Go defeat your worst enemy, which may be yourself, and take control of your destiny. Make your enemy your best friend. Be honest and genuine, full of integrity by keeping your principles, values, attitudes, beliefs, words, behaviors, and life philosophies in harmony with each other. Win by mastering the life only you can live. Begin now.
“It is a human nature to think wisely and act foolishly” (Antatole France). Rise above the past by allowing your renewed character, values, principles, moral code, and life philosophies describe and drive who you genuinely are. Hold those beliefs and principles close to your heart and soul, while constantly thinking about them, therefore acting in such manners. Be genuine through your integrity, honesty, kindness, generosity, goodness, self-discipline, hard work, love, forgiveness, consideration, hope, and tranquil state of mind, high personal standards, and everything that makes you an authentic one-of-a-kind masterpiece.
Listen, learn, and lead. Heed opportunities to keep your mouth closed. Being grateful equates to already, right now; not when or what if. Live in the now. This moment is your life. Not yesterday or tomorrow, only now. Live always in the now. Leave the past behind, be present—forgetting about time. Worry divides the mind. It’s not focused on the present, but past or future problems or mistakes. This leads to heightened anxiety. Let forgiveness wipe clean the suffering of memories. Forgiveness doesn’t minimize or change past events, only brightens and broadens the future. Replace if’s with gratitude, jettisoning the fight-or-flight response of real fear. Perception is not the problem, only the way you see it. Let a positive teachable attitude be the resolution. Remember Zig Ziglar’s wisdom, “quitting is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.” Decisions create destiny.
“And what do you benefit if you gain the whole world but lose your own soul?” (Mark 8: 36 NLT). Moreover, harmful effects can ensue due to excessive gambling, extreme shopping, gluttonous eating, pornography, smoking, mind-numbing alcohol intoxication, and illicit drug use. Several poor behaviors mentioned above have ruined countless marriages, relationships, and even ended in fatality. Do you frivolously love and yield to bad habits more than you enjoy living in victorious freedom by loving and caring for your own mind, body, spirit, and soul? Let’s not stoop down to a level below our absolute best.
“Choose the harder right, instead of the easier wrong” (Author unknown). Transition from dark to light. Stay standing strong, shining bright. Change environments and habits, being it’s easier to avoid temptation, than it is trying to beat temptation. Self-control only lasts so long in the midst of enticement. Cues create propensities toward behaving, acting, speaking, exercising, and eating in certain ways. Knowing what we desire and why, allows for clarity towards planning different measurable choices to implement at specific times, therefore manifesting a brand-new life. Frequent and consistent measurable goals set for specific times makes implementation likely and perpetual, eventually habitual. How we begin life is irrelevant and over, yet the rest of our story can be anything we choose.
“No man is rich enough to buy back his past” (Oscar Wilde). Through ardent desire and belief in yourself, combined with knowledge and skill development, anything you want in life can be yours. Decide to regain, attain, or maintain positive forward growing habits, being they ultimately determine your life and destiny. Even if that entails doing something new, challenging, and scary each day—do it. Make the most of the time you’ve been given in order to achieve, grow, give, and live the greatness God has placed within you. Time is your most valuable commodity and asset, which you cannot buy or get back; therefore spend it judiciously.
“We are what we repeatedly do, excellence is therefore not an act but a habit” (Aristotle). Habits start with our thoughts, leading to emotions or feelings, words uttered, actions and behaviors, habits or routines, which all working together form our lifestyles and destiny. These patterns can be either positive or negative, therefore we must consciously choose helpful ways to live for maximizing magnificent results. What has been learned can be unlearned. What has been conditioned can be reconditioned. What has been programmed can be reprogrammed. We can choose how to respond to both internal and external stimuli. Those choices exist between the impetus and response. In time our repetitive behavior becomes automatic.
“This is the day that the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it” (Psalm 118:24 ESV). Live fully today—our most valuable commodity, hour-by-hour, forgetting about yesterdays, not pondering tomorrows, being the future is now. We have the power to change our patterns by choosing constructive life responses, attitudes, behaviors, and decisions in new deliberately productive, positive, grateful, meaningful, and forward thinking manners throughout each gifted and blessed day laboriously birthed to us. Regardless of parenting presence or lack thereof, we are made with sweet divinity in our core as a gift from our affectionate heavenly Father and friend.
Consider making your bed as a starting point toward creating or fortifying self-control. Practice the daily routine of being grateful for the multitudes of blessings in your life. Each day above ground is a wonderful day to be alive. Taking consistent action when we do not feel like it promotes self-restraint, reinforcing thoughts, words, and behaviors that will thrust us forward by leaps and bounds into living abundantly and full. Grow more influential and magnanimous by the thoughts you think, words you speak, and behaviors you act upon. Attitudes of self-discipline, reception, willingness, cooperation, and genuine self-expression toward god-like noble ideals creates monumentally mighty deft hope, which annihilates the most viciously inhumane seemingly unbearable despair known to mankind. The attitude of hope patiently endures all hardship, while thinking optimistically, believing ceaselessly, seeing realized dreams through darkness, and anticipating and appreciating triumphant victory around the corner. Hope perseveres on this side of ABLE.
“Though a mighty army surrounds me, my heart will not be afraid. Even if I am attacked, I will remain confident” (Psalm 27:3 NLT). “Put on salvation as your helmet, and take the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God” (Ephesians 6:17 NLT). Remember to be brave, act brave. Control your thoughts through positive mental attitudes (PMAs) and positive self-talk. Replace bad with an overwhelming amount of consistent and persistent good.
Furthermore, daily, hug your kids, kiss your spouse, and tell your family how much you love them, give genuine and sincere complements, show up, and be fully engaged. The returns are undeniably rewarding. Go forth with courage and zeal upon your exploration into uncharted terrains and discover the truly brave, adventurous, and beautiful life that awaits.