Accepting ourselves completely, striving to become better, and living by example are practical ways to win at the game of life. We must not aim for perfection, which can be tormenting and is not obtainable. Let’s shoot for the stars and live an extraordinary life full of goal achievement and vitality. There is greatness in each of you, not yet realized.
Turn should do’s into must do’s by giving them enough reasons why they must be done. Don’t allow excuses, reasoning, self-pity, regret, blaming, resentment, or complaining stop you. Do your musts every day without compromise, no matter what, especially when you don’t feel like it. The power of self-discipline and producing the life you’ve only dreamt about manifests by taking massive action, architecting strategic plans, and subsequently thinking less about events and people standing in your way, while contemplating new creative ideas toward building and growing bigger, stronger, and better ways of engaging with your dreams. The fewer stressors and negative thoughts we have allows for more possibility. Simplifying our lives by forming desirable habits takes concerted effort, although becomes wonderfully rewarding and graciously performed in time. Results will ensue.
Life happens for us, not to us. Live in the blissful tranquility of grace and gratitude. Remember, the past does not predict the future. Forgive yourself and others, learn to live free from constraints and self-limiting beliefs, while moving into success through being present and aware of your genuinely desirable and passionate objectives, constantly. In the morning and before bed, ask yourself, “What do I want and why?” Follow those questions with, “How can I obtain it?” Consistently ask better questions to generate superior answers to problems and goals. Develop specific action steps toward making desires morph into reality. Neurons firing together wire together, thus consistent frequent repetition is key for making strong habitual patterns leading to our desired outcomes.
“Procrastination is the thief of time” (General proverb). Plan out the things that are most important to you each day so they will get done. Chunk time in 10-30 minute intervals for small daily activities, 30-90 minutes for medium-sized tasks, and 90-180 minutes for larger more creative undertakings. Remember to stop and reenergize every 30-60 minutes by taking a brisk walk, practicing gratitude, reflecting on good memories, or performing positive self-talk.
Prioritize what you want in major categories of your life. This includes relationships, parenting, education, spirituality, mindset, personal-growth, health, work, finances, and giving back to society and the world. List a minimum of five things you desire to achieve in each category during the upcoming one to five years. Following is an example of my desires. Make your goals relative to meeting your unique desires, needs, expectations, and standards set for yourself. Remember, this is about what you can do, not someone else, and not trying to change anyone, except you. Relationships can be many….
|Spouse||Say I love you upon awakening and departure, or more.||Perpetually date her as though we are first meeting.||Hug her daily and kiss her each night before bed, or more often.||Be fully present and engaged while listening.||Authentically care about and encourage her dreams.|
|Child||Say I love you and hug him two times daily, or more.||Read to him for 20 minutes daily, or more.||Together, play a game he enjoys twice weekly, or more.||Go someplace new once monthly, or more.||Ask and support what he is passionate about consistently.|
|Friend||Genuinely listen, love, and laugh.||Ask if he is upholding his moral codes?||Tell him I appreciate him.||Go on an adventure together.||Ask, “How can I help?”|
|Parenting||Teach the difference between right and wrong.||Show consistent unconditional love and acceptance.||Maintain boundaries backed with high standards or expectations, values, and principles.||Know his friends.||Tell him that he can come to me about anything at any time. Maintain trust and open communication.|
|Education||Write and publish a book to help people make positive life-producing choices.||Learn two new words, daily.||Step outside my comfort zone daily.||Read daily for at least 30 minutes.||Teach others what you learn through writing, speaking, and blogging.|
|Spiritual||Pray with a thankful heart throughout the day.||Live joyfully by being peaceful and grateful.||Engage with like-minded people offering hope and encouragement.||Read the Bible, devotionals or inspirational books daily.||Go off in nature for 20 plus minutes while meditating on its’ beauty at least twice weekly.|
|Mindset||Write for at least 10 minutes each day in a gratitude journal.||Self-reflect upon what is learned and done daily.||Listen to positive and inspiring podcasts, books or videos daily.||Read about uplifting stories of triumph daily.||Desire an abundance of health, wealth, love, and joy in the lives of everyone that comes my way.|
|Personal-growth||Be vulnerable by sharing life victories to help others.||Do what makes you uncomfortable, daily.||Read and write for 20 minutes or more, daily.||Read your goals and look at your vision boards three times daily.||Persevere by never, never, never, never, giving in or giving up on your passionate dreams.|
|Health||Exercise five times weekly, or more.||Eat mostly foods that are natural without synthetic fillers.||Be mindful of your thoughts, attitudes, beliefs, and principles.||Ceaselessly, love and totally accept yourself, daily.||Know your triggers and maintain the rituals that minimize stressors and tempters, while maximizing the best version of yourself.|
|Work||Show empathy.||Help frequently.||Enhance my current skill-sets and knowledge.||Add more value by learning new skills.||Mentor and role model for others.|
|Finances||Pay yourself at least 10% first, no matter what.||Do not borrow money, except for your mortgage and education.||Focus on income as being the outcome.||Patiently be in it for the long term, while building assets and minimizing liabilities.||Think of ways to add more value to many.|
|Giving||Give free seminars and speaking events about enhancing quality of life.||Share my time generously with my family and friends.||Share monetary resources with causes I believe in.||Teach about health techniques to prevent pain and suffering, while maximizing energy and joy.||Give or create in yourself the tools necessary to offer more to your family and the world.|
“Strong reasons make strong actions” (William Shakespeare). Next, make a list of as many reasons why you want to accomplish those aims. The more whys in each category can make something on your list that was once number one priority, change to number three or four, while number two or five moves into the first place slot. Whichever target in each category has the most reasons why it is important and purpose-driven for you to achieve that objective, make it your number one priority and develop a single-minded focus on accomplishing those specific goals first. You can still do the others, just put more conscious effort into your primary focus.
”Never mistake motion for action” (Ernest Hemingway). Be specific and meticulously detailed about goals, while writing your objectives down on paper every day so time does not slip away into eternal lost yesterdays. Be precise so your navigational mapping system allows exact action-based directions to get you desirable triumphant results. Read the goals you’re working on three times daily, upon awakening, mid-day, and prior to departure. Additionally, dedication, commitment, determination, and perseverance are helpful advocates supporting goal and dream attainment, which cannot be delegated.
“There is only one success—to be able to spend your life in your own way” (Christopher Darlington Morley). Forget about the noise and naysayers telling you it can’t be done, it’s too easy, it’s too difficult, you won’t make any money at it, or any other negative opinionated statements. You are responsible for living your own life, nobody else. Don’t live someone else’s dreams. Command yourself to live your own convictions and callings. God made us passionate beings to get stuff accomplished. We must continuously develop ourselves, therefore manifesting our authentic greatness into the world. Focus on your true desires and disregard the rest. Your passion mixed with top priorities, massive planning, and persistent action can make you unstoppable. Concentrating on serving people and helping make a difference in their lives will take on new profound meaning and purpose that drastically changes your life. Let your why fuel more purpose and meaning, cyclically creating relentless all-consuming fire burning within the depths of your deeply passionate ignited soul.
“One thing life taught me: if you are interested, you never have to look for new interests. They come to you. When you are genuinely interested in one thing, it will always lead to something else” (Eleanor Roosevelt). Believe you can achieve your dreams, subsequently prioritizing what you want, when you want it by, why you want to acquire those goals, and how you will make that happen. Back this up with a persistent ardent insatiable hunger and thirst, leading toward attainment. Be passionate about what you do, who you are, and how you can contribute toward impacting and making a profound difference in the lives of others. Serving people brings joy that morphs into greatness, which far exceeds all compromise. Enhance your gifts, talents, skills, and abilities toward generously helping others, therefore filling yourself up and keeping your cup overflowing with goodness.
“The indispensable first step to getting the things you want out of life is this: Decide what you want” (Ben Stein). Whether you want to have a better attitude, more money, extraordinary relationships, reignite and spark your marriage to new boundless levels, lose 10, 20, 50 or 100 plus pounds, eat healthy, exercise routinely, create an abundance of energy, develop a character transformation, become a remarkable parent, change careers, create a business, generate hope in people or do anything in life desired, it is within reach. Change happens naturally, although growth and progress are intentional.
“I am always doing that which I cannot do, in order to learn how to do it” (Pablo Picasso). Stay thirsty and hungry for continual improvement. Each day be vulnerable and grow by doing something that scares you outside your comfort or security zone. Additionally, writing goals and tasks on paper invigorates a person with purpose and fresh energy to take on the day. Life is about progress, loving, growth, and giving.