How likely or unlikely are you to you swap a bad habit for a good habit in the next month? Stop saying “I can’t… (fill in the blank), stop smoking” because that is linking your identity with that deadly ritual and preventing victory over the long term. Giving something bad or of lesser value for something good, great, exceptional, lifesaving and invaluable is a deal worth creating and doing. Best of all, there is enormous upside with minimal if any downside, while becoming a winner. Never short change yourself by sacrificing a thing now, for a much worthier and greater purpose that reaps impressive returns and results later.
Today, on a scale from 1-10, whereas 1 is very unlikely and 10 is extremely probable, how ready are you to begin exercising, quit smoking, eat healthy, abandon bad relationships and poor influences, decide to do or create your best work, stop spending more income than you produce, give your time and talents freely to someone without thought of return, learn something new, eradicate an alcohol or drug problem, hug and kiss your spouse and kids, recognize and rid a bad habit, clean and organize your house and car, or relentlessly love and accept yourself completely? You cannot pick number 7. After selecting your question(s) and number(s), ask yourself, “Why didn’t I choose a lower number?” If you picked the number 1, please use discretion toward seeking expert counsel in whichever area necessary.
“Success is dependent on effort” (Sophocles). Put forth the effort and work like your life depended on it, because it just might. Let your diligent habitual work ethic empower and motivate you to succeed, like oxygen keeping every cell in your body alive. Do not lower your standards, lest neglect, procrastination, and compromise devour dreams like a thief seeking to kill and destroy. Remember, we get what we tolerate, therefore settle for nothing less than your absolute best. Go to bed each night knowing you spent your passionate self completely, hence sleep like a baby without worry or concerns of any kind.
“How few there are who have courage enough to own their own faults, or resolution enough to mend them!” (Benjamin Franklin). You are where you are, period. Acknowledge and own poor choices, while forgiving, learning, correcting, and moving on. Look problems head on by making a commitment to your commitment about rectifying any issue currently faced with. Don’t run from a problem or dwell on it, which only reinforces that issue or destructive behavior. We are all in a constant state of change whether we are aware of it or not. If you want to change where or who you are, then do something about it by changing yourself intentionally. Habits change the moment we decide to actively pursue change and do something different, therefore producing new results. Changing your ways is up to you, and you alone.
“Success usually comes to those who are too busy to be looking for it” (Henry David Thoreau). Focus on your passions and dreams with unstoppable self-discipline. Live life enthusiastically and invigorated while pursuing your dreams, not forgetting priorities and high personal intrinsic standards. The consistent self-discipline, determination, drive, work-ethic, perseverance, and desire for greatness must come from within each one of us. Progress is an inevitable result.
“A good example is the best sermon. None preaches better than the ant, and she says nothing” (Benjamin Franklin). Transforming our own attitudes, beliefs, values, principles, behaviors, responses, perceptions, life philosophies, and total intrinsic and extrinsic environments is the surest way to help others reform themselves in a positive and forward growing manner. Ants work hard and never stop looking for ways to flourish, seeking food to harvest, building, and preparing for their future accordingly, during each season. We can even learn from ants.
“He who angers you conquers you” (Elizabeth Kenny). Arguing leaves one and typically both sides at a loss, especially in marital relationships and through argumentative parenting. Do not be a fault finder and persistently tell people what they are doing wrong. Instead, genuinely praise the other person first and then make your requests known tactfully. Ask yourself what the other person wants that will encourage, inspire, and motivate him or her to accomplish a specific objective. Don’t become angry and let fuming out on others only reap their resentment and possible defiance in return.
“Anger is never without a reason, but seldom with a good one” (Benjamin Franklin). We cannot be peaceful and angry at the same time. Remember, delay smothers and soothes the blazing fiery emotions of anger. People may not recall what you said, but they remember how you made them feel. Do not let your emotions of anger fester overnight being our subconscious minds are constantly working for or against us 24 hours daily. Minimize and eradicate anger by using your conscious mind to forgive and give thanks, often. Gratitude leads to happiness, not the other way around.
Don’t be confined to living within the boundaries of a box by allowing a title or diploma dictate who you are or what you’re capable of becoming. You are a wonderful and miraculous child of God with untapped, yet infinite potential. Ask, seek, and find your calling so the universe can become infinitely better because you traveled through. Don’t ever give up seeking, asking or trying. Your time is now, therefore live deliberately, while valuing the moments. Remember that our moments create our lives and it only takes a moment to eternally change darkness into light. Constantly and persistently do more good, receive an abundance of blessings, and pay it forward in order to sow fertile seeds of love, peace, hope, joy, and goodness overflowing. Make your life matter as time evaporates into eternity.
“You can get a lot farther with a kind word and a gun than a kind word alone” (Al Capone). If a gun was held to your head or that of a family member and you were told you must stop a bad habit to prevent death, you could do it. That is called intrinsic motivation. We don’t want to coerce anyone, although we must sell ourselves in order to achieve our dreams. Desire the acquisition of dreams come true as badly as you crave the air you breathe. Dare to be original by being good and principled, while upholding steadfast concrete moral values and associate with people that sustain and reciprocate the like.
One decision can change the entire trajectory and destiny of our lives. Hanging out with a gang or the wrong crowd can lead to mischief, pain, suffering, and even death. If you associate with pigs you will get dirty, and the pigs will like it. Eradicate toxic people like a bad habit. While being truly serious about change, similar to stopping smoking, cold turkey typically works best.