can live a righteous, self-disciplined, and powerful purpose-driven life with new insights, behaviors, and being hindsight is 20/20. Respect yourself totally, which encompasses mind, spirit, soul, and the beautiful one and only custom made body that is yours. Do not feel misled, guilty or judged due to slip-ups and wrong decision-making. Accepting divine grace and forgiveness covers the mistakes of being human.

Additionally, do not succumb to retail therapy as a futile coping mechanism for temporary fleeting relief because of problems, which only multiplies troubles creating additional feelings of numbness and void. The value of something is relative, although may be directly and individually linked to efficient and effective time given up acquiring it. Each moment before deciding to spend more money than you currently have, think of invaluable time that could be spent with family or working toward goals possessing expansive meaning and purpose, having potential to literally save or positively influence enhancing change in an individual’s priceless, beautiful life.