“You can get a lot farther with a kind word and a gun than a kind word alone” (Al Capone). If a gun was held to your head or that of a family member and you were told you must stop a bad habit to prevent death, you could do it. That is called intrinsic motivation. We don’t want to coerce anyone, although we must sell ourselves in order to achieve our dreams. Desire the acquisition of dreams come true as badly as you crave the air you breathe. Dare to be original by being good and principled, while upholding steadfast concrete moral values and associate with people that sustain and reciprocate the like.
“You cannot always control what goes on outside. But you can always control what goes on inside” (Wayne Dyer). Have you ever used excuses to justify not doing something? How about criticizing, arguing, blaming, or complaining to rationalize behavior? Do you procrastinate, knowing that tasks need to be completed or a homework assignment or work project is imminently due, which should take priority? Were excuses, arguing, criticism, blaming, or complaining useful? Excuses, procrastination, arguing, criticizing, blaming, and complaining drain our energy and hinder us from starting or finishing our goals. Plan, learn, and move on. Criticizing and complaining about things makes them more prominent and elusive in our own lives. By saying, “I can’t afford it,” we subconsciously program our minds away from money and deeper into debt, poverty, and lack. Instead ask yourself, “How can I afford it?” Get busy so you can afford whatever you desire without thinking negatively. The law of attraction produces and gives back what we frequently think about, do, and give.
“Success in life comes not from holding a good hand, but in playing a poor hand well” (Dennis Waitley). We can become, do, and accomplish anything desired once a radically transparent decision is made, backed with focused action and belief in ourselves. Work on you so you can live the extraordinary life you’re fully, utterly, and completely capable of living.
“I can resist everything except temptation” (Oscar Wilde). Stay away from people that may tempt you into falling back and who don’t pull, push, persuade, or inspire you forward into the progression of achieving your goals, while maximizing greatness within. May your actions correspond with your needs. I will repeat this important principle multiple times, it is much easier to avoid temptation than it is trying to beat it. It’s best not to acquire the taste or bad habit to begin with. Just think of a box of donuts or cookies being put in front of you. The likelihood of succumbing to temptation is quite high, compared to pastries, pizza, or candy not being optional.
“Are you angry that others disappoint you? Remember you cannot depend upon yourself” (Benjamin Franklin). Look inward for autonomy, peace, and joy, rather than seeking futile outward stimuli, people, places or things to give you what only you can gift yourself from within. Don’t be your own worst enemy. Let’s focus on improving ourselves so we can be self-reliant without being moved by outside events, opinions, or circumstances. You deserve only the best life has to offer. How about changing our attitudes toward this perspective?
Disciplining our children is what we do for them through love, not to them as punishment. Children may fuss and complain now about not being able to stay out late, while other kids are doing it. American author and motivational speaker, Zig Ziglar, and other successful parents advocate to be enthusiastic and have an exciting home so other children desire to play there. Zig did this so he could see who his children were hanging out with and know what they were up to. Zig’s positive role modeling toward authentically being morally upright and doing good deeds, more so than just talking, allowed others to imitate that goodness observed.⁷ Walking the walk is much more influential and inspiring than only talking the talk. When our children become older, while not acquiring poor habits or succumbing to bad influences or harmful temptations, they will be grateful indeed. Don’t act or talk like someone you admire—be that person.
Moreover, teach kids they can accomplish incredible feats by removing the ‘t’ in can’t. Show them how to live by living and being the example. Teaching good money, moral, spiritual, relational, principal, health, and character habits will vastly improve long-term quality of life. No better instruction exists than children observing your consistent healthy, positive habits and lifestyle. Your kids will thank you for it, even if they don’t appreciate or know it yet.
“…Be transformed by the renewing of your mind” (Romans 12:2 NIV). By reprogramming and reconditioning our minds from old conditioned ways of thinking to new strategic approaches we can feel more alive, blessed, joyful, grateful, willing, able, self-confident, peaceful, and full of vitality. Our health and well-being can improve as our lives and the lives around us become fuller because of the goodness radiating from our core being. Transforming our thoughts, attitudes, behaviors, and rituals allows us to enhance effectiveness with our time, be more generous, and filled with love overflowing. Nothing is more powerful than changing the way we think, in turn, making new life-changing decisions. These choices are ours and ours alone to make. Let this glorious transformative growing process begin.
Be brave enough to try new things, go new places, form new relationships, and forgive—letting go completely, while loving more deeply. We can learn much by doing, instead of passively sitting on the side lines of life, becoming more futilely dependent upon others for our happiness and everyday personal responsibilities. Passive dependent personality disorder is not uncommon. The character flaws can be remedied through acknowledging they exist.
Awareness is the first step in all healing. Let’s take responsibility for our own lives, not enabling others’ dependence, only encouraging autonomous greatness from within—by doing and believing our part. Acts of service for others are wonderful modalities toward remedying fretful maladies, in turn, becoming more grateful through the process. Live free from anxiety and worry—enjoying who you are and what you have. Think not of lack or deleterious envy, only abundance of blessings in your life.
Don’t acquire bad habits and you may live a more enjoyable life. The repetition is there again and again on purpose; therefore, the principles must be very important. Do what’s easy today and have a hard life or do what’s hard now and have an easy life. Stop hanging out with the wrong people that drag you down. Listen to positive uplifting music and watch inspirational movies. Stop filling your mind with vulgarity and violence that can lead to immorally hardened or fossilized negative mental attitudes and hearts. The adage, “If it bleeds it leads” is true relating to the negative news. Moreover, cease or replace watching ferocity and listening to profanity by filling yourself up with an abundance of good. Remember, where there is freedom for good, there is freedom for evil. Choose love, liberty, and an abundant life, intrinsically full of autonomy, growth, limitless ability, vision, meaning, and purpose.
Be 100% committed to a new strategic plan. Slip-ups are only mistakes that do not define you as a person. A major issue is that when people decide to minimize their standards, succumbing to the fallacy that one puff from a cigarette, just a sip of alcohol, or only one cupcake will be okay—in addition to an individualized set rule, regression begins. Do not break loyalty with yourself, lest trust be lost and difficult to regain. Empathize with the human condition that no person is or ever will be perfect, including yourself. We are all learning, growing, and living at our own pace and race. All is well as long as we do not stop rising to new levels of excellence in any dimension of our lives. Remember that micro daily thoughts, words, and actions make up our macro destiny.
The same goes for relationships with marriage, parenting, friends, co-workers, and beyond, relating to thought, speech, and acts of love or cruelty. Fall or leap forward, not backwards into similar patterns of coping and acting. Living abundantly and full comes from relentlessly moving in a progressively forward direction, no matter what. This mindset about new ways of living becomes branded into the heart, soul, and mind, building lavish lives, previously gone unnoticed and inconceivable. Let the new you begin today, venturing on discoverable paths toward feeling alive and being authentically free.