Eradicating Bad Habits

“A habit cannot be tossed out the window; it must be coaxed down the stairs one step at a time” (Mark Twain). Focus on eradicating one poor ritual at a time. Replacing the bad habit with a positive, productive, and repetitive practice can eliminate the poor routine from one’s life. Setting a definitive time in the future, no longer than three months out, to stop smoking can build positive anticipation that facilitates the cessation process. Physical symptoms, such as anxiety, insomnia, and irritability may last up to two weeks. After that short duration the winning battle is in the mind. The time and trouble to become healthier is extremely short compared to the wonderful life-giving payoff. Sugarless gum or candy, coupled with physical activity can help tremendously.

Overcoming Addiction

A cigarette smoker addicted to nicotine can allow the nicotine to dominate his or her thoughts, moods, actions, time, and health or the individual can take control and eradicate the poor habit, forever. Nicotine not only triggers the release of dopamine, which binds to dopanergic receptors, but can even create more dendritic dopamine receptors. Because of the increased dopamine receptors people can develop more of a tolerance that requires additional nicotine to acquire the same effects. Don’t say, “I can’t stop smoking.” Why worry about a shot not going in before you’ve even taken it? All shots not taken don’t go in. Try try again until successful. Believe that you can and do it. Once you stop, think of yourself as a nonsmoker, saying, “I don’t smoke.”

There Is Greatness In You

Accepting ourselves completely, striving to become better, and living by example are practical ways to win at the game of life. We must not aim for perfection, which can be tormenting and is not obtainable. Let’s shoot for the stars and live an extraordinary life full of goal achievement and vitality. There is greatness in each of you, not yet realized.

Influence

“A teacher affects eternity; he can never tell where his influence stops” (Henry Adams). Recognize that you have wonderful assets to offer and edify the world. Never stop believing in your dreams or ability to help empower, inspire, motivate, and transform lives. See in others what they may not see in themselves, while encouraging growth, progress, potential, and forward momentum. Lead or get out of the way. Possibilities and opportunities are endless when people are bound by nothing and believe in the can-do capable power of themselves, subsequently making dreams come true. A key pivotal difference between you and every person that accomplishes great things in life is that they persevere longer, while diligently striving toward personal passionate endeavors.

Helping Others

“Mishaps are like knives that either serve us or cut us as we grasp them by the blade or the handle” (James Russell Lowell). Our attitudes toward our past and present circumstances can lead us toward joy or misery, which is always a choice. We can help each other become great by teaching people what to do, as well as what not to do in order to expedite a victorious joy-filled journey. Be vulnerable enough to tell your stories of both victory and failure in order to help others know what to do, as well as what not to do, while venturing along their expedition. Being bold, courageous, and humble enough to do this has profound potential to lead people into their greatness.

Giving Gifts of Yourself

“If you’re not making mistakes, you’re not trying hard enough” (Vince Lombardi). We can help people with similar troubles that we triumphantly overcame, by genuinely desiring to help others get out of life what they truly want. Care, empathy, and understanding manifests within us due to our experiences, attitudes, and perceptions, therefore we can relate to the quandaries that others are going through.

Transformational Attitudes

“Experience is not what happens to you, it is what you do with what happens to you” (Aldous Huxley). Develop the attitude that life happens for you and not to you. Blunders can become wonderful blessings in our lives once we accept, remedy, and forgive ourselves and others. Acknowledge the mistakes from our choices, as well as unspeakably unjust cruelties done to us have made us into who we are today. Now, with these PMAs and enlightened acknowledgement, understanding that life happens for us and not to us can profoundly transform our lives.

Making Mistakes Assets

“A man must be big enough to admit his mistakes, smart enough to profit from them, and strong enough to correct them” (John C. Maxwell). Mistakes because of neglect and ignorance, combined with a lack of direction, meaning, and purpose have the potential to sway others toward or away from doing the same. Make mistakes by striving to do what you ardently desire, rather than because of laziness and neglect.

Making Messages From Messes

Dananjaya Gettiarachichi gave an elegant speech about change. He described that mothers cry tears of joy, sorrow, and shame. After flunking out of high school and getting arrested at 17 years old his mom’s tears of shame created in him a reason to transform his ways and become a better human being. Through exploration and taking risks by doing, Dananjaya graduated from college and still didn’t know what to do with his life. He continued searching and found he had a gift toward inspiring others to make wise choices in life. Through training at toastmasters, Dananjaya’s discovery that he was a phenomenal speaker became known. He won the world championship of public speaking in 2014.¹⁷ He made his mess his message.

Choosing Success

Why do some people succeed, while others do not? It’s easy to, and it’s easy not to. Once we get momentum by pushing that snowball up the hill and then letting it coast down the mountain while growing in size and speed with ease, our lives become much more fruitful.

“Anything in life worth having is worth working for” (Andrew Carnegie). The instant we decide to do something and act upon that choice we begin to grow. Life is about progress, growth, purpose, and giving. We can do what’s easy today and live a difficult life, or we can do what’s hard now and live an easy life. I choose the latter and hope you do the same.