“Kindness is more important than wisdom, and the recognition of this is the beginning of wisdom” (Theodore Isaac Rubin). Build your self-esteem and grow positive prosperous behaviors while intentionally being kind to yourself and others. Know that we can learn to acquire any character traits desired.
What comes naturally to you? What interests you most in life? What gives you great enjoyment from life? What do you desire to improve upon? We can train ourselves and obtain training from others that have gone before us and succeeded in a specific endeavor. Find mentors or teachers and obtain the education and skill development required to help turn your dreams and goals into reality. Remember that action combined with limitless self-belief and unshakable faith are the kings of acquisition.
To think confidently we must act confidently. Sit up straighter, speak a little louder, and create and control eye contact while talking with others. Look people directly in the eyes while talking and look at their eyes or mouth while listening. Keep your feet facing the person being spoken with or listened to while not looking over his or her head. While giving a speech think of each person in the audience as though you are having an individual conversation with him or her. Practice giving undivided, considerate, unselfish, courteous, and genuine attention to other human beings, while being sincerely interested in their thoughts, words, attitudes, beliefs, behaviors, intentions, hopes and dreams. Open up toward being vulnerable by allowing yourself to feel their emotions, therefore moving closer toward greatness and a purpose-driven life.
“Trust yourself, then you will know how to live” (Johann Wolfgang von Goethe). We become better human beings by doing things that force us to break through fear and live outside the box where limitations do not exist. People must drive outside their confining boxes or realities of life, therefore engineering a new highway in order to make the unknown known.
The world will go on without you, therefore be humble enough to let fear drive you to be fearless. We don’t own our past or future, only right now. Knowing in our souls that we are mere mortals and this present moment is all that exists, while at some unknown time, our state of existence and moments to experience love, warmth, embracing, giving, being, doing, laughing, and joy will fade from the earth can make seemingly fearful thoughts become insignificantly miniscule vapors of nonsensical emotions fleeting into oblivion. Any fear felt can be mitigated or eradicated through facing it head on and mastering what was once feared. Feel fear and do it anyway. Look yourself in the eye and say, “I will persevere and win, no matter what, because I am a winner!” Let fear fuel you to do what is uncomfortable, often, so you become better, hence more confident, competent, autonomous, and consequently, less fearful. Learn to embrace and enjoy fear as a growing and learning opportunity. Look at pain as a reason to self-reflect upon something that may need to be changed so states of harmony and peace may ensue.
“Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering” (Yoda). Be appreciative for all parts of your journey. Both the challenging and difficult times in life make us who we are. Live intentionally with a passionate purpose. In every situation, ask yourself, “What opportunity awaits me here?” Be a good-finder by seeking and expecting good, and you will find and have it.
“Success in life comes not from holding a good hand, but in playing a poor hand well” (Dennis Waitley). We can become, do, and accomplish anything desired once a radically transparent decision is made, backed with focused action and belief in ourselves. Work on you so you can live the extraordinary life you’re fully, utterly, and completely capable of living.
“Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid” (Albert Einstein). Our self-image subconsciously drives us toward acting, behaving, talking, and performing in certain ways. An individual that sees him or herself as athletic will naturally strive to exercise and be active to maintain that image. In a synergistic state of harmony between our body, subconscious and conscious minds, our automatic mind allows our body to move skillfully while playing sports or agilely moving, such as during an exquisite dance. New skills become engrained into us and the ability to perform competently without nearly as much initial effort continues to enhance through daily repetitive practice. Develop the confident mindset, believing you can, which makes your beliefs come true. Work hard, get good, subsequently enjoying happiness.
“I can resist everything except temptation” (Oscar Wilde). Stay away from people that may tempt you into falling back and who don’t pull, push, persuade, or inspire you forward into the progression of achieving your goals, while maximizing greatness within. May your actions correspond with your needs. I will repeat this important principle multiple times, it is much easier to avoid temptation than it is trying to beat it. It’s best not to acquire the taste or bad habit to begin with. Just think of a box of donuts or cookies being put in front of you. The likelihood of succumbing to temptation is quite high, compared to pastries, pizza, or candy not being optional.
It is irrational and illogical to do something just because our parents, grandparents, or whomever did it a particular way. Their reasons and ways of believing, thinking, doing, and acting may have been or might be erroneous. There is a story of a young woman who habitually cut off both ends of a pot roast. A friend asked her why she did that and the answer was because my mother did it. The young woman asked her mom why she cut the ends off the pot roast and the reason was because her mother did it too. Finally, the grandmother was inquired and subsequently gave the real reason for cutting off the ends of the pot roast. The ends of the roast were removed so it could fit in the small pan and oven that was possessed at the time.
Do not live an unexamined life. Why do you believe, think, and behave certain ways? Is this the best way to live your life? Are you living with purpose and meaning, beyond yourself?