“I can resist everything except temptation” (Oscar Wilde). Stay away from people that may tempt you into falling back and who don’t pull, push, persuade, or inspire you forward into the progression of achieving your goals, while maximizing greatness within. May your actions correspond with your needs. I will repeat this important principle multiple times, it is much easier to avoid temptation than it is trying to beat it. It’s best not to acquire the taste or bad habit to begin with. Just think of a box of donuts or cookies being put in front of you. The likelihood of succumbing to temptation is quite high, compared to pastries, pizza, or candy not being optional.
“May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit” (Romans 15:13 NIV). For change to occur a person with a shopping problem should stay out of the mall. A drinker should stay out of the bar. A gambler should stay out of the casino. A person trying to lose weight should stay away from a buffet. It is easier to avoid temptation than it is trying to beat temptation. Acknowledging that we possess a self-created problem within ourselves allows the ability to let solutions work through and for us. That permits us to change our ways by living in a positive, progressive, forward moving, massively growing manner. As Tony Robbins advocates, “Raise your standards. Change your shoulds into musts. Stop shoulding all over yourself.”
Remember, it’s much easier avoiding temptation or not acquiring the taste than it is trying to beat temptation or eradicate an acquired taste. Let’s ponder this truth while parenting or role modeling for kids and people all around us. Poor habits acquired incrementally over time creep in surreptitiously, catching us off guard. We may wonder how divorce, job loss, poor health, or an undesirable event occurred, until radically honest deep self-reflection reveals truths of neglect and mismanaged priorities. Manage yourself well—nobody will do it for you. Self-love what you owe yourself—nothing less.
“Old age ain’t no place for sissies” (Bette Davis). Old or young is not the issue as much as the decisions we make along the way. What matters most is that dash on a tombstone between the year a person is born and dies. Be mindful enough to take care of your mind, body, spirit, and soul being they must help guide and produce priceless intangibles, while lasting your entire life. How would you describe quality of life for you? Eating, drinking, tasting, conversing, walking, praying, hiking, biking, traveling, debating, listening, thinking, writing, reading, among myriads more? Live this way now, cherishing moments, for the roadmap is set in motion. Preparing one’s self, today, for what lies ahead is living on purpose. Heeding our clear visions, we can be proud of who we are, while gratefully living with wondrous quality of life throughout. Many times, we only think about such things after they are gone. How about being grateful for our blessings every day?
Nonjudgmentally taking care of perpetrators in the hospital is possible attributed to God’s grace bestowed. I thank God for not critically harming anyone because of my teenage folly and lack of direction, purpose, principles, moral code and positive life philosophy at the time. Numerous heart-breaking stories of lives cut way too short makes me ineffably sad, while motivating me to help solve the global poor decision-making pandemic.
People smoke cigarettes leading to fatal maladies, while many tragically gasp their last breaths and die from cancer, emphysema, stroke, heart attack or infection, wasting their last days stuck, fully dependent on life support. Heart disease, stroke, and peripheral vascular disease, among other ailments, due to diabetes, high blood pressure, sedentary lifestyles, neglect, noncompliance, and other preventable conditions are motivating factors toward helping stop the unnecessary early demise and poor quality of living that so many people may or may not consciously be aware they are choosing and creating for themselves. Becoming lucidly alert, vividly aware, and keenly knowledgeable about how precious and fragile life truly is before it’s too late is possible by spreading messages of hope, inspiration, and practical ways to live bountiful joy-filled lives.
Witnessing firsthand and personally experiencing too many of those aforementioned harmful effects in my life manifests deep pain and empathy for people, which is a pivotal reason for choosing to help others. A dominant universal goal regarding all spiritual realms is to mitigate pain and suffering. Caring for individuals working as an intensive care unit (ICU) nurse constantly makes me question, “Is there something we as a community, society, nation, and global enterprise can do to help prevent these tragic fatalities?” Tears of compassion and frustration well up and trickle down an anguished face, while contemplating the horrors that families of these loved ones face and endure.
“I always wondered why somebody doesn’t do something about that. Then I realized that I was somebody” (Lily Tomlin). Can such tragedies be averted? Young teenagers and adults are too often admitted for heroin overdoses with irreversible anoxic brain injuries, while ventilators keep their bodies alive as the brain swells, crushing parts of the cerebrum or spinal cord ending in brain death. All four extremities spastically and uncontrollably jerk up and down with both eyes transiently shooting open seemingly bulging from their skulls as their necrotic viscera pour out. Paralytics are administered because families do not need to witness such horror. Others drink themselves silly, which leads to irreversible pancreatitis or hepatic destruction, culminating in multisystem organ failure and subsequent death.
Even today, visualizing and feeling the glowing warmth, energy, kindness, and friendly smile radiating from a fellow high school classmate’s face 20 years later is poignantly palpable. His abundant energy, radiant countenance, joy, and ability to make others laugh was contagious. He made the tragic decision to try heroin one time, which ended his short life. Let’s decide to help others make better choices by making them for ourselves first.
“And what do you benefit if you gain the whole world but lose your own soul?” (Mark 8: 36 NLT). Moreover, harmful effects can ensue due to excessive gambling, extreme shopping, gluttonous eating, pornography, smoking, mind-numbing alcohol intoxication, and illicit drug use. Several poor behaviors mentioned above have ruined countless marriages, relationships, and even ended in fatality. Do you frivolously love and yield to bad habits more than you enjoy living in victorious freedom by loving and caring for your own mind, body, spirit, and soul? Let’s not stoop down to a level below our absolute best.
As kids, many of us probably experienced extremely painful growth spurts in our extremities. Similarly, growth pains through discomfort on the road to greatness makes us bigger, better, and stronger individuals. Be a creative problem solver by focusing on solutions. How about doing what’s uncomfortable today, thus leading to an extremely comfortable tomorrow? The temporary discomfort will dissipate into something that is a natural comfortable part of who we are. This encompasses skill, relationship, and growth building. Give that speech, ask him or her out, do the seemingly impossible. A good time to do something was yesterday, while the best time is today.
“Riches do not consist in the possession of treasures, but in the use made of them” (Napoleon Bonaparte). It is important to understand and accept that buying material items won’t create lasting happiness. It’s wonderful possessing nice things, although replaceable items will never bring long-term peace, fulfillment, and joy. Creating wonderful experiences and memories with people we love and admire, while sharing ourselves through giving our time, gifts, talents, skills, and abilities can bring lasting fulfillment and enduring joy. Use everything to create more abundance in your life. Being a producer leads to more of what really matters. Only consuming takes away without the wondrous gifts of return on time to do more of what you truly love.
“Are you angry that others disappoint you? Remember you cannot depend upon yourself” (Benjamin Franklin). Look inward for autonomy, peace, and joy, rather than seeking futile outward stimuli, people, places or things to give you what only you can gift yourself from within. Don’t be your own worst enemy. Let’s focus on improving ourselves so we can be self-reliant without being moved by outside events, opinions, or circumstances. You deserve only the best life has to offer. How about changing our attitudes toward this perspective?