Developing Confidence

The world will go on without you, therefore be humble enough to let fear drive you to be fearless. We don’t own our past or future, only right now. Knowing in our souls that we are mere mortals and this present moment is all that exists, while at some unknown time, our state of existence and moments to experience love, warmth, embracing, giving, being, doing, laughing, and joy will fade from the earth can make seemingly fearful thoughts become insignificantly miniscule vapors of nonsensical emotions fleeting into oblivion. Any fear felt can be mitigated or eradicated through facing it head on and mastering what was once feared. Feel fear and do it anyway. Look yourself in the eye and say, “I will persevere and win, no matter what, because I am a winner!” Let fear fuel you to do what is uncomfortable, often, so you become better, hence more confident, competent, autonomous, and consequently, less fearful. Learn to embrace and enjoy fear as a growing and learning opportunity. Look at pain as a reason to self-reflect upon something that may need to be changed so states of harmony and peace may ensue.

Fear Not

“The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself” (Franklin D. Roosevelt). Most of the time, fear is a byproduct because of thoughts entertained by our imagination, including death. If death is an ultimate fear and the worst thing that can happen, why be worried about what other people think about you? We all will die someday, which is inescapable. What truly matters is how we live each day. Isn’t staying true to yourself more important than wasting your invaluable time or thoughts on frivolous nonsense?

“Death is nothing to us, since when we are, death has not come, and when death has come, we are not” (Epicurus). Do not fear death. Comedian, film maker, writer, actor, and musician, Woody Allen, has remarked, “I’m not afraid to die. I just don’t want to be there when it happens.” Death can be a sweet reward by living abundantly, while spending that beautiful tangible and intangible wealth throughout. Demise clears a way for new, allowing greater good to triumph. Persevering through struggles with thoughtful reflection, permits growth and progress, which can be a wondrous upward lifecycle.

Living Well

“A professional is a man who can do his best at a time when he doesn’t particularly feel like it” (Alistair Cooke). Practice embracing the feeling of fear and acting anyway. Fear is more scared of you, than you are of fear, especially when you stand up and fight. Action produces results. Stop sitting on your couch, contemplating or pondering in self-pity or regret. You can do it, you can win, and yes you can, so get busy doing it! Focus on doing your best in all situations, including at home, in marriage, parenting, and during work or play. Each moment belongs to you. Live them well.

Feel Fear and Do It Anyway–Growth

“Who does not grow, declines” (Rabbi Hillel). Victory is on the other side of fear, uncertainty, doubt, unbelief, and frustration. Learn to look at frustration as a growth opportunity. Ask yourself, “How can I press on despite this problem? What can I learn from this frustration?” Most things feared don’t even happen. Fear is a result of the conditioning of our thoughts, subconscious and conscious minds, beliefs, attitudes, feelings, perceptions and imaginations. We typically are just afraid of our own thoughts and shadows, which we call fear. Feel fear and do it anyway. Do not allow the past to dictate your present or future greatness. Win the prize that awaits by breaking through fear, uncertainty and doubt.

Defeating Anxiety

Any anticipatory anxiety or fear of future events can be mitigated and abated by facing them bravely, head on. For example, rather than trying to avoid making a specific mistake during a speech, go out and try to create this blunder and it probably won’t happen. At least instead of worrying about a future slip up, which likely will not occur, you can now rest peacefully, living fully, today. Practicing this strategy for most worries may just lead to no more foreboding. Additionally, stop looking at storms of yesterdays in the rear view mirror, lest depression set in, stealing moments, hours, days, months and possibly years, which otherwise could be abundant joy and laughter. The past is gone—it will never return, the future is full of glorious wonders, and the moment is tranquility, love, and peace because you choose it so.