Living Well

“A professional is a man who can do his best at a time when he doesn’t particularly feel like it” (Alistair Cooke). Practice embracing the feeling of fear and acting anyway. Fear is more scared of you, than you are of fear, especially when you stand up and fight. Action produces results. Stop sitting on your couch, contemplating or pondering in self-pity or regret. You can do it, you can win, and yes you can, so get busy doing it! Focus on doing your best in all situations, including at home, in marriage, parenting, and during work or play. Each moment belongs to you. Live them well.

Plan, Share, Create, Grow

“Everyone has a plan until they get punched in the face” (Mike Tyson). Troubles and set-backs can and do happen, but without a plan in place, failing is the plan. Knowing God’s plan trumps mine grants me peace to keep on keeping on.

“It’s better to have a bruised ego, than a lifetime of regret” (Author unknown). Going against the grain, breaking the mold, creating a path when none exists, offering possible life-giving services, is courage at its best. Go for it—help others. Live out your dreams!

Sharing messages of hope only takes willingness. Being bold and brave entails showing up and doing something to help others, despite possible criticism or embarrassment. Why not share a story of direct or indirect triumph to encourage and inspire others through challenging times? Lighten the burden of others via your personal story of victory. Transformation occurs from the inside out, which can be activated by an inspiring true experience and a spark of encouragement. Stay humble, letting go of an over-sized ego. Don’t waste hurt, trials, and burdens overcome. Share them with the world so others can benefit, knowing they are not alone in their pain and heartache. Strive to be a better person.

Being Better

“Lord, grant that I may always desire more than I can accomplish” (Michelangelo). Don’t’ limit God’s abilities based on your lack. Placing trust in God allows a person to know that God is greater than any fear. Rise above your emotions, intentionally investing in others. We must put our priorities in check, while respecting ourselves, so we can live grander, do better, and give more.

Reward healthy behaviors to reinforce specific actions that generate productive and effective results. The outcomes can be incentive in itself, therefore creating repetition, leading to habit formation. Ask yourself, “What can I do right now to better take care of myself and others?” Too many choices create confusion, complicating decisions, thus leading to paralysis by analysis. Focus on a need and fill it. Don’t think too much. Just do it!

Eternal Sharing

“Thousands of candles can be lightened from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared” (Buddha). Never underestimate the vast glory and power of a soul on fire. One person has the influence and ability to change the world, sending ripples of greatness, inspiration, and love that bolsters the human condition worldwide.

Growing

“To teach is to learn twice” (Joseph Joubert). We grow as we learn and we learn as we grow. We learn as we teach and we teach as we learn. Teaching helps increase our own comprehension about a subject, fortifying the knowledge in our minds, like a sculptor etches together a marble statue. Every cut is important, yet the sum total creates the masterpiece. Assimilate vast knowledge, intellectually and from experiences, into all-encompassing growing understandings. New individually acquired information becomes hardwired through repetition of thought, doing, and subsequently being. We can even think and be by harmoniously thinking and feeling what we desire. Remember what the Bible depicts in Proverbs 23, “For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he.” Let’s continue developing and passing our torches of greatness so others can see brighter light as we become encapsulated in the infinite glow of health, wealth, love, and joyfulness.

Grow Up

Stop succumbing to the demands of others, only to live in resentment. Don’t live to strictly please anybody, including your spouse, parents, or society. Do what makes you truly happy. Be your own grown up individual, not dependent upon anyone for self-reliance, peace or joyfulness. Harmony will come to your relationships by being authentically you. Working hard to achieve another’s vision or goals, only to find they are not your own path to happiness is unnecessary. Let your yes be yes and no be no. Give no excuses for responses, staying true to you, always doing your best. Speak, write, and do only what you believe to be true so your conscience remains clear. Being brutally truthful, sell or influence yourself prior to actively listening, understanding, and persuading another. Practice this gracefully until your dying day. Take 100% responsibility for your life in order to obtain real freedom and personal joy.

Habits

Habits are formed in the brain’s basal ganglia, which is provoked by a stimuli generating a routine from positively perceived or actual physiological rewards. We must consciously choose to do something beneficial, repeatedly, to form long-lasting positive habits. Ingrained rituals result from actively thinking and doing something repeatedly, which bakes in subconscious routines. Linking pleasurable rewards to physical, spiritual, and mental well-being, awareness or recognition, emotions and feelings, creating wonderful peak mental states generates automatic responses. We have ultimate power to change bad routines or patterns of living into desirable fruit-producing lifestyles.

Decisions

Once a definitive decision full of clarity has been made, combined with a resilient, determined, and persistent positive mental attitude, the sail is set in the direction you wish to travel. You are at the helm of the ship guiding it where to go. You’re in control of your destination and destiny. Along the journey you may see droves of people being tossed aimlessly around by the wind because they did not set their sail correctly or at all. Have a single-minded focus upon the path you wish to travel. Change course when necessary. Going in too many different trajectories creates busy stagnation leading nowhere. If we do not decide what we want for our lives someone else will. Without maps showing specific routes that direct us where to go we either end up where we are, someplace dreadful, or misguided by people that do not have our best interests in mind. Let transparent meaning and purpose light your heart’s way into the tranquil unknown.

Dare to be Different

Dare to be different and swim against the tide of societal norms. Passivity causes beautiful people to get tossed, turned, and plummeted into boulders, thrown from cliffs, and aimlessly submerged into oblivion. It takes diligent consistent effort and fully conscious decisions to abstain torrent currents, while climbing up dicey hammering waterfalls and freakishly antagonizing rip-roaring undercurrents by abstaining from the lure of trying to please everyone, while forgetting about what’s best for us. Attempting to appease all is futile because only some individuals can be satisfied, merely some of the time. Normal by society’s permissive, negligent or lax standards can lead to pain, poverty, struggle, and double trouble. Create and abide by your own disciplined moral codes, principles, priorities, and life philosophies, today.

Revelation: Self-restraint Sprinkled with Action

“So I say, let the Holy Spirit guide your lives. Then you won’t be doing what your sinful nature craves” (Galatians 5:16 NLV). Now, you can live a righteous, self-disciplined, and powerful purpose-driven life with new insights, behaviors, and being hindsight is 20/20. Respect yourself totally, which encompasses mind, spirit, soul, and the beautiful one and only custom made body that is yours. Do not feel misled, guilty or judged due to slip-ups and wrong decision-making. Accepting divine grace and forgiveness covers the mistakes of being human.

Additionally, do not succumb to retail therapy as a futile coping mechanism for temporary fleeting relief because of problems, which only multiplies troubles creating additional feelings of numbness and void. The value of something is relative, although may be directly and individually linked to efficient and effective time given up acquiring it. Each moment before deciding to spend more money than you currently have, think of invaluable time that could be spent with family or working toward goals possessing expansive meaning and purpose, having potential to literally save or positively influence enhancing change in an individual’s priceless, beautiful life.