Controlling the Controllable

Feelings linked to our identity have the potential and incredible strength to drive us toward repeating both good and bad behaviors. Be aware what you’re telling yourself about you. Anytime people say, “I can’t,” or feed an addiction or poor behavior with self-limiting beliefs, they are making deliberate conscious and sometimes unconscious choices not to live out their incredible greatness within. Being aware of what you do and why can allow for conscious control over behavioral patterns, therefore giving people the power to consciously choose a fulfilling life instead of downward cycles of misery, regret, and possible early demise. We all have the ability to pick a new identity that cyclically moves us upward, onward, and lifeward.

Healthy Habits

Exercise can release endogenous endorphins, dopamine, and serotonin, thus producing natural peak mental states of feeling phenomenal. Illicit drugs and deadly foods containing cosmic amounts of salt, sugar, and saturated fats are not necessary to get an unsustainable fleeting high, which may lead toward requiring more of an unhealthy stimulus to obtain similar effects. The problem with poor habits, such as eating excessively, gambling, smoking, extreme shopping beyond one’s means, or illicit drug use is that they all release dopamine that binds to dopanergic receptors, thus giving a temporary state of feeling good. That brief state leads to more consumption or possibly looking for other harmful and unhealthy ways to achieve those short-lived feelings.

Our Mind

We use the prefrontal cortex of our brain while using our objective conscious mind to rationalize, make decisions, influence behaviors, and view the beauty around us relative to individualized personality. The amygdala in our temporal lobes controls our emotions, feelings, memory, and survival instincts. Utilizing our subjective subconscious mind that is substantially faster than our conscious mind can bring our new fulfilling life to warp speed. Our automatic subconscious mind uses feelings and moods associated with senses of touch, sight, hearing, smell, taste, and imagination to manifest positive mental memories.

Feel Fear and Do It Anyway–Growth

“Who does not grow, declines” (Rabbi Hillel). Victory is on the other side of fear, uncertainty, doubt, unbelief, and frustration. Learn to look at frustration as a growth opportunity. Ask yourself, “How can I press on despite this problem? What can I learn from this frustration?” Most things feared don’t even happen. Fear is a result of the conditioning of our thoughts, subconscious and conscious minds, beliefs, attitudes, feelings, perceptions and imaginations. We typically are just afraid of our own thoughts and shadows, which we call fear. Feel fear and do it anyway. Do not allow the past to dictate your present or future greatness. Win the prize that awaits by breaking through fear, uncertainty and doubt.

Empathy

Look at people, places, and things through other individual’s filters with empathy. See another person’s view and think for yourself why that person perceives something that way. Is it positive, rational, logical, true, moral, principled, and right? If so, maybe it’s something worth considering adopting for yourself. Keep an open mind and think for yourself with prudent discernment. People that don’t decide for themselves what to do allow others to dictate their lives for them. For everything we say yes to, we are saying no to the rest. Take control of your choices, beliefs, time, and perceptions while living fully, today. Create your dream life full of positive meaning and purpose, starting right now. Meaning depicts the uniquely intrinsic and extrinsic individual connotations given to it.

Ideals

Let’s be allegiant to our celestial lands of radical unity and harmonious love, serving essential ideals wholeheartedly in all thinking, speaking, and doing. May our attitudes, behaviors and principles of thought correlate with our deep-seated values, leading to divine peace and greatness. Compassionate loving kindness is pragmatically useful being we can help mitigate pain and suffering through generous gifts of thought, word, and deed. Allow permeated truths to dwell in the center of your soul, embracing virtues of excellence as foundational standards for guidance, direction, meaning, and purpose.

Build Self-Confidence

“Be like a promontory against which the waves continually break, but it stands firm and tames the fury of the water around it” (Marcus Aurelius). You are stronger and braver than you think. Create an intangible moat built of self-confidence, mental toughness, and fortitude, which surrounds your castle that is impenetrable to enemy forces. Focus on small daily rituals that prime self-confidence and positive lingering moods through small incremental wins leading to colossal victory.