A cigarette smoker addicted to nicotine can allow the nicotine to dominate his or her thoughts, moods, actions, time, and health or the individual can take control and eradicate the poor habit, forever. Nicotine not only triggers the release of dopamine, which binds to dopanergic receptors, but can even create more dendritic dopamine receptors. Because of the increased dopamine receptors people can develop more of a tolerance that requires additional nicotine to acquire the same effects. Don’t say, “I can’t stop smoking.” Why worry about a shot not going in before you’ve even taken it? All shots not taken don’t go in. Try try again until successful. Believe that you can and do it. Once you stop, think of yourself as a nonsmoker, saying, “I don’t smoke.”
“Mishaps are like knives that either serve us or cut us as we grasp them by the blade or the handle” (James Russell Lowell). Our attitudes toward our past and present circumstances can lead us toward joy or misery, which is always a choice. We can help each other become great by teaching people what to do, as well as what not to do in order to expedite a victorious joy-filled journey. Be vulnerable enough to tell your stories of both victory and failure in order to help others know what to do, as well as what not to do, while venturing along their expedition. Being bold, courageous, and humble enough to do this has profound potential to lead people into their greatness.
“Experience is not what happens to you, it is what you do with what happens to you” (Aldous Huxley). Develop the attitude that life happens for you and not to you. Blunders can become wonderful blessings in our lives once we accept, remedy, and forgive ourselves and others. Acknowledge the mistakes from our choices, as well as unspeakably unjust cruelties done to us have made us into who we are today. Now, with these PMAs and enlightened acknowledgement, understanding that life happens for us and not to us can profoundly transform our lives.
“A man must be big enough to admit his mistakes, smart enough to profit from them, and strong enough to correct them” (John C. Maxwell). Mistakes because of neglect and ignorance, combined with a lack of direction, meaning, and purpose have the potential to sway others toward or away from doing the same. Make mistakes by striving to do what you ardently desire, rather than because of laziness and neglect.
“As I grow older, I pay less attention to what men say. I just watch what they do” (Andrew Carnegie). We must raise the bar high and do what we should do on a daily consistent basis whether we feel like it or not. Positive character development and reformation is absolutely possible and within your control. Decide to be, do, and give your best.
The insightful, practical, and applicable Bible advises, “Ask and you shall receive.” Formulate your own powerful questions and receive superior answers toward solving problems. Be the solution to your own problems, circumstances, situations, goals, dreams, or desires, today. Nobody owns your thoughts, attitudes, beliefs, behaviors, dreams, life philosophies, destiny or life, except you. Practice outgiving everyone around you in terms of being better than anyone else expects from you. Under promise and over deliver.
Look for good or bad in yourself and others and you will find it. Moreover, while considering to purchase a new automobile or driving one, we begin to see it everywhere because we are looking for it. Bundles of nerve pathways located in our brainstem collectively called the reticular activating system (RAS), filter and eliminate wasteful stimuli, while allowing essential data in. Thanks to our RAS, we can hear our names being called in a crowded noisy room and immediately become aware. Eventually, what we consciously seek, such as goals, becomes an unconscious automatic finding in our subconscious minds. Practice being a good-finder in all people, places, things, and events. In impossible we find possible, in can’t can, in hopeless hope, in faithless faith, in unbelief belief, and on and on. Again, look for good and you will find it. Delve deep within yourself to unleash those seeds of greatness our almighty God planted in you before you were even born.
When we truly want something, as much as air, we will do whatever it takes and go anywhere to get it. Be a go-getter, while embracing positive mental attitudes (PMAs). Negative mental attitudes (NMAs) suck the life out of ourselves, along with those around us. PMAs produce energy in ourselves and others. PMAs are caught like a cold, although vibrate positive energy and wonderful emotions, unlike an illness. Positive attitudes change everything (PACE) is a worthy acronym for us to embrace. We must be aware of our thoughts, attitudes, emotions, feelings, words, principles, values, behaviors, philosophies, habits, and comprehensive internal and external environments. Be true to your dreams so you can make them reality by pushing through undesirable feelings and into success.
“Things turn out best for the people who make the best of the way things turn out” (John R. Wooden). Maintain positive mental attitudes (PMAs), while leaving the other person feeling better with a worthy goal to aspire toward. While desiring my son to pick up his clothes or put his toys away, instead of constantly criticizing or complaining, making a deal works much better. Telling him that he can earn money or toys for putting his clothes and toys away, although for every piece of clothing or toy left out one dollar or one toy is given back. Do you agree? Now, he makes an extra effort to keep his clothes and toys picked up.
Moreover, in the book, Total Recall: My Unbelievably True Story, Arnold Schwarzenegger wrote that he desired for his family to keep the lights off in the house to conserve energy. He ended up unscrewing the lightbulbs. His kids became tired of refastening the bulbs and started turning the lights off when they were not using them.¹⁴ People can get the point without nagging or complaining.
In the book, Believe in Yourself, Joseph Murphy quotes, “It is just as easy to imagine yourself successful as it is to imagine failure, and far more interesting too.”¹⁵ Arnold was all about reps, reps, reps and believing in himself, which massively helped create his success. That is how Arnold lives his life. Just like location, location, location is pivotal in real estate, reps, reps, reps of execution, execution, execution, action, action, action, and doing, doing, doing, practice, practice, practice can create an explosive revolution toward victory. An extra persistent dose of self-belief practically makes achieving goals certain.
“If we work upon marble, it will perish; if we work upon brass, time will efface it; if we rear temples, they will crumble into dust; but if we work upon immortal minds and instill into them just principles we are then engraving that upon tablets which no time will efface, but will brighten and brighten to all eternity” (Daniel Webster). Look at Benjamin Franklin’s 13 virtues and various biblical principles that can be acquired and practically applied. Write down your own virtues, principles, and life philosophies. Examine your lists and decide which maps and strategies should be kept or thrown out. Seek additional beliefs that will profoundly add extraordinary value to your life, hence others as well.
Forget about justice, instead, focusing on grace and forgiveness. Nothing in life is more important than people. Allow mercy to be your policy for the fallibility of human beings. Be a person of value, subsequently adding value to others. Serve others, offering a helping hand, by caring first and foremost. Let helping people meet their wants and needs be a top priority in your life. Increasing energy and happiness will certainly ensue. Give others kind, affirming, and encouraging words, attention, praise, and listening ears. See each person as important and valuable, possessing multitudes of potential. Visualize, respect, and treat everyone as self-actualized, rather than how they see themselves currently. People have good intentions. Embracing positive mental attitudes is a lifestyle. Share with others, giving and doing all things in excellence, above and beyond their expectations.