Decisions Create Destiny

“It is a human nature to think wisely and act foolishly” (Antatole France). Rise above the past by allowing your renewed character, values, principles, moral code, and life philosophies describe and drive who you genuinely are. Hold those beliefs and principles close to your heart and soul, while constantly thinking about them, therefore acting in such manners. Be genuine through your integrity, honesty, kindness, generosity, goodness, self-discipline, hard work, love, forgiveness, consideration, hope, and tranquil state of mind, high personal standards, and everything that makes you an authentic one-of-a-kind masterpiece.

Listen, learn, and lead. Heed opportunities to keep your mouth closed. Being grateful equates to already, right now; not when or what if. Live in the now. This moment is your life. Not yesterday or tomorrow, only now. Live always in the now. Leave the past behind, be present—forgetting about time. Worry divides the mind. It’s not focused on the present, but past or future problems or mistakes. This leads to heightened anxiety. Let forgiveness wipe clean the suffering of memories. Forgiveness doesn’t minimize or change past events, only brightens and broadens the future. Replace if’s with gratitude, jettisoning the fight-or-flight response of real fear. Perception is not the problem, only the way you see it. Let a positive teachable attitude be the resolution. Remember Zig Ziglar’s wisdom, “quitting is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.” Decisions create destiny.

A Good Example

“A good example is the best sermon. None preaches better than the ant, and she says nothing” (Benjamin Franklin). Transforming our own attitudes, beliefs, values, principles, behaviors, responses, perceptions, life philosophies, and total intrinsic and extrinsic environments is the surest way to help others reform themselves in a positive and forward growing manner. Ants work hard and never stop looking for ways to flourish, seeking food to harvest, building, and preparing for their future accordingly, during each season. We can even learn from ants.

Anger and Gratitude

“He who angers you conquers you” (Elizabeth Kenny). Arguing leaves one and typically both sides at a loss, especially in marital relationships and through argumentative parenting. Do not be a fault finder and persistently tell people what they are doing wrong. Instead, genuinely praise the other person first and then make your requests known tactfully. Ask yourself what the other person wants that will encourage, inspire, and motivate him or her to accomplish a specific objective. Don’t become angry and let fuming out on others only reap their resentment and possible defiance in return.

“Anger is never without a reason, but seldom with a good one” (Benjamin Franklin). We cannot be peaceful and angry at the same time. Remember, delay smothers and soothes the blazing fiery emotions of anger. People may not recall what you said, but they remember how you made them feel. Do not let your emotions of anger fester overnight being our subconscious minds are constantly working for or against us 24 hours daily. Minimize and eradicate anger by using your conscious mind to forgive and give thanks, often. Gratitude leads to happiness, not the other way around.

Optimism

“For myself I am an optimist—it does not seem to be much use being anything else” (Sir Winston Churchill). Remain optimistic and of good cheer about yourself and others. Be tactful and thoughtful with requests. Diplomatically ask, teach, and suggest to people what they may want, and request permission for things you desire without being demanding.

After diligently working the same job for over two years a deserved vacation was assumed. At 21 years of age I told my boss about going on a planned trip to Spain for approximately one month, which necessitated that time off. The response to this unsolicited demand was an adamant denial. With further exploration and insight, asking to vacation in China for roughly the same duration was wise. The request was gladly granted by simply asking and not demanding. People will likely give us our desires through genuinely being thoughtful, polite, helpful, and considerate toward their views and desires.

Joy

“Joy shared is twice the joy. Sorrow shared is half the sorrow” (Swedish proverb). Our intangible virtues, principles, attitudes, beliefs, faith, skills, abilities, and relationships produce lasting health, wealth, love, and joyfulness. Relationships can have a wonderful, yet ineffable component, whereas we cannot describe with words our immense heart-felt emotions and feelings we have for someone, while those awe-struck wondrous relations remain extremely palpable and undeniably moving. Building upon these assets grows life fully.

Remember to be grateful while both receiving and giving joy. How can you give another person joy today? What kind word or deed can you offer someone today? Maybe saying, “I am sorry” or “I love you,” or just listening is all a person needs most today. The opportunities and ways to bless others are endless. You are a beautiful and priceless one-of-a-kind individual with unique experiences and gifts, created for greatness. Thank you for being you.

Loving Our Kids

Disciplining our children is what we do for them through love, not to them as punishment. Children may fuss and complain now about not being able to stay out late, while other kids are doing it. American author and motivational speaker, Zig Ziglar, and other successful parents advocate to be enthusiastic and have an exciting home so other children desire to play there. Zig did this so he could see who his children were hanging out with and know what they were up to. Zig’s positive role modeling toward authentically being morally upright and doing good deeds, more so than just talking, allowed others to imitate that goodness observed.⁷ Walking the walk is much more influential and inspiring than only talking the talk. When our children become older, while not acquiring poor habits or succumbing to bad influences or harmful temptations, they will be grateful indeed. Don’t act or talk like someone you admire—be that person.

Moreover, teach kids they can accomplish incredible feats by removing the ‘t’ in can’t. Show them how to live by living and being the example. Teaching good money, moral, spiritual, relational, principal, health, and character habits will vastly improve long-term quality of life. No better instruction exists than children observing your consistent healthy, positive habits and lifestyle. Your kids will thank you for it, even if they don’t appreciate or know it yet.

Hopeful Future in Each Moment

“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future” (Jeremiah 19:11 NIV). Education cannot be taken away or taxed upon. Never stop acquiring, developing, and strengthening the intangibles in your life. Persistently being truthful, kind, caring, loving, humble, accepting, and authentic, among many other intangible character traits are worthy of our time and deliberate efforts. Becoming the best version of ourselves opens gateways to greatness that no man, woman or child, or even heaven or hell can shut.

Grateful Blessings

“Reflect upon your present blessings, of which every man has plenty; not on your past misfortunes of which all men have some” (Charles Dickens). Focus on the present gift of now, not being hindered by yesterday’s events, which are vapor in the wind. Allow goodness to flow radiant light from every orifice of your presence, while practicing being proactive and not reactive with your life.

Sensational Living

Wouldn’t it be wonderful to wake up each morning full of energy, gratitude, fulfillment, and financial freedom, while hanging out at the beach, surfing or scuba diving, going to the mountains to climb or hike, traveling the world, and living out the life you truly want and are able to live automatically with little effort exerted? You deserve and owe it to yourself to live the very best life possible. You were made for greatness, therefore it’s practically sinful to selfishly hold blessings of extreme and far-reaching magnitude and remarkable value for yourself by not sharing them with the world.

Peace, Forgiveness, and Hard Work

“Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid” (John 14:27 NIV). Embrace the tranquility of divine grace and forgiveness, sprinkled with relentless faith and self-belief. Persistently working hard, coupled with self-efficacy and gratitude manifest wondrous achievements. Be grateful often and in much to counter fear and anger, which can bolster optimism, peace, and positive mental attitudes (PMAs).