“They say that time changes things, but you actually have to change them yourself” (Andy Warhol). We all have the ability to change and become the best version of ourselves, but it must be a conscious choice backed by consistent desire, focus, action, determination, persistence, and self-discipline. Getting from where we are to where we want to be takes courage and hard work, which we are all capable of doing. It is through doing and pursuing our dreams that the beautiful metamorphosis of becoming takes place.
It has been said that fleas can be conditioned inside a jar. After hitting the lid so many times they stop jumping so high. The fleas no longer jump out of the jar even when the lid is removed. Recondition your minds and begin living without self-limiting beliefs, today. Success is waiting for each of us on the other side of fear, indecision, nonbelief, and external obstacles.
Similar conditioning has held true for elephants. The programming process results set in after being shackled to the ground while young and unable to break strong ropes. Even while grown and fully capable of becoming unshackled, their unbelief or conditioned response made the seemingly impossible feat that was utterly and easily possible, hinder them from even trying. Do not let that be you any longer. You have too much greatness and potential in you to be shackled by self-limiting beliefs another moment. Go get your greatness out into the world and live out your dreams.
“Courage is contagious. When a brave man takes a stand, the spines of others are stiffened” (Billy Graham). Stop thinking too much and get busy doing more deliberately with powerful intrinsic purpose and meaning. Act as if failure is not possible. Act brave and you will be brave. Internally, feel victory and you will possess victory.
“Trust yourself, then you will know how to live” (Johann Wolfgang von Goethe). We become better human beings by doing things that force us to break through fear and live outside the box where limitations do not exist. People must drive outside their confining boxes or realities of life, therefore engineering a new highway in order to make the unknown known.
“I am always doing that which I cannot do, in order to learn how to do it” (Pablo Picasso). Stay thirsty and hungry for continual improvement. Each day be vulnerable and grow by doing something that scares you outside your comfort or security zone. Additionally, writing goals and tasks on paper invigorates a person with purpose and fresh energy to take on the day. Life is about progress, loving, growth, and giving.
“Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering” (Yoda). Be appreciative for all parts of your journey. Both the challenging and difficult times in life make us who we are. Live intentionally with a passionate purpose. In every situation, ask yourself, “What opportunity awaits me here?” Be a good-finder by seeking and expecting good, and you will find and have it.
If feeling you must complain about something, talk with the person who can do something about it. Ideally, have or seek a practical solution prior to speaking. People or innocent bystanders are not garbage dispensers for your trash and verbal flatus. Being brave and wise enough to seek your manager, spouse, human resource department, coach, counselor or professional whom can most aptly help resolve your complaints is essential to success. We are each responsible and accountable for our own success and places in life; nobody else is to blame. Consistently live with a mental picture at the forefront of your mind about how you desire to live your life.
“The pupil who is never required to do what he cannot do, never does what he can do” (John Stuart Mill). There is not tomorrow, only right now. Live courageously by the motto, carpe diem, which means seize the day. In the tragic, yet emotionally poignant movie, Dead Poets Society, Robin Williams showed his students a trophy case in the school he taught at while describing to his pupils that all those trophies and pictures of people once their ages who were then old and gone had won at sports and in life do to seizing the day. Robin Williams profoundly said, “Carpe diem. Seize the day, boys. Make your lives extraordinary.”¹⁰ Live with a sense of urgency and make your dream life a reality, today.
“Men occasionally stumble over the truth, but most of them pick themselves up and hurry on as if nothing had happened” (Sir Winston Churchill). We must courageously heed truth when it helps us make a positive difference in our lives, in turn, in the lives of others. Let’s stop wasting our invaluable time and begin living meaningfully focused, purpose-driven lives. Time and truths have the potential to heal all wounds. Why not allow healing to begin?
“Cowards die many times before their deaths; the valiant never taste death but once” (William Shakespeare). With hindsight 20/20, many critically ill people tell me about wishing they could turn back time in order to make wiser choices, especially by not smoking, drinking alcohol, or doing illicit drugs. Others talk about saving and investing money early to aid in their health and well-being. Let’s learn from other people’s mistakes and experiences so we can avoid pitfalls and expedite victorious success, therefore leading toward living a more productive, fruitful, quality, significant, purpose-driven, enthusiastic, and wonderful life.
Individuals may develop and succumb to myriads of bad habits to futilely, problematically, and temporarily escape or numb pain, resentment, and guilt from the past, present, or future. Harmful substances or poor rituals may mask regret, self-pity, and sorrow. People may just not understand the problematic effects caused by their actions until worry, distress, and suffering consumes them. The good news is that we have ultimate unlimited power to choose differently. Governing that responsibility toward generating massive sustainable energy and self-discipline to architect our lives takes guts, life-long daily endurance, determination, and unstoppable focus. Work on strengthening both self-awareness and other awareness or perceptions, regardless of your own beliefs. Be one hundred percent accountable for you. Control the controllable and forget about the rest.