Harness more feelings of love and gratitude to drown out negative mental states incorporating fear and doubt. Don’t be too safe because of what you’ve experienced, or what someone may have said or done to you. Be recklessly courageous and responsible, constantly moving forward. Build your character as a solid foundation toward the path to greatness. Peak elite performers in life achieve greatness through choices upheld by personal convictions, self-discipline, relentless pursuits for profit, desiring to leave future generations better off financially, being humble enough to give others credit, among other intrinsic motivators. Don’t make it too complicated.
“Doing the best at this moment puts you in the best place for the next moment” (Oprah Winfrey). Each day for the next 30 days read that list of character traits and continue adding to it. Be truthful to yourself, while diligently striving to develop the best of you. You deserve the best and your family deserves your best, therefore you owe it to yourself to become the best version of yourself, starting right now.
“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us” (Ralph Waldo Emerson). Right now, write down 15 character traits you like about yourself. Remember that progress only occurs by doing. Write 30 additional character traits you admire in others that you desire to acquire more of throughout your life journey. Work on developing admirable traits within yourself each day. Tomorrow is not a guarantee, therefore do what must be done, today. If this were your last day to be alive on planet earth, would you be proud of the choices, behaviors, and activities you’re partaking in? Is there someone or something you are neglecting that deeply yearns for your attention?
“Kindness is more important than wisdom, and the recognition of this is the beginning of wisdom” (Theodore Isaac Rubin). Build your self-esteem and grow positive prosperous behaviors while intentionally being kind to yourself and others. Know that we can learn to acquire any character traits desired.
“When people agree with me, I always feel I must be wrong” (Oscar Wilde). Legacies, principles, moral codes, and life philosophies can be passed down for individuals to adopt or dismiss according to personal discretion and personality. The vast greatness of legacies is in doing, struggling, being, and becoming a person of ethically upright character that can impregnate the minds, hearts, bodies, spirits, and souls of anyone whom chooses. Our privileged opportunity deciding who we are to be each day by giving and taking seeds of fruitful success is an advantageous privilege for us all. Don’t stop trying, learning, and relentlessly pursuing becoming the greatest version of yourself in order to serve and give the universe what she may otherwise lack. Not trying because of fear is unacceptable.
“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future” (Jeremiah 19:11 NIV). Education cannot be taken away or taxed upon. Never stop acquiring, developing, and strengthening the intangibles in your life. Persistently being truthful, kind, caring, loving, humble, accepting, and authentic, among many other intangible character traits are worthy of our time and deliberate efforts. Becoming the best version of ourselves opens gateways to greatness that no man, woman or child, or even heaven or hell can shut.
“Tell me and I’ll forget. Show me, and I may not remember. Involve me, and I’ll understand” (Native American proverb). Developing our ability to effectively think by infusing our mind with positive applicable knowledge allows us to respond from our automatic subconscious mind when inquired. We must not think about what to say when we ought to be fully engaged in listening and observing another person express him or herself. Take full advantage of opportunities to completely engage yourself in understanding other people, while restraining from giving feedback, unless asked.
Motive matters when we speak. People are substantially influenced by the reason why we do something, much more than strictly what we do or say. Let’s be genuinely interested in what other people want by focusing on their desires equally, if not more so, than our own. Be a leader, knowing leaders are meant to serve, enhancing greatness and abilities in individuals. Remember the global golden rule to do unto others what you would like done to you. Daily, practice asking yourself, “What would I like others to say and do for me?” Take initiative to say and do that for them.
Remember, people have different wants and needs at varying times, therefore, be mindful toward those fluxing desires and necessities. Quality, value, caring, love, acceptance, empathy, gratitude, forgiveness, consideration, kindness, helpfulness, adaptability, and appreciation never go out of style. Inculcate these attributes into your character. Tattoo them in your mind.
It is irrational and illogical to do something just because our parents, grandparents, or whomever did it a particular way. Their reasons and ways of believing, thinking, doing, and acting may have been or might be erroneous. There is a story of a young woman who habitually cut off both ends of a pot roast. A friend asked her why she did that and the answer was because my mother did it. The young woman asked her mom why she cut the ends off the pot roast and the reason was because her mother did it too. Finally, the grandmother was inquired and subsequently gave the real reason for cutting off the ends of the pot roast. The ends of the roast were removed so it could fit in the small pan and oven that was possessed at the time.
Do not live an unexamined life. Why do you believe, think, and behave certain ways? Is this the best way to live your life? Are you living with purpose and meaning, beyond yourself?
“A lie gets halfway around the world before the truth has a chance to get its pants on” (Sir Winston Churchill). Lies, misery, gossip, and negativity hazardously attract themselves, thus avoid them like the plague. Live with radically transparent honesty and truth, which will produce wonderful blessings of tranquility, self-confidence, and trust throughout your life journey.
“Self-evaluation is helpful, but evaluation from someone else is essential” (Andy Stanley). Be brutally honest while self-reflecting on right and wrong. Your answers are perceptions related to personal principles, beliefs, and experiences. Make sure your ideal self and real self are congruent, therefore creating peace and abundant fulfillment within. What do you stand for and why?
“Sometimes what counts can’t be counted, and what can be counted doesn’t count” (Albert Einstein). Do not compare yourself with anyone, except who you were yesterday. Your very own intangible character traits based upon what you stand for helps preserve visions, dreams, and goals while persevering toward greatness, despite adversity. Know both what to do and what not to do in varying situations, thus expediting your journey toward becoming the best version of yourself. Furthermore, another person’s perspective, especially from a leader, mentor, counselor or coach can guide, teach, inspire and direct our steps, additionally, helping to hold us accountable. Strive toward becoming the person you truly desire and are fully capable of being. Be you!—everyone else is taken.