“Don’t be surly at home, then go out in the street and start grinning “Good morning” at total strangers” (Maya Angelou). If you have children and a family, consider starting to become better there first. Family must be the primary initial and lasting focus in order to be genuinely peaceful and successful. Remain fully engaged, attentive, loving, caring, and giving toward your loved ones first and foremost. Paradoxically, improving and loving yourself first allows the best of you to rub off on those you love most.
“Men occasionally stumble over the truth, but most of them pick themselves up and hurry on as if nothing had happened” (Sir Winston Churchill). We must courageously heed truth when it helps us make a positive difference in our lives, in turn, in the lives of others. Let’s stop wasting our invaluable time and begin living meaningfully focused, purpose-driven lives. Time and truths have the potential to heal all wounds. Why not allow healing to begin?
Being polite while asking thoughtfully can facilitate a request being granted. Jettison the notion that it is easier to do something, subsequently asking for forgiveness, than requesting permission in the first place. Consideration by using please and thank you shows appreciation, in turn, increasing the likelihood that further desirable gifts and harmonious cooperation will continue. Simple manners of respect, kindness, reciprocation and hard work pay massive dividends over the long-term.
“A mature person is one who does not only think in absolutes, who is able to be objective even when deeply stirred emotionally, who has learned that there is both good and bad in all people and all things, and who walks humbly and deals charitably with the circumstances of life” (Eleanor Roosevelt). View life in triads of opinions, advice, expertise, and suggestions. Professionals and skilled individuals may believe they ultimately have your best interests or solutions at hand, while reality and reason points out three drastically opposing views. Seeking out multiple physicians within different specialties regarding treatment modalities can reveal optimal strategies producing superior outcomes. Similar philosophies hold true regarding seeking out great advice from people that have 10 to 20 years further experience beyond ourselves about the dealings in life we desire to victoriously overcome or goals we ardently want to achieve. Be humble, patient, merciful, and grateful, while crossing every person’s path, as these are signs of real maturity.
“It is human nature to think wisely and act foolishly” (Antatole France). How are your actions representing your thoughts? Would you be proud to share all sound and video footage of thoughts and acts taking place behind closed doors? All of us have shortcomings we are not proud of. Let’s re-examine our life principles, moral codes, philosophies, and standards. Prioritize values and virtues that hold the most conviction and noble clout, while persistently putting them into practice each day. Actions truly do speak resoundingly louder than words, although describe our thoughts more. Be emotionally skillful and mature, behaving in a controlled manner, taking responsibility for all actions and subsequent good and bad consequences, while patiently walking or running through this joyous life.
“In the long run, we shape our lives, and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility” (Eleanor Roosevelt). Take accountability for who and where you are in life. If you desire exponential positive forward progress and something radically different from what you are currently experiencing, definitively decide to valiantly make dreams happen, while never getting stuck stewing in the review mirror. Each day is brand new, full of opportunity and potential. Similarly, you can reinvent yourself daily by heeding wonderful possibilities toward further growth and graciously developing additional gifts, talents, skills, and abilities to give to our magnificent universe.
People don’t become unhealthy because of 10% of what they eat, but 90% of consumption. We manifest fruits of love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control from 90% of what we think, do, believe, give, and whom we associate with; not the typical 10%. Do not be misguided by the 10%, lest 10% be transformed into a greater unwarranted amount. Choose the best for your life and the lives of others.
In the book, Good to Great, Jim Collins writes about findings from many years of research which vitally conclude that what matters most in great companies are having the right people on the bus. The bus can go anywhere and the people will succeed because they have unified goals and beliefs toward a specific mission.⁹ Our personal lives are not much different. By surrounding ourselves with morally superb, intelligent, and creative people enthusiastically sharing our visions, we, in turn, have wonderful potential and probability to become great too. Let’s choose only quality individuals to associate with most of the time.
“I can resist everything except temptation” (Oscar Wilde). Stay away from people that may tempt you into falling back and who don’t pull, push, persuade, or inspire you forward into the progression of achieving your goals, while maximizing greatness within. May your actions correspond with your needs. I will repeat this important principle multiple times, it is much easier to avoid temptation than it is trying to beat it. It’s best not to acquire the taste or bad habit to begin with. Just think of a box of donuts or cookies being put in front of you. The likelihood of succumbing to temptation is quite high, compared to pastries, pizza, or candy not being optional.
“May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit” (Romans 15:13 NIV). For change to occur a person with a shopping problem should stay out of the mall. A drinker should stay out of the bar. A gambler should stay out of the casino. A person trying to lose weight should stay away from a buffet. It is easier to avoid temptation than it is trying to beat temptation. Acknowledging that we possess a self-created problem within ourselves allows the ability to let solutions work through and for us. That permits us to change our ways by living in a positive, progressive, forward moving, massively growing manner. As Tony Robbins advocates, “Raise your standards. Change your shoulds into musts. Stop shoulding all over yourself.”