Taking Control of You

“If you plan on being anything less than you are capable of being, you will probably be unhappy all the days of your life” (Abraham Maslow). Live large with rich habits by replacing old negative routines with positive forward moving goal-oriented rituals. Let persistent progressive momentum build unstoppable speed and power, breaking through barriers into greatness. Take control of your life and don’t allow negative internal or external factors dictate what you think, do, say, or who you are. Just be authentically you in each present moment.

Being Better

“Lord, grant that I may always desire more than I can accomplish” (Michelangelo). Don’t’ limit God’s abilities based on your lack. Placing trust in God allows a person to know that God is greater than any fear. Rise above your emotions, intentionally investing in others. We must put our priorities in check, while respecting ourselves, so we can live grander, do better, and give more.

Reward healthy behaviors to reinforce specific actions that generate productive and effective results. The outcomes can be incentive in itself, therefore creating repetition, leading to habit formation. Ask yourself, “What can I do right now to better take care of myself and others?” Too many choices create confusion, complicating decisions, thus leading to paralysis by analysis. Focus on a need and fill it. Don’t think too much. Just do it!


Live according to the serenity prayer, “God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference” (Reinhold Niebuhr). Similar to muscles growing with weights, some tension is required to grow spiritually, physically, socially, emotionally, and relationally too. Be grateful for opportunities to become better in each realm of life. Look toward tension as an opportunity to become a better version of yourself. When there is tension in life, know this depicts we are alive, able to feel and grow. Furthermore, we are responsible for controlling the controllable aspects of hormones and neurotransmitters that generate positive responses and disregarding anything outside our control. Don’t focus on perfection, only diligent effort toward aspiring to be extraordinary by doing and giving your best. Ask yourself, “Am I giving myself and others the best of me? What can I do to love myself and others better, today, and each day forward?”


Work Hard

“You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make him drink it” (English proverb). Awareness, desire, and focused persistent effort must occur for an individual’s transformation, change, or goal achievement to occur. Delegating this hard work is not possible. Personal development and seeking help when necessary is for the courageous at heart. People can live freely by harnessing willing and cooperative attitudes, therefore unearthing enlightening treasures that sow fruitful seeds into their lives. It is up to each of us to heed the knowledge, be prepared, and harvest relative successes in due season. The voyage to confidently and effectively govern and master ourselves is an invaluably worthy endeavor.


“Ask the experienced rather than the learned” (Arabic proverb). Doing and experiencing something is much more effective than theory alone. Both successes and failures allow authentic compassion and understanding to stem from knowing pain and pleasure first hand. We can seek out mentors that have five to ten or more years’ experience than ourselves to facilitate beneficial guidance, advice, suggestions, and help toward acquiring our aims and overcoming life’s obstacles. Keep in mind that while seeking mentors, by rushing too quickly to the top, our questions might have been answered by people with less experience and wisdom.

Nevertheless, follow class acts and quality people only. Rid prejudices, looking for the good in others. Remember that we can learn from everyone, even if it’s what not to do. Books, podcasts, mastermind groups, and individual one-on-one in-person, telephone, e-mail, or internet platform mentorships can be very effective toward helping reach personal, emotional, health, fitness, social, relational, professional, financial, and spiritual goals. We can all teach each other valuable insights, promoting useful attitudes, behaviors, and leveraged environments (ABLE), in turn, furthering humanity for the better—one person at a time. Don’t worry about who gets credit, just give generously with heartfelt intentions.

Think and Act From the Heart

“For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he…” (Proverbs 23:7 KJB). Elevate your standards of thought, speech, behavior, habit, lifestyle, and destiny. Remember Emerson’s insight that, “We become what we think about all day long.” We are all children of God, an infinite intelligence aiding us along our voyage, therefore let’s raise our thoughts heavenward, lest our own self-identity be perverted.


Heeding and acting upon truths creates blazing light, bridging once unknown blackened borders, deepening unseen deadly chasms and obstacles to push, pull, will, jump, and run through, allowing the changing trajectories and patterns of our lives. Let challenges, problems, and unwarranted circumstances in any realm of life fuel growth in all you do, now and always. These are wonderful opportunities to learn, grow, and become better through practicing daily ownership, responsibility, and self-discipline. Embracing an attitude of growth, optimism, and appreciation for people allows mundane to transcend into divine loving joy, kindness, compassion, and triumphant juicy delectable victory. We were and always will be stronger together, embracing unifying visions and missions, sharing, helping, and contributing to the well-being of humanity. This process of growth and hope begins with you and me, never ending until…; not even the end of age.

Be Proactive Versus Reactive

“We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are” (Anais Nin). How we react to ourselves, people, events, circumstances, and our environments are direct reflections of the habits we practice on a daily consistent basis. Become proactive and not reactive toward both internal and external stimuli. We can change our reactions or responses to circumstances, people, and events by controlling our thoughts and attitudes, which can profoundly alter our lives in a positive, effective, and forward growing manner. Ask yourself, “How can I improve or cultivate positive mental attitudes (PMAs) today?” Our happiness depends on it.


Dreams can be achieved once definitive crystal clear decisions are made, combined with self-belief and massive immediate action. Be a dream catcher with a backbone, not a dreamer with a wishbone. Act without excuses, complaining, procrastinating, or blaming. Nothing great can be achieved without doing, coupled with unstoppable perseverance.

“We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark. The real tragedy is when men are afraid of the light” (Plato). One decision can change the entire trajectory of a person’s life. We have a choice to live with or without God. Open the floodgates of your heart, allowing relational intimacy with thy soul. Embracing the divine beats spiritual lack, abandonment, or refusal hands down.

             Spirituality can enhance the depth of internal courage and gratitude. Remember that it’s difficult to be fearful and grateful or brave, simultaneously. Deity-based religions about spirituality focus on decreasing pain and suffering, while increasing love, peace, and compassionate joy. We don’t have to make excuses or let complaining, blaming, and rationalizing why certain people within religions exemplify poor examples to follow. We can do our part by living and directing our lives toward goodness, greatness, grace, love, peace, blessings, hope, appreciation, and an abundant fruit-filled presence and future within each facet of our lives.

             Diamonds’ intrinsic value and extrinsic beauty are based upon cut, clarity, color, and carat. Cut describes symmetry and arrangement of facets, which allows refraction to produce exquisite dazzling colors and sparkle. Clarity refers to the amount, size, and location of inner inclusions and outer imperfections. Color increases value when there is none. Carat depicts how much a stone weighs. When the four C’s are each optimally sculpted together, internal worth and external attractiveness increase substantially.

Which facades of ostensibly brilliant color need to be removed or changed for developing radically transparent honesty, in turn, growing greatness from within, not from without? Do you need more or less temperance, self-discipline, negative mental attitudes, positive mental attitudes, poor behaviors, healthy routines, unhealthy environments, encouraging friends, corruptible influences, impactful mentors, fatal resentment, forgiving freedom, among myriads more good or bad outcomes because of personal choices, impregnating your character composition and life? Allow negativity to transmute into positivity by acting, doing, executing, and repeating superb conduct, upright principles, noble moral codes, and life-giving philosophies. Self-reflection and embracing honorable verities are musts. Moreover, practicing seemingly ceaseless repetitions of good, while thinking less, creates onward, upward, and heavenward trajectories toward actualizing dreams come true.

We are the craftsmen and craftswomen of our lives possessing great abilities to shape our passions, purpose, talents, and life, which, in turn, creates invaluable intangibles in us and working for us, despite mistakes and flaws. What may be perceived as mishaps and defects make us original and beautiful. Everything that has happened in your life molded you into the beautiful person you are. Recognizing that life happens for us and not to us has transformational powers.

Each of us has significant power and immeasurable treasures waiting to be unearthed into existence. How much more passion, beauty, and vivacious scintillating vibrancy exudes from being you? Create each facet of your life to be harmoniously balanced and beautiful, starting from the inside out. Carve, sculpt, and design your individual cut, clarity, color, and carat intentionally, with meaning, precision, and purpose. You owe it to yourself and the world to be the best version of yourself. Do your part, starting now.

The starter pistol has been fired. Why are you still reading this? Seriously, get busy doing, being, and giving more. Think less, so you can do, be, and give more, beginning now. Ten seconds ago was the best time to launch toward your dreams, right now is the second best time.

Self-discipline and the Law of Replacement

Consider making your bed as a starting point toward creating or fortifying self-control. Practice the daily routine of being grateful for the multitudes of blessings in your life. Each day above ground is a wonderful day to be alive. Taking consistent action when we do not feel like it promotes self-restraint, reinforcing thoughts, words, and behaviors that will thrust us forward by leaps and bounds into living abundantly and full. Grow more influential and magnanimous by the thoughts you think, words you speak, and behaviors you act upon. Attitudes of self-discipline, reception, willingness, cooperation, and genuine self-expression toward god-like noble ideals creates monumentally mighty deft hope, which annihilates the most viciously inhumane seemingly unbearable despair known to mankind. The attitude of hope patiently endures all hardship, while thinking optimistically, believing ceaselessly, seeing realized dreams through darkness, and anticipating and appreciating triumphant victory around the corner. Hope perseveres on this side of ABLE.

“Though a mighty army surrounds me, my heart will not be afraid. Even if I am attacked, I will remain confident” (Psalm 27:3 NLT). “Put on salvation as your helmet, and take the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God” (Ephesians 6:17 NLT). Remember to be brave, act brave. Control your thoughts through positive mental attitudes (PMAs) and positive self-talk. Replace bad with an overwhelming amount of consistent and persistent good.

Furthermore, daily, hug your kids, kiss your spouse, and tell your family how much you love them, give genuine and sincere complements, show up, and be fully engaged. The returns are undeniably rewarding. Go forth with courage and zeal upon your exploration into uncharted terrains and discover the truly brave, adventurous, and beautiful life that awaits.