“The gods help them that help themselves” (Aesop). Do not passively expect blessings to be dropped from the sky into your lap by praying without followed-up deliberate determined action. Let’s do our part and live life on purpose. Remember the law of reciprocation. Blessings may not come in the exact form given, but they come indeed.
“Are you angry that others disappoint you? Remember you cannot depend upon yourself” (Benjamin Franklin). Look inward for autonomy, peace, and joy, rather than seeking futile outward stimuli, people, places or things to give you what only you can gift yourself from within. Don’t be your own worst enemy. Let’s focus on improving ourselves so we can be self-reliant without being moved by outside events, opinions, or circumstances. You deserve only the best life has to offer. How about changing our attitudes toward this perspective?
We create our own mindsets and reactions to people, circumstances, problems, and events. The harnessing power of rejecting or accepting into our minds what we choose, allows us to craft how we think, feel, and behave. Others’ opinions of us are not our business, thus do not concern yourself with them. Do you. They are not you. Furthermore, just because we are cut off in traffic does not mean we should become upset, think what a jerk, retaliate, or perform any inexcusable contemptuous gesture. It may have been an honest mistake. Regardless, let’s give others the benefit of the doubt and choose to love them anyway. Why should we let an external stimuli rob us of our joy, peace of mind, or self-control in any given moment?
Get out of Loserville by running in the opposite direction away from bad influences. For heaven’s sake, stop making excuses and blaming others, which only hinders potential progress. Reasoning with logical rationale will not help us acquire our dreams and unleash greatness within. Real problems, such as the price of gas, cost of food, taxes, not being lent money, etcetera, are still excuses. Ask yourself, “Why am I not where I desire to be in life?” To remain blunt, the only accurate answer is, you. Remember, when we point a finger at someone else, three fingers are pointing back at us. Don’t fall victim to foolish mentality by being average or mediocre when you can become great.
“All things are difficult before they are easy” (Thomas Fuller). We become more fulfilled the sooner we recognize and accept the harmful self-inflicting problems we create within ourselves, while deciding to replace old destructive ways with positive forward moving and life-altering strategies. Paths toward healing manifest after recognizing a problem, accepting or owning the cause, and forgiving ourselves and others for partaking in immoral behaviors. We are ultimately accountable and responsible for where we are in life, period.
“When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves” (Victor Frankl). Have you or a loved one ever felt trapped, seemingly with no way out due to bad decisions or uncontrollable circumstances? I certainly have and overcoming the seemingly inescapable confinement as a result of poor choices is a wonderful and liberating experience.
People can save their own lives by forming and implementing life-transforming habits each day. Their positive example has the power of sustaining grace to help save many lives as well, even without them knowing. Physical activity is an excellent method that helps replace and break bad habits, in turn, feeling energized, focused, and being in control again while creating a calm, cool, and collected peak mental state.
“Never feel self-pity, the most destructive emotion there is. How awful to be caught up in the terrible squirrel cage of self” (Millicent Fenwick). Many people that drink alcohol excessively or do illicit drugs are trying to fill feelings of emptiness or a void in life. When a person loses control over themselves and the food or substance is eating (killing or creating a negative effect) them and not the person consuming the food or substance to stay heathy, invigorated with energy and aliveness to achieve greatness, then it’s time for a serious inward radically transparent and truthful self-examination. Be humble enough to ask for help when necessary. None of us knows everything, while acknowledging how little we know may ignite the fuse necessary toward seeking out transformational resources. Don’t die in lonely despair because an oversized ego or fear of embarrassment stole your true potential to fully live an extraordinary liberating life.
Individuals may develop and succumb to myriads of bad habits to futilely, problematically, and temporarily escape or numb pain, resentment, and guilt from the past, present, or future. Harmful substances or poor rituals may mask regret, self-pity, and sorrow. People may just not understand the problematic effects caused by their actions until worry, distress, and suffering consumes them. The good news is that we have ultimate unlimited power to choose differently. Governing that responsibility toward generating massive sustainable energy and self-discipline to architect our lives takes guts, life-long daily endurance, determination, and unstoppable focus. Work on strengthening both self-awareness and other awareness or perceptions, regardless of your own beliefs. Be one hundred percent accountable for you. Control the controllable and forget about the rest.
Feelings linked to our identity have the potential and incredible strength to drive us toward repeating both good and bad behaviors. Be aware what you’re telling yourself about you. Anytime people say, “I can’t,” or feed an addiction or poor behavior with self-limiting beliefs, they are making deliberate conscious and sometimes unconscious choices not to live out their incredible greatness within. Being aware of what you do and why can allow for conscious control over behavioral patterns, therefore giving people the power to consciously choose a fulfilling life instead of downward cycles of misery, regret, and possible early demise. We all have the ability to pick a new identity that cyclically moves us upward, onward, and lifeward.