You are not alone in your suffering. No matter what you are going through or have gone through there is someone both better and worse off. People have overcome exactly whatever difficulties, tragedies, terrors, and challenges you’ve experienced or are experiencing. Always try doing your best, while letting go of the past. Live in the present, hoping for and cultivating your future. Plans backed by action pave uncharted roads toward discovering newfound joy and peace, hence success.
The initial insult creating lack of oxygen or damage to the brain is usually the culprit toward later profound disability. Quality of life that does not permanently impede the functioning mind allows for hope, in turn, happiness. There are quadriplegics, people without legs and arms, individuals dependent upon a machine to act as a synthetic kidney, poverty-stricken families—all who choose happiness because it is a choice. Our thoughts, attitudes, behaviors and environments truly can create heaven or hell. The movies we play in our minds are of our making—always have been, always will be. If you don’t like the movie that’s playing, choose to make a new one or edit the existing film—Mr., Mrs. or Miss Producer.
Use the law of replacement to exonerate suffering from the aforementioned sins, encompassing anger, hatred, resentment, revenge, guilt, envy, self-pity, greed, blaming, complaining, and gossiping. Positive in, positive out (PIPO). Garbage in, garbage out (GIGO). Positive mental attitudes, behaviors, and environments can replace the negatives. Determination and persistent positive repetition until our dying day is the way toward embracing this wonderful freedom. Is it worth it? Just ask any successful joy-filled person. Otherwise, ask any miserable unsuccessful individual. Success is a relative term, therefore defining yours will facilitate ascertaining an understanding about your definite purpose in life. Remember to listen in order to understand and respond emphatically to yourself and others. Use your two ears and one mouth accordingly. Beware that misery, indeed, enjoys company. Be careful not to become someone else’s prey, or your own personal victim. Belief in yourself matters most. Turn away from darkness in the underworld, not being afraid to walk alone in the light of grace.
Harnessing and nourishing personal poisons keeps many people prisoners in their own minds, averting the potential to fully be alive and thrive. Just because we have breath in our lungs does not entail that we are living, fulfilled, with meaning and purpose. Toxic pollutants encompass anger, hatred, resentment, revenge, guilt, envy or jealousy, self-pity, greed, blaming, complaining, and gossiping. Lingering waste products remain fueled by continuing to feed these death-traps, in turn, burgeoning the fiery furnaces of hell on earth. Stopping these lethal practices by throwing out this trash is the only way to be truly free from their deadly grasp. Choose growth by seeking, listening, and reading, heeding, and developing wisdom, not putrid garbage. The power to change lives, breathes, flourishes, and grows in you through daily, minute-to-minute choices, creating habitual habits. What do you want to change? Why do you want to change? What’s holding you back? Relentlessly and persistently aim at your target, paying whatever price to hit your mark.
”The fear of the Lord is to hate evil. But love covers all sins. Wise people store up knowledge. But he who restrains his lips is wise. The merciful man does good for his own soul. But the righteous will come through trouble. A man will be satisfied with good by the fruit of his mouth. But counselors of peace will have joy. But those who deal truthfully are His delight. The heart of him who has understanding seeks knowledge.” (Proverbs 8:13; 10: 12, 14, 19; 11:17; 12:13, 14, 20, 22; 15:14 NKJV). Becoming aware of an underlying etiology or cause about why we feel or behave certain ways can lead to personal freedom. With liberation comes greater responsibility to always be and do our best. Understanding builds wings like eagles, the problems may not go away, yet we can rise above them. Intrinsic conflicts and personal pain or suffering remain choices. The decisions lie in our heightened awareness and willingness to heal.
“The way to develop self-confidence is to do the thing you fear and get a record of successful experiences behind you. Destiny is not a matter of chance, it is a matter of choice; it is not a thing to be waited for, it is a thing to be achieved” (William Jennings Bryan). Decide and do, sticking with plans until targets are hit. You will want to give up at times—don’t! Our beliefs, feelings, attitudes, principles, decisions, and values are key components that guide our self-image, self-confidence, self-worth, identity, thoughts, ideas, actions, behaviors, habits, and lifestyle. Whatever is on our minds is at the tip of our tongue or slip of our tongue. We can consciously focus on what we desire to think, say, do, feel, have, be, and give, thus work toward obtaining those desired results. Ideally, start with responsible love. Choose which path to take today, in turn, carving your own road toward or away from internal freedom. Demand responsibility for the past, present, and future you. Though there are varying definitions of liberty, ultimate freedom is being able to do what you want, when you want to do it, while intrinsically increasing love, peace, joy, fortitude, empathy, compassion, passion, fulfillment, helpfulness, understanding, and potentialities. What is your definition about personal freedom and why?
Do not feel guilt over the past, just thank God for grace bestowed. Forgiving ourselves and others only requires one sincere accepting liberating gift. Gifts are not earned and nothing is meant to be given in return. Why perpetually suffer for the same sin over and over again? Sin being an act committed against your own better judgement. Justice only demands, but one consequence—the internal misery or joy durations are choices. Forgive and move onward, upward, and heavenward toward dreams come true. We can create heaven of hell and hell of heaven. These life-changing decisions are ours to make. Live confidently by choosing wise thoughts, attitudes, behaviors, and environments, now into infinity and beyond.
“Whoever destroys a single life is as guilty as though he had destroyed the entire world; and whoever rescues a single life earns as much merit as though he had rescued the entire world” (The Talmud). Be vigilant about who you are and what you say and do because others are watching and listening, therefore being impacted whether you know it or not. Words have the power to kill or give new life. Words are like the ripples in a placid pond after a rock is thrown, sending vibrations of love or hate into our world. Be aware about how you speak—in verbiage, day-to-day conversation, silence, tone, enthusiasm, influence, and writing. Is love emanating from you?
“We are what we repeatedly do, excellence is therefore not an act but a habit” (Aristotle). Habits start with our thoughts, leading to emotions or feelings, words uttered, actions and behaviors, habits or routines, which all working together form our lifestyles and destiny. These patterns can be either positive or negative, therefore we must consciously choose helpful ways to live for maximizing magnificent results. What has been learned can be unlearned. What has been conditioned can be reconditioned. What has been programmed can be reprogrammed. We can choose how to respond to both internal and external stimuli. Those choices exist between the impetus and response. In time our repetitive behavior becomes automatic.
Let’s remember not to perspire when we ought to be sweating. Work ethic encompasses unstoppable diligent effort toward architecting our lives how we wish with the cards dealt to us. There will be ebbs and flows of highs and lows, although maximize the voyage by becoming full of joy, vigor, enthusiasm, and tranquility along our ABLE quest to greatness. Curiosity and desire, combined with helping others is key to our daily vitality. A simple smile or sincere complement is useful and uplifting for all. Who have you helped today?