“As I grow older, I pay less attention to what men say. I just watch what they do” (Andrew Carnegie). We must raise the bar high and do what we should do on a daily consistent basis whether we feel like it or not. Positive character development and reformation is absolutely possible and within your control. Decide to be, do, and give your best.
“It is human nature to think wisely and act foolishly” (Antatole France). If people think they should live with integrity, yet do not follow through on promises, there will be inner conflict. When we say and do what is harmoniously in sync with the internal blueprint regarding how we believe our lives, including the world around us should be, magnificent beauty and peace of mind triumphs. Integrity is only working at half its potential power when a person believes his or her integrity should be 100%, although only behaves honestly 50% of the time.
“Hateful to me as the gates of Hades is the man who hides one thing in his heart and speaks another” (Homer). More confidence and progress manifests when our character for who we think we should be matches up with who we really are. Don’t get stuck financially by a car or mortgage that hinders you from truly living out or pursuing your genuine desires. Don’t just look the part, be the part. Being is so much more fun and rewarding than pretending.
“Doing the best at this moment puts you in the best place for the next moment” (Oprah Winfrey). Each day for the next 30 days read that list of character traits and continue adding to it. Be truthful to yourself, while diligently striving to develop the best of you. You deserve the best and your family deserves your best, therefore you owe it to yourself to become the best version of yourself, starting right now.
“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us” (Ralph Waldo Emerson). Right now, write down 15 character traits you like about yourself. Remember that progress only occurs by doing. Write 30 additional character traits you admire in others that you desire to acquire more of throughout your life journey. Work on developing admirable traits within yourself each day. Tomorrow is not a guarantee, therefore do what must be done, today. If this were your last day to be alive on planet earth, would you be proud of the choices, behaviors, and activities you’re partaking in? Is there someone or something you are neglecting that deeply yearns for your attention?
“Kindness is more important than wisdom, and the recognition of this is the beginning of wisdom” (Theodore Isaac Rubin). Build your self-esteem and grow positive prosperous behaviors while intentionally being kind to yourself and others. Know that we can learn to acquire any character traits desired.
Another Tony Robbins saying is “Where focus goes energy flows.”⁸ Many entrepreneurs and successful people in life use a laser-beam focus to achieve and hit their desired targets. Now, it’s your turn to accomplish and unleash greatness within. As the Nike slogan states, “Just do it.”
Are you fearful? Do it anyway! Ardent desires backed by your whys, self-belief, and united with colossal immediate action are vital ingredients toward producing massive forward momentum that leads to continual progressive growth and making your dreams a reality.
Prioritize what you want in major categories of your life. This includes relationships, parenting, education, spirituality, mindset, personal-growth, health, work, finances, and giving back to society and the world. List a minimum of five things you desire to achieve in each category during the upcoming one to five years. Following is an example of my desires. Make your goals relative to meeting your unique desires, needs, expectations, and standards set for yourself. Remember, this is about what you can do, not someone else, and not trying to change anyone, except you. Relationships can be many….
|Spouse||Say I love you upon awakening and departure, or more.||Perpetually date her as though we are first meeting.||Hug her daily and kiss her each night before bed, or more often.||Be fully present and engaged while listening.||Authentically care about and encourage her dreams.|
|Child||Say I love you and hug him two times daily, or more.||Read to him for 20 minutes daily, or more.||Together, play a game he enjoys twice weekly, or more.||Go someplace new once monthly, or more.||Ask and support what he is passionate about consistently.|
|Friend||Genuinely listen, love, and laugh.||Ask if he is upholding his moral codes?||Tell him I appreciate him.||Go on an adventure together.||Ask, “How can I help?”|
|Parenting||Teach the difference between right and wrong.||Show consistent unconditional love and acceptance.||Maintain boundaries backed with high standards or expectations, values, and principles.||Know his friends.||Tell him that he can come to me about anything at any time. Maintain trust and open communication.|
|Education||Write and publish a book to help people make positive life-producing choices.||Learn two new words, daily.||Step outside my comfort zone daily.||Read daily for at least 30 minutes.||Teach others what you learn through writing, speaking, and blogging.|
|Spiritual||Pray with a thankful heart throughout the day.||Live joyfully by being peaceful and grateful.||Engage with like-minded people offering hope and encouragement.||Read the Bible, devotionals or inspirational books daily.||Go off in nature for 20 plus minutes while meditating on its’ beauty at least twice weekly.|
|Mindset||Write for at least 10 minutes each day in a gratitude journal.||Self-reflect upon what is learned and done daily.||Listen to positive and inspiring podcasts, books or videos daily.||Read about uplifting stories of triumph daily.||Desire an abundance of health, wealth, love, and joy in the lives of everyone that comes my way.|
|Personal-growth||Be vulnerable by sharing life victories to help others.||Do what makes you uncomfortable, daily.||Read and write for 20 minutes or more, daily.||Read your goals and look at your vision boards three times daily.||Persevere by never, never, never, never, giving in or giving up on your passionate dreams.|
|Health||Exercise five times weekly, or more.||Eat mostly foods that are natural without synthetic fillers.||Be mindful of your thoughts, attitudes, beliefs, and principles.||Ceaselessly, love and totally accept yourself, daily.||Know your triggers and maintain the rituals that minimize stressors and tempters, while maximizing the best version of yourself.|
|Work||Show empathy.||Help frequently.||Enhance my current skill-sets and knowledge.||Add more value by learning new skills.||Mentor and role model for others.|
|Finances||Pay yourself at least 10% first, no matter what.||Do not borrow money, except for your mortgage and education.||Focus on income as being the outcome.||Patiently be in it for the long term, while building assets and minimizing liabilities.||Think of ways to add more value to many.|
|Giving||Give free seminars and speaking events about enhancing quality of life.||Share my time generously with my family and friends.||Share monetary resources with causes I believe in.||Teach about health techniques to prevent pain and suffering, while maximizing energy and joy.||Give or create in yourself the tools necessary to offer more to your family and the world.|
“Strong reasons make strong actions” (William Shakespeare). Next, make a list of as many reasons why you want to accomplish those aims. The more whys in each category can make something on your list that was once number one priority, change to number three or four, while number two or five moves into the first place slot. Whichever target in each category has the most reasons why it is important and purpose-driven for you to achieve that objective, make it your number one priority and develop a single-minded focus on accomplishing those specific goals first. You can still do the others, just put more conscious effort into your primary focus.
The insightful, practical, and applicable Bible advises, “Ask and you shall receive.” Formulate your own powerful questions and receive superior answers toward solving problems. Be the solution to your own problems, circumstances, situations, goals, dreams, or desires, today. Nobody owns your thoughts, attitudes, beliefs, behaviors, dreams, life philosophies, destiny or life, except you. Practice outgiving everyone around you in terms of being better than anyone else expects from you. Under promise and over deliver.
“If I can stop one heart from breaking, if I can ease one pain, then my life will not have been in vain” (Emily Elizabeth Dickinson). Remember that motive matters greatly. Relationships of great value are truly invaluable. Focus your time and resources upon adding value to the human condition by generously helping others with your time, talents, skills, gifts, and abilities.