Courage

“Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering” (Yoda). Be appreciative for all parts of your journey. Both the challenging and difficult times in life make us who we are. Live intentionally with a passionate purpose. In every situation, ask yourself, “What opportunity awaits me here?” Be a good-finder by seeking and expecting good, and you will find and have it.

Autonomy, Self-Control, Competence, Happiness

“You cannot always control what goes on outside. But you can always control what goes on inside” (Wayne Dyer). Have you ever used excuses to justify not doing something? How about criticizing, arguing, blaming, or complaining to rationalize behavior? Do you procrastinate, knowing that tasks need to be completed or a homework assignment or work project is imminently due, which should take priority? Were excuses, arguing, criticism, blaming, or complaining useful? Excuses, procrastination, arguing, criticizing, blaming, and complaining drain our energy and hinder us from starting or finishing our goals. Plan, learn, and move on. Criticizing and complaining about things makes them more prominent and elusive in our own lives. By saying, “I can’t afford it,” we subconsciously program our minds away from money and deeper into debt, poverty, and lack. Instead ask yourself, “How can I afford it?” Get busy so you can afford whatever you desire without thinking negatively. The law of attraction produces and gives back what we frequently think about, do, and give.

Taking Control of You

“If you plan on being anything less than you are capable of being, you will probably be unhappy all the days of your life” (Abraham Maslow). Live large with rich habits by replacing old negative routines with positive forward moving goal-oriented rituals. Let persistent progressive momentum build unstoppable speed and power, breaking through barriers into greatness. Take control of your life and don’t allow negative internal or external factors dictate what you think, do, say, or who you are. Just be authentically you in each present moment.

Living Well

“A professional is a man who can do his best at a time when he doesn’t particularly feel like it” (Alistair Cooke). Practice embracing the feeling of fear and acting anyway. Fear is more scared of you, than you are of fear, especially when you stand up and fight. Action produces results. Stop sitting on your couch, contemplating or pondering in self-pity or regret. You can do it, you can win, and yes you can, so get busy doing it! Focus on doing your best in all situations, including at home, in marriage, parenting, and during work or play. Each moment belongs to you. Live them well.

Plan, Share, Create, Grow

“Everyone has a plan until they get punched in the face” (Mike Tyson). Troubles and set-backs can and do happen, but without a plan in place, failing is the plan. Knowing God’s plan trumps mine grants me peace to keep on keeping on.

“It’s better to have a bruised ego, than a lifetime of regret” (Author unknown). Going against the grain, breaking the mold, creating a path when none exists, offering possible life-giving services, is courage at its best. Go for it—help others. Live out your dreams!

Sharing messages of hope only takes willingness. Being bold and brave entails showing up and doing something to help others, despite possible criticism or embarrassment. Why not share a story of direct or indirect triumph to encourage and inspire others through challenging times? Lighten the burden of others via your personal story of victory. Transformation occurs from the inside out, which can be activated by an inspiring true experience and a spark of encouragement. Stay humble, letting go of an over-sized ego. Don’t waste hurt, trials, and burdens overcome. Share them with the world so others can benefit, knowing they are not alone in their pain and heartache. Strive to be a better person.

Being Better

“Lord, grant that I may always desire more than I can accomplish” (Michelangelo). Don’t’ limit God’s abilities based on your lack. Placing trust in God allows a person to know that God is greater than any fear. Rise above your emotions, intentionally investing in others. We must put our priorities in check, while respecting ourselves, so we can live grander, do better, and give more.

Reward healthy behaviors to reinforce specific actions that generate productive and effective results. The outcomes can be incentive in itself, therefore creating repetition, leading to habit formation. Ask yourself, “What can I do right now to better take care of myself and others?” Too many choices create confusion, complicating decisions, thus leading to paralysis by analysis. Focus on a need and fill it. Don’t think too much. Just do it!

Eternal Sharing

“Thousands of candles can be lightened from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared” (Buddha). Never underestimate the vast glory and power of a soul on fire. One person has the influence and ability to change the world, sending ripples of greatness, inspiration, and love that bolsters the human condition worldwide.

Growing

“To teach is to learn twice” (Joseph Joubert). We grow as we learn and we learn as we grow. We learn as we teach and we teach as we learn. Teaching helps increase our own comprehension about a subject, fortifying the knowledge in our minds, like a sculptor etches together a marble statue. Every cut is important, yet the sum total creates the masterpiece. Assimilate vast knowledge, intellectually and from experiences, into all-encompassing growing understandings. New individually acquired information becomes hardwired through repetition of thought, doing, and subsequently being. We can even think and be by harmoniously thinking and feeling what we desire. Remember what the Bible depicts in Proverbs 23, “For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he.” Let’s continue developing and passing our torches of greatness so others can see brighter light as we become encapsulated in the infinite glow of health, wealth, love, and joyfulness.

Grow Up

Stop succumbing to the demands of others, only to live in resentment. Don’t live to strictly please anybody, including your spouse, parents, or society. Do what makes you truly happy. Be your own grown up individual, not dependent upon anyone for self-reliance, peace or joyfulness. Harmony will come to your relationships by being authentically you. Working hard to achieve another’s vision or goals, only to find they are not your own path to happiness is unnecessary. Let your yes be yes and no be no. Give no excuses for responses, staying true to you, always doing your best. Speak, write, and do only what you believe to be true so your conscience remains clear. Being brutally truthful, sell or influence yourself prior to actively listening, understanding, and persuading another. Practice this gracefully until your dying day. Take 100% responsibility for your life in order to obtain real freedom and personal joy.

Habits

Habits are formed in the brain’s basal ganglia, which is provoked by a stimuli generating a routine from positively perceived or actual physiological rewards. We must consciously choose to do something beneficial, repeatedly, to form long-lasting positive habits. Ingrained rituals result from actively thinking and doing something repeatedly, which bakes in subconscious routines. Linking pleasurable rewards to physical, spiritual, and mental well-being, awareness or recognition, emotions and feelings, creating wonderful peak mental states generates automatic responses. We have ultimate power to change bad routines or patterns of living into desirable fruit-producing lifestyles.