A cigarette smoker addicted to nicotine can allow the nicotine to dominate his or her thoughts, moods, actions, time, and health or the individual can take control and eradicate the poor habit, forever. Nicotine not only triggers the release of dopamine, which binds to dopanergic receptors, but can even create more dendritic dopamine receptors. Because of the increased dopamine receptors people can develop more of a tolerance that requires additional nicotine to acquire the same effects. Don’t say, “I can’t stop smoking.” Why worry about a shot not going in before you’ve even taken it? All shots not taken don’t go in. Try try again until successful. Believe that you can and do it. Once you stop, think of yourself as a nonsmoker, saying, “I don’t smoke.”
Furthermore, “An inconvenience is only an adventure wrongly considered; an adventure is an inconvenience rightly considered” (G. K. Chesterton). We all have limited amounts of willpower and may submit to temptation, especially when insidious triggers creep up. Get rid of all highly probable harmful paraphernalia, such as ashtrays, lighters, magazines, DVDs, CDs, movies, empty nutrient high-caloric foods and beverages, cigarettes, alcohol bottles, needles, credit cards, pictures, signage, etcetera, which are reminders and tempters toward regressing back into poor habits of thinking, imagining and behaving. Be grateful as you learn and grow, enjoying your adventure toward becoming the wonderfully improved you, today.
“May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit” (Romans 15:13 NIV). For change to occur a person with a shopping problem should stay out of the mall. A drinker should stay out of the bar. A gambler should stay out of the casino. A person trying to lose weight should stay away from a buffet. It is easier to avoid temptation than it is trying to beat temptation. Acknowledging that we possess a self-created problem within ourselves allows the ability to let solutions work through and for us. That permits us to change our ways by living in a positive, progressive, forward moving, massively growing manner. As Tony Robbins advocates, “Raise your standards. Change your shoulds into musts. Stop shoulding all over yourself.”
“And what do you benefit if you gain the whole world but lose your own soul?” (Mark 8: 36 NLT). Moreover, harmful effects can ensue due to excessive gambling, extreme shopping, gluttonous eating, pornography, smoking, mind-numbing alcohol intoxication, and illicit drug use. Several poor behaviors mentioned above have ruined countless marriages, relationships, and even ended in fatality. Do you frivolously love and yield to bad habits more than you enjoy living in victorious freedom by loving and caring for your own mind, body, spirit, and soul? Let’s not stoop down to a level below our absolute best.
“Never feel self-pity, the most destructive emotion there is. How awful to be caught up in the terrible squirrel cage of self” (Millicent Fenwick). Many people that drink alcohol excessively or do illicit drugs are trying to fill feelings of emptiness or a void in life. When a person loses control over themselves and the food or substance is eating (killing or creating a negative effect) them and not the person consuming the food or substance to stay heathy, invigorated with energy and aliveness to achieve greatness, then it’s time for a serious inward radically transparent and truthful self-examination. Be humble enough to ask for help when necessary. None of us knows everything, while acknowledging how little we know may ignite the fuse necessary toward seeking out transformational resources. Don’t die in lonely despair because an oversized ego or fear of embarrassment stole your true potential to fully live an extraordinary liberating life.
“Everyone has a plan until they get punched in the face” (Mike Tyson). Troubles and set-backs can and do happen, but without a plan in place, failing is the plan. Knowing God’s plan trumps mine grants me peace to keep on keeping on.
“It’s better to have a bruised ego, than a lifetime of regret” (Author unknown). Going against the grain, breaking the mold, creating a path when none exists, offering possible life-giving services, is courage at its best. Go for it—help others. Live out your dreams!
Sharing messages of hope only takes willingness. Being bold and brave entails showing up and doing something to help others, despite possible criticism or embarrassment. Why not share a story of direct or indirect triumph to encourage and inspire others through challenging times? Lighten the burden of others via your personal story of victory. Transformation occurs from the inside out, which can be activated by an inspiring true experience and a spark of encouragement. Stay humble, letting go of an over-sized ego. Don’t waste hurt, trials, and burdens overcome. Share them with the world so others can benefit, knowing they are not alone in their pain and heartache. Strive to be a better person.
“Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life” (Proverbs 4:23 KJB). Recognize that what we complain about in others may very well be how we act or the way we think about and view ourselves. Acknowledging our faults, while being brutally truthful takes guts and an open mind. Instead of continually saying, “I am an alcoholic” or “I’m an addict,” just recognize the problem and work at fixing it. Don’t perpetually ponder, meditate, and affiliate your beautiful identity and self-image with something unwanted. Say, “I am a miraculously blessed child forged by our omnipotent, omniscient, and omnipresent God, sculpted and crafted majestically with His meticulously flawless one-of-a-kind mold. My redeeming God shows me unconditional love, acceptance, and forgiveness that forgets, bestows grace, and abundantly supplies me with all my noble desires and needs.” Just tell yourself something juicy, with absolute faith and conviction, which bolsters your truly wonderful identity.
Why claim a disease by name, bringing it to fruition, or establish a deadly condition in the concrete of your subconscious mind? It’s an idea worth considering. No doubt, Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) and Narcotics Anonymous (NA), amongst other support groups can profoundly help maintain higher standards of living and freedom from alcohol, drugs, and other malproductive customs and lifestyles entailing continued deliberate harmful choices. Create good habits by raising your standards, therefore abstaining from poor conducts of living because of newly adopted and acquired productive growth-filled daily life-long rituals. Seriously, form and perpetually perform habits that work best for your triumphant freedom. Always being aware of how important positively baked-in rituals are toward maintaining growth mindsets will lead to wonderful success by staying dignified, honest, loyal, and true to your forever actions.
Find a coach, teacher, mentor, or individual that believes in you. In sports, business, or learning a new skill, how can you believe in yourself if your “trainer” does not believe in you? Genuinely supportive people are tremendous assets toward helping achieve any endeavor, coupled with facilitating long-term progress and massively efficient and effective growth. These leaders will typically see extraordinary greatness, talent, and ability in you that you may not even know exists. You have limitless potential. Develop the skills to be your best. You can and will do it, just believe you can. Success is about desire, clarity, time-driven goals, relentless effort or hard work, determination, and perseverance; much more than IQ or formal schooling.
In time we develop grit and fortitude to believe in ourselves, regardless of naysayers. Self-belief and self-confidence are skills we develop, emerging stronger through proper training and repetitive consistent doing. Life journeys are much more fruitful with positive cheerleaders encouraging our expedition. Let’s surround ourselves with people that are wiser and smarter than we are. Only then can we begin exponentially growing at rapid velocities. Live a legacy and lifestyle exemplifying constant and never ending improvement, embodying moral excellence with each minor and major move.
Consider making your bed as a starting point toward creating or fortifying self-control. Practice the daily routine of being grateful for the multitudes of blessings in your life. Each day above ground is a wonderful day to be alive. Taking consistent action when we do not feel like it promotes self-restraint, reinforcing thoughts, words, and behaviors that will thrust us forward by leaps and bounds into living abundantly and full. Grow more influential and magnanimous by the thoughts you think, words you speak, and behaviors you act upon. Attitudes of self-discipline, reception, willingness, cooperation, and genuine self-expression toward god-like noble ideals creates monumentally mighty deft hope, which annihilates the most viciously inhumane seemingly unbearable despair known to mankind. The attitude of hope patiently endures all hardship, while thinking optimistically, believing ceaselessly, seeing realized dreams through darkness, and anticipating and appreciating triumphant victory around the corner. Hope perseveres on this side of ABLE.
“Though a mighty army surrounds me, my heart will not be afraid. Even if I am attacked, I will remain confident” (Psalm 27:3 NLT). “Put on salvation as your helmet, and take the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God” (Ephesians 6:17 NLT). Remember to be brave, act brave. Control your thoughts through positive mental attitudes (PMAs) and positive self-talk. Replace bad with an overwhelming amount of consistent and persistent good.
Furthermore, daily, hug your kids, kiss your spouse, and tell your family how much you love them, give genuine and sincere complements, show up, and be fully engaged. The returns are undeniably rewarding. Go forth with courage and zeal upon your exploration into uncharted terrains and discover the truly brave, adventurous, and beautiful life that awaits.