“You can get a lot farther with a kind word and a gun than a kind word alone” (Al Capone). If a gun was held to your head or that of a family member and you were told you must stop a bad habit to prevent death, you could do it. That is called intrinsic motivation. We don’t want to coerce anyone, although we must sell ourselves in order to achieve our dreams. Desire the acquisition of dreams come true as badly as you crave the air you breathe. Dare to be original by being good and principled, while upholding steadfast concrete moral values and associate with people that sustain and reciprocate the like.
“He that won’t be counseled, can’t be helped” (Benjamin Franklin). Remember that the Bible, among other wise suggestions, philosophies, and advice give extremely helpful tools to live prudent and productive lives. You must decide for yourself what works best. Please remain open-minded, while embracing PMAs. Why is it that everyone is trying to do me good?
“May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit” (Romans 15:13 NIV). For change to occur a person with a shopping problem should stay out of the mall. A drinker should stay out of the bar. A gambler should stay out of the casino. A person trying to lose weight should stay away from a buffet. It is easier to avoid temptation than it is trying to beat temptation. Acknowledging that we possess a self-created problem within ourselves allows the ability to let solutions work through and for us. That permits us to change our ways by living in a positive, progressive, forward moving, massively growing manner. As Tony Robbins advocates, “Raise your standards. Change your shoulds into musts. Stop shoulding all over yourself.”
“I promise to keep on living as though I expected to live forever. Nobody grows old by merely living a number of years. People grow old by deserting their ideals. Years may wrinkle the skin, but to give up wrinkles the soul” (Douglas MacArthur). Through proper exercise, combined with embracing dreams, attitudes, principles, moral codes, life philosophies, and ideals we can feel young at any age. Doing the most challenging exercises in any work-out regimen first, allows the body to expend more glycogen (stored usable energy), while optimally completing each exercise routine. The same principle applies toward performing the most energy-consuming tasks prior to doing less strenuous responsibilities throughout the day.
“You can make many plans, but the Lord’s purpose will prevail” (Proverbs 19:21 NLT). Don’t steal from your future just to make today easier. Discipline yourself to invest in health, wealth, and relationships, while choosing to love, learn, grow, and live your purpose. Focus on living out your principles. Bumps in the road will come, although principles remain unchanging, thus impenetrable to enemy forces. Keep on doing the right thing, despite others’ opinions and small judgmental minds. This way of living leads to personal significance and fulfillment. Raise your standards. Be you, not someone else. Don’t chase after someone else’s worldly dreams, fixated on fame, power, or excessive possessions. What gives you peace and makes you happy? You owe yourself the best of you—all of you. Be unapologetically you.
“You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’ You must do the thing you think you cannot do” (Eleanor Roosevelt). Viktor Frankl’s book, Man’s Search for Meaning, describes that his core meaning in life is to help others find meaning in theirs.⁵ A truly noble, humble, selfless, and splendid goal indeed. We can succeed as individuals and as a human race through not giving up persistent hope, purpose, and faith, both in ourselves and in the people surrounding us. Courage and resilience ignited from hope, purpose, and faith produces fuel to press on through any horror life throws at us.
“Always be a little kinder than necessary” (Sir James Matthew Barrie). Be considerate too. What kind and helpful things can you do for someone today? If we are not focusing on sharing and offering positive thoughts, deeds, peace, and kindness to the world than we can decide to change our thoughts, attitudes, vocabulary, words, actions, and behaviors before it’s too late, thus helping others and ourselves.
We harvest seedlings planted in either fertile or desolate rock and weed infested soil. Start plucking unwanted thorns and weeds from your mind, in turn, producing health, wealth, love, and joyfulness. Choose to gift yourself the blessings of eliminating devastating anger and resentment from your life, today. Unnecessary pain and suffering gradually subsides into oblivion. Call, write, or just choose to forgive.
The initial insult creating lack of oxygen or damage to the brain is usually the culprit toward later profound disability. Quality of life that does not permanently impede the functioning mind allows for hope, in turn, happiness. There are quadriplegics, people without legs and arms, individuals dependent upon a machine to act as a synthetic kidney, poverty-stricken families—all who choose happiness because it is a choice. Our thoughts, attitudes, behaviors and environments truly can create heaven or hell. The movies we play in our minds are of our making—always have been, always will be. If you don’t like the movie that’s playing, choose to make a new one or edit the existing film—Mr., Mrs. or Miss Producer.
“To teach is to learn twice” (Joseph Joubert). We grow as we learn and we learn as we grow. We learn as we teach and we teach as we learn. Teaching helps increase our own comprehension about a subject, fortifying the knowledge in our minds, like a sculptor etches together a marble statue. Every cut is important, yet the sum total creates the masterpiece. Assimilate vast knowledge, intellectually and from experiences, into all-encompassing growing understandings. New individually acquired information becomes hardwired through repetition of thought, doing, and subsequently being. We can even think and be by harmoniously thinking and feeling what we desire. Remember what the Bible depicts in Proverbs 23, “For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he.” Let’s continue developing and passing our torches of greatness so others can see brighter light as we become encapsulated in the infinite glow of health, wealth, love, and joyfulness.
“Ask the experienced rather than the learned” (Arabic proverb). Doing and experiencing something is much more effective than theory alone. Both successes and failures allow authentic compassion and understanding to stem from knowing pain and pleasure first hand. We can seek out mentors that have five to ten or more years’ experience than ourselves to facilitate beneficial guidance, advice, suggestions, and help toward acquiring our aims and overcoming life’s obstacles. Keep in mind that while seeking mentors, by rushing too quickly to the top, our questions might have been answered by people with less experience and wisdom.
Nevertheless, follow class acts and quality people only. Rid prejudices, looking for the good in others. Remember that we can learn from everyone, even if it’s what not to do. Books, podcasts, mastermind groups, and individual one-on-one in-person, telephone, e-mail, or internet platform mentorships can be very effective toward helping reach personal, emotional, health, fitness, social, relational, professional, financial, and spiritual goals. We can all teach each other valuable insights, promoting useful attitudes, behaviors, and leveraged environments (ABLE), in turn, furthering humanity for the better—one person at a time. Don’t worry about who gets credit, just give generously with heartfelt intentions.