Stop succumbing to the demands of others, only to live in resentment. Don’t live to strictly please anybody, including your spouse, parents, or society. Do what makes you truly happy. Be your own grown up individual, not dependent upon anyone for self-reliance, peace or joyfulness. Harmony will come to your relationships by being authentically you. Working hard to achieve another’s vision or goals, only to find they are not your own path to happiness is unnecessary. Let your yes be yes and no be no. Give no excuses for responses, staying true to you, always doing your best. Speak, write, and do only what you believe to be true so your conscience remains clear. Being brutally truthful, sell or influence yourself prior to actively listening, understanding, and persuading another. Practice this gracefully until your dying day. Take 100% responsibility for your life in order to obtain real freedom and personal joy.