”The fear of the Lord is to hate evil. But love covers all sins. Wise people store up knowledge. But he who restrains his lips is wise. The merciful man does good for his own soul. But the righteous will come through trouble. A man will be satisfied with good by the fruit of his mouth. But counselors of peace will have joy. But those who deal truthfully are His delight. The heart of him who has understanding seeks knowledge.” (Proverbs 8:13; 10: 12, 14, 19; 11:17; 12:13, 14, 20, 22; 15:14 NKJV). Becoming aware of an underlying etiology or cause about why we feel or behave certain ways can lead to personal freedom. With liberation comes greater responsibility to always be and do our best. Understanding builds wings like eagles, the problems may not go away, yet we can rise above them. Intrinsic conflicts and personal pain or suffering remain choices. The decisions lie in our heightened awareness and willingness to heal.
“The way to develop self-confidence is to do the thing you fear and get a record of successful experiences behind you. Destiny is not a matter of chance, it is a matter of choice; it is not a thing to be waited for, it is a thing to be achieved” (William Jennings Bryan). Decide and do, sticking with plans until targets are hit. You will want to give up at times—don’t! Our beliefs, feelings, attitudes, principles, decisions, and values are key components that guide our self-image, self-confidence, self-worth, identity, thoughts, ideas, actions, behaviors, habits, and lifestyle. Whatever is on our minds is at the tip of our tongue or slip of our tongue. We can consciously focus on what we desire to think, say, do, feel, have, be, and give, thus work toward obtaining those desired results. Ideally, start with responsible love. Choose which path to take today, in turn, carving your own road toward or away from internal freedom. Demand responsibility for the past, present, and future you. Though there are varying definitions of liberty, ultimate freedom is being able to do what you want, when you want to do it, while intrinsically increasing love, peace, joy, fortitude, empathy, compassion, passion, fulfillment, helpfulness, understanding, and potentialities. What is your definition about personal freedom and why?
Do not feel guilt over the past, just thank God for grace bestowed. Forgiving ourselves and others only requires one sincere accepting liberating gift. Gifts are not earned and nothing is meant to be given in return. Why perpetually suffer for the same sin over and over again? Sin being an act committed against your own better judgement. Justice only demands, but one consequence—the internal misery or joy durations are choices. Forgive and move onward, upward, and heavenward toward dreams come true. We can create heaven of hell and hell of heaven. These life-changing decisions are ours to make. Live confidently by choosing wise thoughts, attitudes, behaviors, and environments, now into infinity and beyond.
“Whoever destroys a single life is as guilty as though he had destroyed the entire world; and whoever rescues a single life earns as much merit as though he had rescued the entire world” (The Talmud). Be vigilant about who you are and what you say and do because others are watching and listening, therefore being impacted whether you know it or not. Words have the power to kill or give new life. Words are like the ripples in a placid pond after a rock is thrown, sending vibrations of love or hate into our world. Be aware about how you speak—in verbiage, day-to-day conversation, silence, tone, enthusiasm, influence, and writing. Is love emanating from you?
“We are what we repeatedly do, excellence is therefore not an act but a habit” (Aristotle). Habits start with our thoughts, leading to emotions or feelings, words uttered, actions and behaviors, habits or routines, which all working together form our lifestyles and destiny. These patterns can be either positive or negative, therefore we must consciously choose helpful ways to live for maximizing magnificent results. What has been learned can be unlearned. What has been conditioned can be reconditioned. What has been programmed can be reprogrammed. We can choose how to respond to both internal and external stimuli. Those choices exist between the impetus and response. In time our repetitive behavior becomes automatic.
Let’s remember not to perspire when we ought to be sweating. Work ethic encompasses unstoppable diligent effort toward architecting our lives how we wish with the cards dealt to us. There will be ebbs and flows of highs and lows, although maximize the voyage by becoming full of joy, vigor, enthusiasm, and tranquility along our ABLE quest to greatness. Curiosity and desire, combined with helping others is key to our daily vitality. A simple smile or sincere complement is useful and uplifting for all. Who have you helped today?
“Time ripens all things; no man is born wise” (Miguel de Cervantes). You’ll soon know whether or not you passionately enjoy something worthy of your time, talents, skills, and abilities. Fervently placing your heart, soul, and mind into the blood, sweat, and tears of your dreams and desires elicits understanding, inducing potential to cultivate wisdom, and with wisdom, greater understanding. This awareness and enlightenment can become fuel that ignites perseverance, which overpowers yielding to doubt and fear.
Be brave enough to try new things, go new places, form new relationships, and forgive—letting go completely, while loving more deeply. We can learn much by doing, instead of passively sitting on the side lines of life, becoming more futilely dependent upon others for our happiness and everyday personal responsibilities. Passive dependent personality disorder is not uncommon. The character flaws can be remedied through acknowledging they exist.
Awareness is the first step in all healing. Let’s take responsibility for our own lives, not enabling others’ dependence, only encouraging autonomous greatness from within—by doing and believing our part. Acts of service for others are wonderful modalities toward remedying fretful maladies, in turn, becoming more grateful through the process. Live free from anxiety and worry—enjoying who you are and what you have. Think not of lack or deleterious envy, only abundance of blessings in your life.
Strong feelings and beliefs have the power to transform our identities, as long as they facilitate positive actions. Motion is the precursor to emotion, while emotion generates action too. Make self-discipline or self-restraint priority in life, coupled with utter responsibility for who you are and who you desire to be. Self-control and being personally accountable is proof that we possess self-worth and care about ourselves as valuable individuals, worthy of loving and being loved. We are lovable because we are demonstrating love to ourselves first. Give away gifts of love in order to grow more loving. Don’t conform to others’ opinions or societal standards; be and nourish your beautiful self.
“In the province of the mind, what one believes to be true either is true or becomes true” (John Lilly). Think about your thinking because thoughts become reality. Additionally, strong feelings make for strong action. While motion or behaviors can be the precursor to emotions, feelings can generate long-term behavior and perceptual change. Allowing the mind and body to be in harmony with both thinking and acting creates potential ripples of greatness. Thoughts have power to morph into moods and automatic reactions, which when lingering long enough, becomes part of who we are. Continual hard work, determination, willingness, self-reflection, personal awareness, and persistence are crucial keys toward sustaining transformative lives. Be passionate about what you’re doing and give it all you’ve got. Decide to be someone great because everyone else is taken.