A cigarette smoker addicted to nicotine can allow the nicotine to dominate his or her thoughts, moods, actions, time, and health or the individual can take control and eradicate the poor habit, forever. Nicotine not only triggers the release of dopamine, which binds to dopanergic receptors, but can even create more dendritic dopamine receptors. Because of the increased dopamine receptors people can develop more of a tolerance that requires additional nicotine to acquire the same effects. Don’t say, “I can’t stop smoking.” Why worry about a shot not going in before you’ve even taken it? All shots not taken don’t go in. Try try again until successful. Believe that you can and do it. Once you stop, think of yourself as a nonsmoker, saying, “I don’t smoke.”
“As I grow older, I pay less attention to what men say. I just watch what they do” (Andrew Carnegie). We must raise the bar high and do what we should do on a daily consistent basis whether we feel like it or not. Positive character development and reformation is absolutely possible and within your control. Decide to be, do, and give your best.
“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us” (Ralph Waldo Emerson). Right now, write down 15 character traits you like about yourself. Remember that progress only occurs by doing. Write 30 additional character traits you admire in others that you desire to acquire more of throughout your life journey. Work on developing admirable traits within yourself each day. Tomorrow is not a guarantee, therefore do what must be done, today. If this were your last day to be alive on planet earth, would you be proud of the choices, behaviors, and activities you’re partaking in? Is there someone or something you are neglecting that deeply yearns for your attention?
“Kindness is more important than wisdom, and the recognition of this is the beginning of wisdom” (Theodore Isaac Rubin). Build your self-esteem and grow positive prosperous behaviors while intentionally being kind to yourself and others. Know that we can learn to acquire any character traits desired.
Each day emulate Benjamin Franklin by asking, “What good shall I do today?” later followed by “What good have I done today?” Make a checklist of things not to do and what to take action on. Each time something is resisted place a checkmark by it every day of the week. Do the same for a separate list of taking action and character development goals. At the end of the day reflect upon your responses in order to recognize, accept, and embody new ways to improve. These methods can give you a sense of satisfaction through dopamine release, thus helping to reinforce and repeat positive behavior and run from poor conduct.
”Make haste slowly. Haste makes waste” (Benjamin Franklin). Proper body mechanics are crucial toward preventing injury and maintaining life-long healthy exercise routines. Prior to initiating an exercise program, obtain clearance from your medical provider regarding how intense you should work out based on recent physical fitness experience and any previous or current medical conditions.
Furthermore, to mitigate the amount of time directed toward sedentary living, such as television watching, a person may take the batteries out of the controller and place them in a faraway place or on a high shelf. It will take conscious effort and willpower to put the batteries back in. One can even place the television power cable in a distant location to further divert television watching and promote a healthier routine. More radical approaches would be to get rid of the television, cable or subscriptions all together. Help yourself make life easier by making poor habits more inaccessible and difficult to do, while making good habits easier and more accessible. Go to bed in your workout gear or have fitness items next to the bed to minimize excuses for not exercising.
“Men occasionally stumble over the truth, but most of them pick themselves up and hurry on as if nothing had happened” (Sir Winston Churchill). We must courageously heed truth when it helps us make a positive difference in our lives, in turn, in the lives of others. Let’s stop wasting our invaluable time and begin living meaningfully focused, purpose-driven lives. Time and truths have the potential to heal all wounds. Why not allow healing to begin?
“It is human nature to think wisely and act foolishly” (Antatole France). How are your actions representing your thoughts? Would you be proud to share all sound and video footage of thoughts and acts taking place behind closed doors? All of us have shortcomings we are not proud of. Let’s re-examine our life principles, moral codes, philosophies, and standards. Prioritize values and virtues that hold the most conviction and noble clout, while persistently putting them into practice each day. Actions truly do speak resoundingly louder than words, although describe our thoughts more. Be emotionally skillful and mature, behaving in a controlled manner, taking responsibility for all actions and subsequent good and bad consequences, while patiently walking or running through this joyous life.
“In the long run, we shape our lives, and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility” (Eleanor Roosevelt). Take accountability for who and where you are in life. If you desire exponential positive forward progress and something radically different from what you are currently experiencing, definitively decide to valiantly make dreams happen, while never getting stuck stewing in the review mirror. Each day is brand new, full of opportunity and potential. Similarly, you can reinvent yourself daily by heeding wonderful possibilities toward further growth and graciously developing additional gifts, talents, skills, and abilities to give to our magnificent universe.
“May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit” (Romans 15:13 NIV). For change to occur a person with a shopping problem should stay out of the mall. A drinker should stay out of the bar. A gambler should stay out of the casino. A person trying to lose weight should stay away from a buffet. It is easier to avoid temptation than it is trying to beat temptation. Acknowledging that we possess a self-created problem within ourselves allows the ability to let solutions work through and for us. That permits us to change our ways by living in a positive, progressive, forward moving, massively growing manner. As Tony Robbins advocates, “Raise your standards. Change your shoulds into musts. Stop shoulding all over yourself.”