Eradicating Bad Habits

“A habit cannot be tossed out the window; it must be coaxed down the stairs one step at a time” (Mark Twain). Focus on eradicating one poor ritual at a time. Replacing the bad habit with a positive, productive, and repetitive practice can eliminate the poor routine from one’s life. Setting a definitive time in the future, no longer than three months out, to stop smoking can build positive anticipation that facilitates the cessation process. Physical symptoms, such as anxiety, insomnia, and irritability may last up to two weeks. After that short duration the winning battle is in the mind. The time and trouble to become healthier is extremely short compared to the wonderful life-giving payoff. Sugarless gum or candy, coupled with physical activity can help tremendously.

Helping Others

“Mishaps are like knives that either serve us or cut us as we grasp them by the blade or the handle” (James Russell Lowell). Our attitudes toward our past and present circumstances can lead us toward joy or misery, which is always a choice. We can help each other become great by teaching people what to do, as well as what not to do in order to expedite a victorious joy-filled journey. Be vulnerable enough to tell your stories of both victory and failure in order to help others know what to do, as well as what not to do, while venturing along their expedition. Being bold, courageous, and humble enough to do this has profound potential to lead people into their greatness.

Transformational Attitudes

“Experience is not what happens to you, it is what you do with what happens to you” (Aldous Huxley). Develop the attitude that life happens for you and not to you. Blunders can become wonderful blessings in our lives once we accept, remedy, and forgive ourselves and others. Acknowledge the mistakes from our choices, as well as unspeakably unjust cruelties done to us have made us into who we are today. Now, with these PMAs and enlightened acknowledgement, understanding that life happens for us and not to us can profoundly transform our lives.

Making Mistakes Assets

“A man must be big enough to admit his mistakes, smart enough to profit from them, and strong enough to correct them” (John C. Maxwell). Mistakes because of neglect and ignorance, combined with a lack of direction, meaning, and purpose have the potential to sway others toward or away from doing the same. Make mistakes by striving to do what you ardently desire, rather than because of laziness and neglect.

Making Messages From Messes

Dananjaya Gettiarachichi gave an elegant speech about change. He described that mothers cry tears of joy, sorrow, and shame. After flunking out of high school and getting arrested at 17 years old his mom’s tears of shame created in him a reason to transform his ways and become a better human being. Through exploration and taking risks by doing, Dananjaya graduated from college and still didn’t know what to do with his life. He continued searching and found he had a gift toward inspiring others to make wise choices in life. Through training at toastmasters, Dananjaya’s discovery that he was a phenomenal speaker became known. He won the world championship of public speaking in 2014.¹⁷ He made his mess his message.

Pursue Your Dreams

Being a wonderful father or mother, son or daughter, husband or wife, an individual living out a mission or calling versus working a job or having a profession, and becoming physically, mentally, emotionally, socially, and spiritually fit, ensues through self-improvement. Growth and personal development are lifelong pursuits, which is why the persistent, relentless, courageous, and faithful individuals ascend higher than most. Winners are competing against themselves, while choosing to live without limitations, ceilings, or borders. Be boundless by embracing your true authentic self that produces real freedom and fulfillment. Remember, your opinion matters most and must guide your journey, not other people’s opinions about you. Be brave enough to believe in yourself and in the power of pursuing your dreams.

Joy Via Humbleness

“You can accomplish anything in life, provided you do not mind who gets the credit” (Harry S. Truman). That way any route navigated has potential to produce many delectable fruits. Possessing this humble approach allows true selflessness and greatness to permeate our world. The wonderful gifts we can give by minimizing our own egos and maximizing caring about helping others enhances their joy, as well as our own.

Raise Your Standards

“As I grow older, I pay less attention to what men say. I just watch what they do” (Andrew Carnegie). We must raise the bar high and do what we should do on a daily consistent basis whether we feel like it or not. Positive character development and reformation is absolutely possible and within your control. Decide to be, do, and give your best.

Harmony

“It is human nature to think wisely and act foolishly” (Antatole France). If people think they should live with integrity, yet do not follow through on promises, there will be inner conflict. When we say and do what is harmoniously in sync with the internal blueprint regarding how we believe our lives, including the world around us should be, magnificent beauty and peace of mind triumphs. Integrity is only working at half its potential power when a person believes his or her integrity should be 100%, although only behaves honestly 50% of the time.