Transformational Attitudes

“Experience is not what happens to you, it is what you do with what happens to you” (Aldous Huxley). Develop the attitude that life happens for you and not to you. Blunders can become wonderful blessings in our lives once we accept, remedy, and forgive ourselves and others. Acknowledge the mistakes from our choices, as well as unspeakably unjust cruelties done to us have made us into who we are today. Now, with these PMAs and enlightened acknowledgement, understanding that life happens for us and not to us can profoundly transform our lives.

Making Messages From Messes

Dananjaya Gettiarachichi gave an elegant speech about change. He described that mothers cry tears of joy, sorrow, and shame. After flunking out of high school and getting arrested at 17 years old his mom’s tears of shame created in him a reason to transform his ways and become a better human being. Through exploration and taking risks by doing, Dananjaya graduated from college and still didn’t know what to do with his life. He continued searching and found he had a gift toward inspiring others to make wise choices in life. Through training at toastmasters, Dananjaya’s discovery that he was a phenomenal speaker became known. He won the world championship of public speaking in 2014.¹⁷ He made his mess his message.

No Regrets

“I want to live my life so that my nights are not full of regrets” (D. H. Lawrence). Define what you desire to acquire intangibly so tangible manifestations become indirect attainable acquisitions. Personal development multiplies directly based upon our return on effort (ROE), return on time (ROT), and return on investment (ROI). Give more of what you already have in order to strengthen or receive additional desirable life-enhancing qualities. Don’t wait to acquire talents, skills, and abilities before starting, lest stagnation and procrastination turn into regret and regression.

Easing Another’s Burden

“If I can stop one heart from breaking, if I can ease one pain, then my life will not have been in vain” (Emily Elizabeth Dickinson). Remember that motive matters greatly. Relationships of great value are truly invaluable. Focus your time and resources upon adding value to the human condition by generously helping others with your time, talents, skills, gifts, and abilities.

Own Mistakes and Rectify

“How few there are who have courage enough to own their own faults, or resolution enough to mend them!” (Benjamin Franklin). You are where you are, period. Acknowledge and own poor choices, while forgiving, learning, correcting, and moving on. Look problems head on by making a commitment to your commitment about rectifying any issue currently faced with. Don’t run from a problem or dwell on it, which only reinforces that issue or destructive behavior. We are all in a constant state of change whether we are aware of it or not. If you want to change where or who you are, then do something about it by changing yourself intentionally. Habits change the moment we decide to actively pursue change and do something different, therefore producing new results. Changing your ways is up to you, and you alone.

Time, Truth, Healing

“Men occasionally stumble over the truth, but most of them pick themselves up and hurry on as if nothing had happened” (Sir Winston Churchill). We must courageously heed truth when it helps us make a positive difference in our lives, in turn, in the lives of others. Let’s stop wasting our invaluable time and begin living meaningfully focused, purpose-driven lives. Time and truths have the potential to heal all wounds. Why not allow healing to begin?

Never Giving Up is Living Life

“I promise to keep on living as though I expected to live forever. Nobody grows old by merely living a number of years. People grow old by deserting their ideals. Years may wrinkle the skin, but to give up wrinkles the soul” (Douglas MacArthur). Through proper exercise, combined with embracing dreams, attitudes, principles, moral codes, life philosophies, and ideals we can feel young at any age. Doing the most challenging exercises in any work-out regimen first, allows the body to expend more glycogen (stored usable energy), while optimally completing each exercise routine. The same principle applies toward performing the most energy-consuming tasks prior to doing less strenuous responsibilities throughout the day.

Being Brave

“Courage is grace under pressure” (Ernest Hemingway). Do what you think you can’t do, because you can. No more excuses for past mistakes or current circumstances. Forgive yourself and others, while moving on prosperously with your life. Yes, pain and suffering are real, although you can rise above it all. This is your life, your future, your moment to shine. Be you—not someone else, while persisting at being and doing your best. Working hard on yourself pays massive dividends, creating an easier and fulfilling life most people only dream about. Embrace growing pains toward becoming a better you, today. The journey is well worth it.

Art of Listening

“A good listener is not only popular everywhere, but after a while he gets to know something” (Wilson Mizner). We can learn much by observing people, including watching our kids play or through hearing and heeding their wisdom. Old can learn from young, and young from older. Yes, edification occurs through teaching others, yet even more understanding, applicable knowledge, insight, awareness, and life-changing advice or suggestions comes through the art of listening.

Constant and never-ending improvement is an eternal endeavor. Winners commit to a plan, persevering no matter what. This means never, never, never giving up. Additionally, forgiveness breaks chains, thus granting freedom for progressive growth. Simple pragmatic ideas for a better life occur just from listening. Remember, purpose-driven action is imperative for continual progression.

Choices

Do you hit the snooze button or possess little energy or motivation to arise in the morning? How about the desire or automatic response to exercise, or do you think it’s too much work? Do you want to lose weight, although think it is too challenging to achieve and maintain? Do you desire to stop smoking, drinking, gambling, eating excessively, spending too much money, or jettison any other bad habit? Do you focus on your past mistakes and allow that past to dictate your present and future beliefs?

You cannot change the past, yet the future is so bright it can burn your eyes. Daily choices create power to make heaven from hell or hell into heaven. Attitudes and perceptions are in your control. Live your purpose, thus success, leading to fulfillment. Forget about what anyone else desires from you. Just do and be the best you. Remember, forgiveness brightens your future.