“How few there are who have courage enough to own their own faults, or resolution enough to mend them!” (Benjamin Franklin). You are where you are, period. Acknowledge and own poor choices, while forgiving, learning, correcting, and moving on. Look problems head on by making a commitment to your commitment about rectifying any issue currently faced with. Don’t run from a problem or dwell on it, which only reinforces that issue or destructive behavior. We are all in a constant state of change whether we are aware of it or not. If you want to change where or who you are, then do something about it by changing yourself intentionally. Habits change the moment we decide to actively pursue change and do something different, therefore producing new results. Changing your ways is up to you, and you alone.
If feeling you must complain about something, talk with the person who can do something about it. Ideally, have or seek a practical solution prior to speaking. People or innocent bystanders are not garbage dispensers for your trash and verbal flatus. Being brave and wise enough to seek your manager, spouse, human resource department, coach, counselor or professional whom can most aptly help resolve your complaints is essential to success. We are each responsible and accountable for our own success and places in life; nobody else is to blame. Consistently live with a mental picture at the forefront of your mind about how you desire to live your life.
“In the long run, we shape our lives, and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility” (Eleanor Roosevelt). Take accountability for who and where you are in life. If you desire exponential positive forward progress and something radically different from what you are currently experiencing, definitively decide to valiantly make dreams happen, while never getting stuck stewing in the review mirror. Each day is brand new, full of opportunity and potential. Similarly, you can reinvent yourself daily by heeding wonderful possibilities toward further growth and graciously developing additional gifts, talents, skills, and abilities to give to our magnificent universe.
“All things are difficult before they are easy” (Thomas Fuller). We become more fulfilled the sooner we recognize and accept the harmful self-inflicting problems we create within ourselves, while deciding to replace old destructive ways with positive forward moving and life-altering strategies. Paths toward healing manifest after recognizing a problem, accepting or owning the cause, and forgiving ourselves and others for partaking in immoral behaviors. We are ultimately accountable and responsible for where we are in life, period.
People can save their own lives by forming and implementing life-transforming habits each day. Their positive example has the power of sustaining grace to help save many lives as well, even without them knowing. Physical activity is an excellent method that helps replace and break bad habits, in turn, feeling energized, focused, and being in control again while creating a calm, cool, and collected peak mental state.
Individuals may develop and succumb to myriads of bad habits to futilely, problematically, and temporarily escape or numb pain, resentment, and guilt from the past, present, or future. Harmful substances or poor rituals may mask regret, self-pity, and sorrow. People may just not understand the problematic effects caused by their actions until worry, distress, and suffering consumes them. The good news is that we have ultimate unlimited power to choose differently. Governing that responsibility toward generating massive sustainable energy and self-discipline to architect our lives takes guts, life-long daily endurance, determination, and unstoppable focus. Work on strengthening both self-awareness and other awareness or perceptions, regardless of your own beliefs. Be one hundred percent accountable for you. Control the controllable and forget about the rest.
Exercise can release endogenous endorphins, dopamine, and serotonin, thus producing natural peak mental states of feeling phenomenal. Illicit drugs and deadly foods containing cosmic amounts of salt, sugar, and saturated fats are not necessary to get an unsustainable fleeting high, which may lead toward requiring more of an unhealthy stimulus to obtain similar effects. The problem with poor habits, such as eating excessively, gambling, smoking, extreme shopping beyond one’s means, or illicit drug use is that they all release dopamine that binds to dopanergic receptors, thus giving a temporary state of feeling good. That brief state leads to more consumption or possibly looking for other harmful and unhealthy ways to achieve those short-lived feelings.
“We are what we repeatedly do, excellence is therefore not an act but a habit” (Aristotle). Habits start with our thoughts, leading to emotions or feelings, words uttered, actions and behaviors, habits or routines, which all working together form our lifestyles and destiny. These patterns can be either positive or negative, therefore we must consciously choose helpful ways to live for maximizing magnificent results. What has been learned can be unlearned. What has been conditioned can be reconditioned. What has been programmed can be reprogrammed. We can choose how to respond to both internal and external stimuli. Those choices exist between the impetus and response. In time our repetitive behavior becomes automatic.
“Teach your children right from wrong, and when they are grown they will still do right” (Proverbs 22:6 CEV). Compassionate parents discipline their children out of love, lest corruption manifest within. Let’s train our kids to learn self-discipline, perseverance, patience, organization, priorities, work ethic, honest communication, loving kindness, forgiveness, and other useful character traits and skills by allowing them to catch them from our daily consistent examples. Free choice is a great privilege that includes noble responsibility and unadulterated accountability. We can choose our actions, but not the consequences. Repercussions are opportunities for learning to grow smarter, wiser, and more resilient than before. Wise people learn that true freedom increases through routines, self-restraint, ethical behaviors, and delaying gratification. We can all harness considerable understanding with the right lenses and open-minded cooperative mental attitudes of thought, linking perception to transcendent brilliance.
“So I say, let the Holy Spirit guide your lives. Then you won’t be doing what your sinful nature craves” (Galatians 5:16 NLV). Now, you can live a righteous, self-disciplined, and powerful purpose-driven life with new insights, behaviors, and being hindsight is 20/20. Respect yourself totally, which encompasses mind, spirit, soul, and the beautiful one and only custom made body that is yours. Do not feel misled, guilty or judged due to slip-ups and wrong decision-making. Accepting divine grace and forgiveness covers the mistakes of being human.
Additionally, do not succumb to retail therapy as a futile coping mechanism for temporary fleeting relief because of problems, which only multiplies troubles creating additional feelings of numbness and void. The value of something is relative, although may be directly and individually linked to efficient and effective time given up acquiring it. Each moment before deciding to spend more money than you currently have, think of invaluable time that could be spent with family or working toward goals possessing expansive meaning and purpose, having potential to literally save or positively influence enhancing change in an individual’s priceless, beautiful life.