Be You

“Self-evaluation is helpful, but evaluation from someone else is essential” (Andy Stanley). Be brutally honest while self-reflecting on right and wrong. Your answers are perceptions related to personal principles, beliefs, and experiences. Make sure your ideal self and real self are congruent, therefore creating peace and abundant fulfillment within. What do you stand for and why?

“Sometimes what counts can’t be counted, and what can be counted doesn’t count” (Albert Einstein). Do not compare yourself with anyone, except who you were yesterday. Your very own intangible character traits based upon what you stand for helps preserve visions, dreams, and goals while persevering toward greatness, despite adversity. Know both what to do and what not to do in varying situations, thus expediting your journey toward becoming the best version of yourself. Furthermore, another person’s perspective, especially from a leader, mentor, counselor or coach can guide, teach, inspire and direct our steps, additionally, helping to hold us accountable. Strive toward becoming the person you truly desire and are fully capable of being. Be you!—everyone else is taken.

Positive Mental Attitudes

It has been said, “If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change something, change your attitude.” Embracing positive mental attitudes (PMAs) coupled with principled moral codes act as beacons of light or a guiding compass that determines the potential altitude of greatness achieved. Continue being steadfast in your beliefs and faith. Carefully directed beliefs mixed with an unwavering conviction of faith, overtime, becomes a PMA focused on precise strategies of subconscious thought. Know what you believe and why you believe it in order to further know and master thyself.

Serotonin

Serotonin can enhance mood, memory, and intentionally positive behaviors, among other beneficial responses. Serotonin may be more available when we obtain recognition, praise, inspiration, motivation, exercise, healthy food, sunlight, and by taking certain antidepressant medication. If we constantly have negative self-talk, antidepressant medication and exercise will not bring us out of diminishing energy levels, poor moods, and feelings of not being fulfilled until the underlying thoughts, attitudes, and self-limiting beliefs are remedied. Choosing positive thoughts, attitudes, beliefs, behaviors, and environments will change your life. Somebody else is not responsible for your happiness. Thinking that someone else can create your long-term happiness is an erroneous, futile, and impossible feat. Get off that slippery slope before falling into icy waters, which will freeze an already cold and hardened heart. Only you hold the key to true lasting joy, peace, and happiness. Shred or delete your façade and discard. Transform through becoming love.

Do What You Love

“Too many people are thinking of security instead of opportunity. They seem more afraid of life than death” (James F. Byrnes). Actor and comedian, Jim Carrey, said, “You can fail at what you don’t want, so you might as well take a chance at doing what you love.” Jim Carrey learned that valuable lesson from his father who was fired from his allegedly safe and secure accounting job.¹ Freedom lives on the other side of fear and doubt.

Work Hard

“You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make him drink it” (English proverb). Awareness, desire, and focused persistent effort must occur for an individual’s transformation, change, or goal achievement to occur. Delegating this hard work is not possible. Personal development and seeking help when necessary is for the courageous at heart. People can live freely by harnessing willing and cooperative attitudes, therefore unearthing enlightening treasures that sow fruitful seeds into their lives. It is up to each of us to heed the knowledge, be prepared, and harvest relative successes in due season. The voyage to confidently and effectively govern and master ourselves is an invaluably worthy endeavor.

Deciding to Change

It has been said, “If nothing ever changed, there’d be no butterflies.” Death, taxes, and change are three things we can count on in this life. Profound abilities to govern our lives in any direction or manner we choose resides within our ABLE control over attitudes, behaviors, and leveraged intrinsic and extrinsic environments. Making the decision to become responsible and accountable for every aspect of our present lives leads to a liberating opportunity to be, do, and give more than we have ever imagined possible. I congratulate you for taking this courageous adventure into making the scary dark tunnels of unknown potential, wonder and delight, known.

Perception

We each have different experiences, upbringings, and vantage points in life that have molded our current perceptions or realities. Whether they are positive, negative, rational, irrational, right, or wrong our perceptions are real and true to us. By acknowledging our perceptions and reasons why we perceive things a specific way allows us to change skewed, false, self-limiting, and negative perceptions about ourselves. People viewing us through their lenses versus us looking outward or inward can elicit totally different pictures. Possessing erroneous views about ourselves due to people saying mean, untrue, and hurtful things to us as kids or adults can skew our interpretations about ourselves.

We are children of God almighty created in His divine image. God loves you unconditionally no matter what. You cannot earn His wonderful love, forgiveness, and grace. Those blessings are given freely for everyone who decides to receive and believe. Consider getting plugged into a Bible believing church and joining a small Bible study group, which has the power to take a person out of negative environments and into joy-filled positive living.

Becoming engaged with a mastermind group of any kind, especially like-minded individuals, has impactful power to peacefully transform humanity, making an immensely constructive and profound difference in individual’s lives. We can all become anyone and anything we choose through desire, choice, effort, perseverance, self-discipline, passion, and intrinsic drive, more so than extrinsic motivating factors. Let that light inside you brighten peoples’ souls. In all you do today, ask yourself, “Would a successful, kind, empathetic, compassionate, and loving person think, say, or do that?” If not, consider different thoughts, behaviors, strategies, priorities, values, actions, principles, and responses. Live in grace and forgiveness. Embracing the divine encompasses massive responsibility and accountability toward doing what is right, while living a fully abundant fruit-filled life.

Commitment

Be 100% committed to a new strategic plan. Slip-ups are only mistakes that do not define you as a person. A major issue is that when people decide to minimize their standards, succumbing to the fallacy that one puff from a cigarette, just a sip of alcohol, or only one cupcake will be okay—in addition to an individualized set rule, regression begins. Do not break loyalty with yourself, lest trust be lost and difficult to regain. Empathize with the human condition that no person is or ever will be perfect, including yourself. We are all learning, growing, and living at our own pace and race. All is well as long as we do not stop rising to new levels of excellence in any dimension of our lives. Remember that micro daily thoughts, words, and actions make up our macro destiny.

The same goes for relationships with marriage, parenting, friends, co-workers, and beyond, relating to thought, speech, and acts of love or cruelty. Fall or leap forward, not backwards into similar patterns of coping and acting. Living abundantly and full comes from relentlessly moving in a progressively forward direction, no matter what. This mindset about new ways of living becomes branded into the heart, soul, and mind, building lavish lives, previously gone unnoticed and inconceivable. Let the new you begin today, venturing on discoverable paths toward feeling alive and being authentically free.

Revelation: Self-restraint Sprinkled with Action

“So I say, let the Holy Spirit guide your lives. Then you won’t be doing what your sinful nature craves” (Galatians 5:16 NLV). Now, you can live a righteous, self-disciplined, and powerful purpose-driven life with new insights, behaviors, and being hindsight is 20/20. Respect yourself totally, which encompasses mind, spirit, soul, and the beautiful one and only custom made body that is yours. Do not feel misled, guilty or judged due to slip-ups and wrong decision-making. Accepting divine grace and forgiveness covers the mistakes of being human.

Additionally, do not succumb to retail therapy as a futile coping mechanism for temporary fleeting relief because of problems, which only multiplies troubles creating additional feelings of numbness and void. The value of something is relative, although may be directly and individually linked to efficient and effective time given up acquiring it. Each moment before deciding to spend more money than you currently have, think of invaluable time that could be spent with family or working toward goals possessing expansive meaning and purpose, having potential to literally save or positively influence enhancing change in an individual’s priceless, beautiful life.

Be Proactive Versus Reactive

“We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are” (Anais Nin). How we react to ourselves, people, events, circumstances, and our environments are direct reflections of the habits we practice on a daily consistent basis. Become proactive and not reactive toward both internal and external stimuli. We can change our reactions or responses to circumstances, people, and events by controlling our thoughts and attitudes, which can profoundly alter our lives in a positive, effective, and forward growing manner. Ask yourself, “How can I improve or cultivate positive mental attitudes (PMAs) today?” Our happiness depends on it.