Being a wonderful father or mother, son or daughter, husband or wife, an individual living out a mission or calling versus working a job or having a profession, and becoming physically, mentally, emotionally, socially, and spiritually fit, ensues through self-improvement. Growth and personal development are lifelong pursuits, which is why the persistent, relentless, courageous, and faithful individuals ascend higher than most. Winners are competing against themselves, while choosing to live without limitations, ceilings, or borders. Be boundless by embracing your true authentic self that produces real freedom and fulfillment. Remember, your opinion matters most and must guide your journey, not other people’s opinions about you. Be brave enough to believe in yourself and in the power of pursuing your dreams.
Work hard focusing on what you want, not on what you don’t desire to acquire, lest more undesirable habits or acquisitions manifest. Build your life to be fully alive, rather than just existing. You are the creator, architect, engineer, and master of you, thus progressively grow your dreams and best self from the inside out.
“It is human nature to think wisely and act foolishly” (Antatole France). If people think they should live with integrity, yet do not follow through on promises, there will be inner conflict. When we say and do what is harmoniously in sync with the internal blueprint regarding how we believe our lives, including the world around us should be, magnificent beauty and peace of mind triumphs. Integrity is only working at half its potential power when a person believes his or her integrity should be 100%, although only behaves honestly 50% of the time.
“Hateful to me as the gates of Hades is the man who hides one thing in his heart and speaks another” (Homer). More confidence and progress manifests when our character for who we think we should be matches up with who we really are. Don’t get stuck financially by a car or mortgage that hinders you from truly living out or pursuing your genuine desires. Don’t just look the part, be the part. Being is so much more fun and rewarding than pretending.
“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us” (Ralph Waldo Emerson). Right now, write down 15 character traits you like about yourself. Remember that progress only occurs by doing. Write 30 additional character traits you admire in others that you desire to acquire more of throughout your life journey. Work on developing admirable traits within yourself each day. Tomorrow is not a guarantee, therefore do what must be done, today. If this were your last day to be alive on planet earth, would you be proud of the choices, behaviors, and activities you’re partaking in? Is there someone or something you are neglecting that deeply yearns for your attention?
How likely or unlikely are you to you swap a bad habit for a good habit in the next month? Stop saying “I can’t… (fill in the blank), stop smoking” because that is linking your identity with that deadly ritual and preventing victory over the long term. Giving something bad or of lesser value for something good, great, exceptional, lifesaving and invaluable is a deal worth creating and doing. Best of all, there is enormous upside with minimal if any downside, while becoming a winner. Never short change yourself by sacrificing a thing now, for a much worthier and greater purpose that reaps impressive returns and results later.
Today, on a scale from 1-10, whereas 1 is very unlikely and 10 is extremely probable, how ready are you to begin exercising, quit smoking, eat healthy, abandon bad relationships and poor influences, decide to do or create your best work, stop spending more income than you produce, give your time and talents freely to someone without thought of return, learn something new, eradicate an alcohol or drug problem, hug and kiss your spouse and kids, recognize and rid a bad habit, clean and organize your house and car, or relentlessly love and accept yourself completely? You cannot pick number 7. After selecting your question(s) and number(s), ask yourself, “Why didn’t I choose a lower number?” If you picked the number 1, please use discretion toward seeking expert counsel in whichever area necessary.
“Success is dependent on effort” (Sophocles). Put forth the effort and work like your life depended on it, because it just might. Let your diligent habitual work ethic empower and motivate you to succeed, like oxygen keeping every cell in your body alive. Do not lower your standards, lest neglect, procrastination, and compromise devour dreams like a thief seeking to kill and destroy. Remember, we get what we tolerate, therefore settle for nothing less than your absolute best. Go to bed each night knowing you spent your passionate self completely, hence sleep like a baby without worry or concerns of any kind.
“How few there are who have courage enough to own their own faults, or resolution enough to mend them!” (Benjamin Franklin). You are where you are, period. Acknowledge and own poor choices, while forgiving, learning, correcting, and moving on. Look problems head on by making a commitment to your commitment about rectifying any issue currently faced with. Don’t run from a problem or dwell on it, which only reinforces that issue or destructive behavior. We are all in a constant state of change whether we are aware of it or not. If you want to change where or who you are, then do something about it by changing yourself intentionally. Habits change the moment we decide to actively pursue change and do something different, therefore producing new results. Changing your ways is up to you, and you alone.
“Success usually comes to those who are too busy to be looking for it” (Henry David Thoreau). Focus on your passions and dreams with unstoppable self-discipline. Live life enthusiastically and invigorated while pursuing your dreams, not forgetting priorities and high personal intrinsic standards. The consistent self-discipline, determination, drive, work-ethic, perseverance, and desire for greatness must come from within each one of us. Progress is an inevitable result.