“There is only one success—to be able to spend your life in your own way” (Christopher Darlington Morley). Forget about the noise and naysayers telling you it can’t be done, it’s too easy, it’s too difficult, you won’t make any money at it, or any other negative opinionated statements. You are responsible for living your own life, nobody else. Don’t live someone else’s dreams. Command yourself to live your own convictions and callings. God made us passionate beings to get stuff accomplished. We must continuously develop ourselves, therefore manifesting our authentic greatness into the world. Focus on your true desires and disregard the rest. Your passion mixed with top priorities, massive planning, and persistent action can make you unstoppable. Concentrating on serving people and helping make a difference in their lives will take on new profound meaning and purpose that drastically changes your life. Let your why fuel more purpose and meaning, cyclically creating relentless all-consuming fire burning within the depths of your deeply passionate ignited soul.
“For myself I am an optimist—it does not seem to be much use being anything else” (Sir Winston Churchill). Remain optimistic and of good cheer about yourself and others. Be tactful and thoughtful with requests. Diplomatically ask, teach, and suggest to people what they may want, and request permission for things you desire without being demanding.
After diligently working the same job for over two years a deserved vacation was assumed. At 21 years of age I told my boss about going on a planned trip to Spain for approximately one month, which necessitated that time off. The response to this unsolicited demand was an adamant denial. With further exploration and insight, asking to vacation in China for roughly the same duration was wise. The request was gladly granted by simply asking and not demanding. People will likely give us our desires through genuinely being thoughtful, polite, helpful, and considerate toward their views and desires.
“If you have only one smile in you, give it to the people you love” (Maya Angelou). Additionally, truly and sincerely complement others frequently. Tell folks when you like their hairstyle, article of clothing, or smile. Encourage people with kind words. Say, “You will do great at anything you choose,” only if it is genuine and you actually mean it. See in others what they may not see in themselves. People can easily discern flattery from a genuine complement or remark of heartfelt appreciation. Give honest praise to people in public and private often. Sweet talk can cause more harm than good. Let’s remain blatantly honest, while thoughtfully considering another’s view and desires ahead of our own. Those are wonderful gifts we can give daily, which return additional rewards handsomely.
Furthermore, the best way to care for others is by taking care of ourselves first. No, this is not selfish. In contrast, taking care of ourselves first can be the most unselfish and beneficial thing we can do for others. If oxygen masks come down in an airplane and a man places oxygen on his helpless infant son before himself, subsequently passing out, he would be of no further service to anyone. The same is true regarding living healthy lives with appropriate nutrient and caloric intake, exercise, sleep, and total self-care so we can function optimally in order to give, do, and be our best.
“Self-evaluation is helpful, but evaluation from someone else is essential” (Andy Stanley). Be brutally honest while self-reflecting on right and wrong. Your answers are perceptions related to personal principles, beliefs, and experiences. Make sure your ideal self and real self are congruent, therefore creating peace and abundant fulfillment within. What do you stand for and why?
“Sometimes what counts can’t be counted, and what can be counted doesn’t count” (Albert Einstein). Do not compare yourself with anyone, except who you were yesterday. Your very own intangible character traits based upon what you stand for helps preserve visions, dreams, and goals while persevering toward greatness, despite adversity. Know both what to do and what not to do in varying situations, thus expediting your journey toward becoming the best version of yourself. Furthermore, another person’s perspective, especially from a leader, mentor, counselor or coach can guide, teach, inspire and direct our steps, additionally, helping to hold us accountable. Strive toward becoming the person you truly desire and are fully capable of being. Be you!—everyone else is taken.
Do not feel guilt over the past, just thank God for grace bestowed. Forgiving ourselves and others only requires one sincere accepting liberating gift. Gifts are not earned and nothing is meant to be given in return. Why perpetually suffer for the same sin over and over again? Sin being an act committed against your own better judgement. Justice only demands, but one consequence—the internal misery or joy durations are choices. Forgive and move onward, upward, and heavenward toward dreams come true. We can create heaven of hell and hell of heaven. These life-changing decisions are ours to make. Live confidently by choosing wise thoughts, attitudes, behaviors, and environments, now into infinity and beyond.
Let’s be allegiant to our celestial lands of radical unity and harmonious love, serving essential ideals wholeheartedly in all thinking, speaking, and doing. May our attitudes, behaviors and principles of thought correlate with our deep-seated values, leading to divine peace and greatness. Compassionate loving kindness is pragmatically useful being we can help mitigate pain and suffering through generous gifts of thought, word, and deed. Allow permeated truths to dwell in the center of your soul, embracing virtues of excellence as foundational standards for guidance, direction, meaning, and purpose.