Hope

“Hope is a good breakfast, but it is a bad supper” (Sir Francis Bacon). Abundant hope upon arising, combined with massive immediate action is a powerful remedy to problems. Hope anticipates positive expectancy and resiliently perseveres through all obstacles. Embrace dedication mixed with determination, while discovering clarity of passionate singular focused desires. Choose one target, skill, principle, and value or life philosophy to learn at a time, going full throttle until it is achieved. Move on to another after that initial goal is won and done. Any virtue or skill can be developed, grown, and acquired through repetitive intentional practice.

Most importantly, live presently along the way being life happens as we are making other plans. Just breathe. Be happy with what you have and who you are right now, and always. Really, with eyes closed, sitting straight, arms resting on thighs, palms up, focus on your breath, thinking about something you’re grateful for—smile.

Decisions

Once a definitive decision full of clarity has been made, combined with a resilient, determined, and persistent positive mental attitude, the sail is set in the direction you wish to travel. You are at the helm of the ship guiding it where to go. You’re in control of your destination and destiny. Along the journey you may see droves of people being tossed aimlessly around by the wind because they did not set their sail correctly or at all. Have a single-minded focus upon the path you wish to travel. Change course when necessary. Going in too many different trajectories creates busy stagnation leading nowhere. If we do not decide what we want for our lives someone else will. Without maps showing specific routes that direct us where to go we either end up where we are, someplace dreadful, or misguided by people that do not have our best interests in mind. Let transparent meaning and purpose light your heart’s way into the tranquil unknown.

Perspective

Know that life encompasses much more than focusing on our selfish desires, but about helping others. There is genocide and myriads of other tragic horrors going on right now throughout the world. Our lives are not as bad as they may seem, putting problems into proper perspective. Be appreciative for struggles, while seeking out solutions. Reality may be challenging at times, although it is the only place offering real joy and aliveness. Listen to your heartfelt feelings and pains—what are they trying to tell you? 

Be Your Best

“Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life” (Proverbs 4:23 KJB). Recognize that what we complain about in others may very well be how we act or the way we think about and view ourselves. Acknowledging our faults, while being brutally truthful takes guts and an open mind. Instead of continually saying, “I am an alcoholic” or “I’m an addict,” just recognize the problem and work at fixing it. Don’t perpetually ponder, meditate, and affiliate your beautiful identity and self-image with something unwanted. Say, “I am a miraculously blessed child forged by our omnipotent, omniscient, and omnipresent God, sculpted and crafted majestically with His meticulously flawless one-of-a-kind mold. My redeeming God shows me unconditional love, acceptance, and forgiveness that forgets, bestows grace, and abundantly supplies me with all my noble desires and needs.” Just tell yourself something juicy, with absolute faith and conviction, which bolsters your truly wonderful identity.

Why claim a disease by name, bringing it to fruition, or establish a deadly condition in the concrete of your subconscious mind? It’s an idea worth considering. No doubt, Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) and Narcotics Anonymous (NA), amongst other support groups can profoundly help maintain higher standards of living and freedom from alcohol, drugs, and other malproductive customs and lifestyles entailing continued deliberate harmful choices. Create good habits by raising your standards, therefore abstaining from poor conducts of living because of newly adopted and acquired productive growth-filled daily life-long rituals. Seriously, form and perpetually perform habits that work best for your triumphant freedom. Always being aware of how important positively baked-in rituals are toward maintaining growth mindsets will lead to wonderful success by staying dignified, honest, loyal, and true to your forever actions.

Find a coach, teacher, mentor, or individual that believes in you. In sports, business, or learning a new skill, how can you believe in yourself if your “trainer” does not believe in you? Genuinely supportive people are tremendous assets toward helping achieve any endeavor, coupled with facilitating long-term progress and massively efficient and effective growth. These leaders will typically see extraordinary greatness, talent, and ability in you that you may not even know exists. You have limitless potential. Develop the skills to be your best. You can and will do it, just believe you can. Success is about desire, clarity, time-driven goals, relentless effort or hard work, determination, and perseverance; much more than IQ or formal schooling.

In time we develop grit and fortitude to believe in ourselves, regardless of naysayers. Self-belief and self-confidence are skills we develop, emerging stronger through proper training and repetitive consistent doing. Life journeys are much more fruitful with positive cheerleaders encouraging our expedition. Let’s surround ourselves with people that are wiser and smarter than we are. Only then can we begin exponentially growing at rapid velocities. Live a legacy and lifestyle exemplifying constant and never ending improvement, embodying moral excellence with each minor and major move.

Immature Love

“Immature love says, I love you because I need you. Mature love says, I need you because I love you” (Erich Fromm). Strong emotional bonds or bondage form, in part, because of an oxytocin release, among other physiological chemical reactions, which creates a powerful mental fog or misguiding judgement leading to blind love; not true sustaining secure love. Before making a potentially life altering decision remember to intelligently and maturely ask yourself based upon your upright principles and moral codes, “Does the potential upside far outweigh the potential downside? Is the risk worth it?” Don’t sacrifice short-term gain or pleasure for possible lifelong pain, misery, turmoil or death. Build fortifying lifestyles by wisely choosing incredibly good daily habits, consequently generating impenetrable resilience to otherwise insatiable temptation. Meat Loaf sang a song, “Paradise by the Dashboard Light,” which partly goes:

“I gotta know right now

Do you love me?

Will you love me forever?

Do you need me?

Will you never leave me?

Will you make me so happy for the rest of my life?

Will you take me away and will you make me your wife?

I gotta know right now!

Before we go any further

Do you love me?

And will you love me forever?

Let me sleep on it

Baby, baby let me sleep on it

Let me sleep on it

And I’ll give you an answer in the morning

Let me sleep on it

Will you love me forever?

Let me sleep on it.

Will you love me forever!

I couldn’t take it any longer

Lord I was crazed

And when the feeling came upon me

Like a tidal wave

I started swearing to my god and on my mother’s grave

That I would love you to the end of time

That I would love you to the end of time

I swore that I would love you to the end of time!

So now I’m praying for the end of time

To hurry up and arrive

‘Cause if I gotta spend another minute with you

I don’t think that I can really survive

I’ll never break my promise or forget my vow

But God only knows what I can do right now

I’m praying for the end of time

It’s all that I can do

Praying for the end of time, so I can end my life with you!”

“Say to the righteous that it will go well with them, for they will eat the fruit of their actions” (Isaiah 3:10 NASB). Please don’t succumb to lustful instant gratification or yield to temptation without fully understanding yourself, lest you end up like the pour soul described in that song. Don’t become blindsided or shocked by something that could have been made known through wise questions and answers prior to making the most impactful leap of your life. Obtain premarital counseling and know each other’s current health status and values (especially physical and emotional), financial situation and standards of excellence, definition of love and commitment, all children involved, amount of children desired, religious or spiritual beliefs, desirable locations to live, and one another’s dreams, among other important factors to consider. Stand alone for as long as it takes. Choosing to remain single by choice or patiently waiting for the right person is more admirable than making haste, for haste makes waste. Be intentionally patient in order to live a good life filled with an abundance of health, wealth, love, and joyfulness.

Dare to be Different

Dare to be different and swim against the tide of societal norms. Passivity causes beautiful people to get tossed, turned, and plummeted into boulders, thrown from cliffs, and aimlessly submerged into oblivion. It takes diligent consistent effort and fully conscious decisions to abstain torrent currents, while climbing up dicey hammering waterfalls and freakishly antagonizing rip-roaring undercurrents by abstaining from the lure of trying to please everyone, while forgetting about what’s best for us. Attempting to appease all is futile because only some individuals can be satisfied, merely some of the time. Normal by society’s permissive, negligent or lax standards can lead to pain, poverty, struggle, and double trouble. Create and abide by your own disciplined moral codes, principles, priorities, and life philosophies, today.

Limitless Lives

Don’t acquire bad habits and you may live a more enjoyable life. The repetition is there again and again on purpose; therefore, the principles must be very important. Do what’s easy today and have a hard life or do what’s hard now and have an easy life. Stop hanging out with the wrong people that drag you down. Listen to positive uplifting music and watch inspirational movies. Stop filling your mind with vulgarity and violence that can lead to immorally hardened or fossilized negative mental attitudes and hearts. The adage, “If it bleeds it leads” is true relating to the negative news. Moreover, cease or replace watching ferocity and listening to profanity by filling yourself up with an abundance of good. Remember, where there is freedom for good, there is freedom for evil. Choose love, liberty, and an abundant life, intrinsically full of autonomy, growth, limitless ability, vision, meaning, and purpose.

Opportunities

Heeding and acting upon truths creates blazing light, bridging once unknown blackened borders, deepening unseen deadly chasms and obstacles to push, pull, will, jump, and run through, allowing the changing trajectories and patterns of our lives. Let challenges, problems, and unwarranted circumstances in any realm of life fuel growth in all you do, now and always. These are wonderful opportunities to learn, grow, and become better through practicing daily ownership, responsibility, and self-discipline. Embracing an attitude of growth, optimism, and appreciation for people allows mundane to transcend into divine loving joy, kindness, compassion, and triumphant juicy delectable victory. We were and always will be stronger together, embracing unifying visions and missions, sharing, helping, and contributing to the well-being of humanity. This process of growth and hope begins with you and me, never ending until…; not even the end of age.

Commitment

Be 100% committed to a new strategic plan. Slip-ups are only mistakes that do not define you as a person. A major issue is that when people decide to minimize their standards, succumbing to the fallacy that one puff from a cigarette, just a sip of alcohol, or only one cupcake will be okay—in addition to an individualized set rule, regression begins. Do not break loyalty with yourself, lest trust be lost and difficult to regain. Empathize with the human condition that no person is or ever will be perfect, including yourself. We are all learning, growing, and living at our own pace and race. All is well as long as we do not stop rising to new levels of excellence in any dimension of our lives. Remember that micro daily thoughts, words, and actions make up our macro destiny.

The same goes for relationships with marriage, parenting, friends, co-workers, and beyond, relating to thought, speech, and acts of love or cruelty. Fall or leap forward, not backwards into similar patterns of coping and acting. Living abundantly and full comes from relentlessly moving in a progressively forward direction, no matter what. This mindset about new ways of living becomes branded into the heart, soul, and mind, building lavish lives, previously gone unnoticed and inconceivable. Let the new you begin today, venturing on discoverable paths toward feeling alive and being authentically free.

Authentic Freedom

Undisciplined freedom can be hazardous to ourselves and others. Too little liberty or slavery from gluing harmful acts with our identity minimizes growth opportunities, leaving us childish, immature, paralyzed, and grossly and harmfully sticky. Similar to a viscous deadly mouse trap, keeping excessive adhesive by continuously catching and propagating bad behavior from our poor surroundings allows corruptible garbage into our minds, making us terminally ill slaves being smoked and baked into the ground. The only way to remedy our sickness lies within acknowledging, owning, desiring, seeking, and doggedly doing something radically different.  

Taking responsibility for our lives and completely owning all we do and who we are entails recognizing and controlling the responses we make between both our intrinsic and extrinsic environments. Infused with self-discipline, self-restraint, and temperance, boundaries and limits create boundless and limitless abundant lives. Let’s choose to fix any small problem, sooner rather than later, preventing insidious benign infections from morphing, growing, and metastasizing cyclically throughout our mind, body, spirit, and soul. Be useful to yourself by utilizing the law of replacement. Eradicating bad habits, pollution, toxicity, and corruption from our lives occurs through being strategically intentional. Embracing good routines with loving kindness empowers the ability to drown out poor rituals, one death trap at a time.